Sex is your biggest enemy-S.O.B. syndrome

[Royal Elite]

The biggest factor, and the cause of the root of 99.9% of guys problems with women and dating is S.O.B. (sex on the brain) syndrome. In layman's term that is when 99.9% of the decisions one makes is centered around sex.

Most guys entire interections with women at there core are based around not saying the wrong thing, so she will have sex with me, saying the right thing so she will have sex with me, not talking about boring subjects so she wont get bored and not want to have sex with me, being ****ey and funny so I can impress her and she will have sex with me, blah, blah, sex, sex, blah sex nlp sex, patterns sex, social status sex, pretty boy sex, kino sex, sex, sex, sex..

S.O.B. cause brain freeze which causes most guys to be self conscious. People give advice as to "act like you do when you are around your friends" but that is the effect not the cause. The reason you act relaxed and calm, and sure about yourself is because around your friends you don't have S.O.B. Syndrome.

99% of the post here when it comes to questions about dating are all based on S.O.B. even with guys in LTR. Guys in LTR try to adopt personas that will make their women see them as so interested that they wont want to have sex with another man, but often all this does it make you change from the guy she fell in love with to someone she doesn't like and she ends up having sex with someone else anyway.

When you stop letting sex be your motivating factor the interections you have with women will flow, and be comfortable, as well as allow you time and energy to improve your life. S.O.B. Syndrome clouds your brain, thoughts, and logical funtions.

Think about it, there are 1000's of post here, which some of you have read and yet a lot of guys are still just as confused when interecting in the real world with women. Why you ask? Because most of the tips here are designed to make you the type of man that women will want to have "sex" with. So by following the tips you often get a worse case of S.O.B. syndrome when trying to follow them, and you become just as if not more confused then before you read any tips.

The key to dealing with women, and also to improve you life, is to not have S.O.B. syndrome. The entire universe knows that "men want sex" so guess what homey, you never have to chase it, or announce it, "everyone knows".

 

[b's nuts]

this is all very true, i think this is why some guys will rub one out before a date, which usually works for me.

 

[frivolousz21]

I can see where this makes sense.

but it might not be for everyone..when I go out and go anywhere and see someone attractive..I think to myself...I want to **** her..or I want to get to know her because she is attractive for me to have as a gf that I will be ****ing.


Im not going to stop myself from the fact that I love sex so much....

when I am excited about the idea of going out to meet women that I could potentially mate..thats when I do my best..because I am in the mood for it.

just my 3 cents

 

[Royal Elite]

Re: I am too new at this....

Originally posted by SODA-dj
If sex isn't your motivating factor for meeting women then what is?!

I don't need to think about sex to want sex, it is a natural automatic response. Thoughts happens so fast in the human mind that it seems almost instantanious to see a girl and want sex. Because of this I dont need to "fixate" on that fact. I know right away, I feel attracted to her, so now the "sexual state" I instantly push to the back. My next thought process is now Im going to get to know her so see if it "might" happen, becasue I dont care how fine she is, there is things she can do to make me so screw this.

When sex is your "prime and only motivation" you will do anything to get it, including swallow any type of self pride and common sense you have.

There is a common understanding taught by most self help guru's called the power of intention. This states that once you focus your mind on your intent, your brain's only thoughts will be to get that. So basically your every waking thought becomes trying to get that intention. This isnt good with women because you become so self conscious around women wondering if you are going to get sex any time soon. Of all my sexual accounters, the easiest ones I can always recall were the times I wasn't trying to get any in any shape way fashion or form, and ironically the hardest times for me getting azz was always the times I was chasing it.

I have learned at this age that "chasing sex" is considered one of the biggest signs of "immaturity" to women, and "mature" men. I use to think that it was cute to other people that you are a "man" and men want sex so you should let them know this, but I have learned through observation and trail and error that that behavior makes you come across as a child.

As long as you have balls in between your legs everyone knows you are a man, and everyone knows you want sex. Acting like it is the equvalient of the wealthy business man bragging about every thing he has to everyone he meets. If you are that sucessful everyone already knows this.

 

[Yuriy777]

If sex isn't your motivating factor for meeting women then what is?!

Mine is more for the company.
Although most likely it will continue to sex that shouldn't be the only factor.
I mean sex is great and all but i don't think that just going out and ****ing every girl out there is going to be all as satisfying as you may think.
Also, sex is more enjoyable if you've made at least some connection with the person whether that connection is deep and spiritual, or just the spontaneity of doing something crazy like taking a girl that you’ve been dancing with into the storage room at a club.
Although I must admit I do enjoy going out with different girls and having spontaneous sex with them you must remember that it must be just that (if that’s what you’re going for).

Although sometimes some of us go out just looking for a new person to sleep with, a real DJ doesn’t just go out to find someone to sleep with that night. He goes out to meet people to have a great time doing just about anything, whether it’s dancing at a night club, taking a girl for a walk on the beach, or just simply taking her home after a night out, sex is not the determining force for whether you’re enjoying yourself or not!


If all you’re going for is sex and nothing else, you will come off that way and you won’t be getting any.

 

[MrHarris]

Re: I am too new at this....

Originally posted by SODA-dj
If sex isn't your motivating factor for meeting women then what is?!

1. Love of a woman
2. Companionship
3. Entertainment
4. The feel of a woman
5. The smell of a woman
6. The benefits of someone paying for your dates or drinks

Just to name a few.

Sex is the icing on the cake. The end root but it doesn't have to be the starting point.

.

 

[Royal Elite]

Re: Re: I am too new at this....

Originally posted by MrHarris

Sex is the icing on the cake. The end root but it doesn't have to be the starting point.

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I love this right here.

It like trying to climb mt everest by starting at the very top that makes no sense.

 

[Royal Elite]

Once you get over S.O.B. syndrome you will also notice that this board will become like the code in the matrix. There are a lot of life lessons, as well as stimulating topics of conversation here once you get past sex on the brain syndrome. You will see things on this board, you never really paid attention too when you r entire goal was just getting laid.
When sex is your only mission this board is really redundant after a while, but once you get pass S.O.B. syn. the oppurtunties to learn, grow, and network here beomes limitless.

 

[squirrels]

bump

 

[rgeere]

This is also why gay men have no problems with women liking them and surrounding them. They don't have an attraction to them and act themselves around them.

 

[ketostix]

I'm sure this is good advice for some guys, but I'm not so sure that a guy's internal agenda for approaching a girl makes that much difference. If women already assume you have sex on the brain, not having sex on the brain alone isn't going to change that. Women aren't psychic or telepathic.

Nice guys often times don't have sex on the brain (because they don't even believe they can get it), and that doesn't help them.The whole point here is to persuade a woman to give you something that you want. It's all about attraction, if the girl's attracted she'll give, and if she's not attracted she'll be a cold bytch.
I see your point where having SOB could make you to outcome dependent, and if you verbalize SOB your target might throw up her anti-slut defense..but a guy can be outcome dependent on anything too, e.g., getting a number, making the conversation interesting, getting a date, getting her attracted..any number of things besides want sex.Honestly most women don't have much to offer but their sex.

I don't mean to step on your advice, on the contrary, just obtain a truer concept.

 

[PRMoon]

I'm more about the thrill of the hunt then I am the sex itself before I've slept with a girl. There's something about those moments leading up to getting with a girl for the first (and potentially only) time that make the prelude to the waltz the best time I ever have with girls.

At times when I do take on a g/f I try to make it a good choice. A good one should be like your parnter-in-crime and being with her should have the same comfort level to you as being alone. Sex during a relationship is just a bonus to what should be a good way to lead your life.

I never look at sex as being too big of an issue in my life. Not saying I can just think it and I'll have some girl over here, but I know what I have to do to go out and get it. So it really doesn't dominate my mind. What I do think about most of the time is how I can pay these bills I think I need to focus less on the girls and more on the dead prezidents.

 

[MacDiddy]

This is lunacy.... Royal, have you field tested this theory out??? ..... what you are asking is for us to turn off billions of years of evolution so we can be more successful with women??? SOB is a powerful motivator. There will never be anything more powerful than that to ensure that we have to succeed with women..... or else....

While I think you are trying to think outside the square... I reckon it will only work if every guy has no SOB, and then it will be the chicks that will have to do the chasing.....

 

[undesputable]

I think that this SOB sydrom is what helps us get laid in the first place. If you didnt have any sex drive you wouldnt even care about talking to a girl.

 

[Oxide]

I've read this very interesting and true article somewhere, basically it bascially explained that a guy, even though can say "Yo come over my place so i can fvck you" should never do it, simply because When a girl hears that you want to hang out (get together) it automatically implies sex You think you are tricking her by saying "let's watch a movie" ... where she already knows that sex will be there, she just needs to feel better about it, by saying you are actually going "hanging out" or "watching a movie". Women dont think like us. They cant just admit that they are coming over to have sex and that is the only reason. They want to feel needed for more than that. It isnt hard guys, just takes a little patience.


I believe this is the whole core of Anti Slut Defence. I've talked to guys about this, and heard all sorts of "Great tips on breaking ASD down" ... some of which included saying:

"Dont worry, nobody will find out"
and.. "i really care for you..."



The simple truth is, dont argue when she says you arent getting any. Dont worry when she says she wants to be on top.

If she is a virgin, take it slow over a few nights and it will pay off.

If she is just a nutcase, might as well give up.

I've had a girl in my bed once, she would do anything (including fvcking) but wouldnt take her top off for anything.. go figure.

I had another girl who came home with me from a party (how hard is it to guess what would come next, right?) WRONG. The girl pulled "I just have this rule about not doing anything on the first night, it is self respect"...

I've talked to her..told her as soon as i met her i knew she was a great girl ( hey, it did have SOME truth in it ... told her i want to make her feel good.. OFFERED her to just get her off with my fingers... NOTHING.

She would moan when we make out and i suck on her nipples, but NOTHING more.... looking back i should have said "Well, time for you to get the hell out (i didnt want anything more than sex from that girl really, but that wasnt the issue that night....)

The thing that pissed me off is that I WOULD have probaably called her again if we hooked up that night.. but by her being a stupid girl i never wanted to see her again... she played herself in the end..

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by MacDiddy
This is lunacy.... Royal, have you field tested this theory out??? ..... what you are asking is for us to turn off billions of years of evolution so we can be more successful with women??? SOB is a powerful motivator. There will never be anything more powerful than that to ensure that we have to succeed with women..... or else....

While I think you are trying to think outside the square... I reckon it will only work if every guy has no SOB, and then it will be the chicks that will have to do the chasing.....

It has nothing to do with evolution. No one said to eliminate the sex drive altogether. However, the sex drive is something physical and spiritual. Only recently has it become such a MENTAL game. Only recently has it become such an element of one's ego, to the point where we are encouraged by advertisers and music and movies to seek sex for our own personal validation and self-worth.

Why are most people here, honestly? Is it to become a better person and a better lover? No, it's to score so they can stop feeling so inadequate at life.

This is what RE means, unless I'm way off, by Sex on the Brain. Sex doesn't belong on the brain. It belongs in the balls.

 

[MacDiddy]

At the end of the day, we all want $ex..... You could like 99% of all males turn off SOB and not give a fcuk and still get $ex or you could go sexual state (gunwitch) and still get it.....

Doesn't it come down to implmentation/reframing rather than SOB syndrome....?????

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by MacDiddy
At the end of the day, we all want $ex..... You could like 99% of all males turn off SOB and not give a fcuk and still get $ex or you could go sexual state (gunwitch) and still get it.....

Doesn't it come down to implmentation/reframing rather than SOB syndrome....?????

You are not listening.

 

[MacDiddy]

SOB tooo.... strong....

can't.....fight...... it.......

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by MacDiddy
SOB tooo.... strong....

can't.....fight...... it.......

Still not listening. Sexual state has nothing to do with THINKING about sex, much less occupying your mind SOLELY with getting sex.

Stop reading and go talk to women.