Sex hurdle - genuine advice sought

[Davines]

I began having sex periodically this year, and have been facing a couple of issues since. They're not exactly uncommon for a novice, so I've tried progressing "naturally" but it's still persisting (and definitely not helping my relationship).

1.) Foreskin
I'm uncircumcised and masturbated with foreskin on the ****-head for years. The only time I tried having unprotected sex, my foreskin was (still is) very tight. Besides the pain when it pulled back as I inserted, I could hardly pump since the foreskin became stuck in an awkward position and the connected vein on the bottom (what is that anyway?) was stretched as far as it would go.

The only way for me is to wear a condom and let the rubber hold most of the skin in place, on the head. I searched and read through some advice, and have been allowing my foreskin to "stretch" while pulled over the head. This has been done regularly for over 3months but pulling back my foreskin while having an erection is still impossible (unless with major force and pain, as cited in my unprotected experience).

Is this normal, and what can I do anything other than wait and "stretch" the foreskin or direct circumcision?

 

[Pierce]

Go to a doctor. We don't wanna hear this mess.

 

[Davines]

2.) Premature Ejaculation
Yes, this topic has been discussed many times, and I have started practing kegel. The effects have been marginal (if any), although I'm still working on it.

However, my issue has an additional cause to it. The head of my **** is very sensitive (could be due to above foreskin problem) and easily stimulated. Adding to problem might be years of masturbating only the ****-head as compared to the entire shaft, and the habit of cumming ASAP since the objective was self-relieve.

Even when having foreplay, the ****head would be stimulated through a light brush with my gf's body. Of course, I initially thought this was due to the novelty of a naked female, but I have grown rather comfortable with my gf's nudity now and nothing has changed.

In actual sex, I last 2-3mins and have never gone past 5mins. I have tried pacing, stopping before "point of no return" etc., but the sensation on the ****-head is just overly strong.

Fortunately, I recover very quickly and can *** another once or twice, but therein lies a further problem. It's usually regarded as normal to last (much) longer after the first ***, and there are even advice to whack off before having sex etc., but my second and third *** within the hour has never gone past 5 mins either.

I am quite certain this is not due to anxiety, because I was quite confident and adventurous initially since my gf is new to sex as well. However as many months have passed, I began to realise this isn't improving and after some thought, figure it might have been the years of poor masturbation that is my undoing.

My focus now has been on delaying my urge and training myself to last longer (both whacking and actual sex). However, the sensitivity of the ****-head is still the root cause. Any insights? I know this thread is abit cheesy, but I hope you guys can have sympathy on this novice and offer some first hand advice. Thanks.

 

[Davines]

Go to a doctor. We don't wanna hear this mess.

And your point in participating in this forum is? I searched through the old threads before posting, and the foreskin problem has definitely been discussed a number of times.

It's just that I've practiced the advice of pulling back and stretch, but to no avail so far.

I can fully understand if you don't wish to help, it's not the most interesting of topic. But don't bother posting a mindless reply to highlight your attitude.

 

[Pierce]

Well for the premature ejaculation. Just stop and eat the girl out or something....

If that doesn't work for you. Use a special type of trojan condom which helps with that problem.

 

[Danton1975]

I used to have #1 problem years ago (maybe 15) when I was launched in the world of hot sex...initially it spoiled a couple of F**ks for me until I decided to do something about it...I would try to stretch the foreskin below the head quite a few times until it became lose and not so sensitive to the touch. Afterwards, I f**&ked quite easily.

Regarding #2...this is just a suggestion...you may want to experience to sleep naked with the foreskin pulled down past the head so that the area there becomes less sensitive due to the friction. Do it maybe every other night but not too long maybe for 4-5 hrs at a time otherwise you may have swelling there.

Ultimately you probably want to get circumsized though which can be more difficult after a certain age...you have to walk in a dress for about 3-4 days and not have friends who visit the hospital and show you "Playboy" magazines cover just to f*&k with you and give you a hard-on.

Regarding premature ejaculation...Think of your grandmother while you're on top of her and you should last forever. It's a mental thing.

 

[Boxer]

Premature ejaculation was caused by my over masturbation when I was little. The whole goal was to get off before mommy and daddy suspected anything late at night. So it was close my eyes and concentrate and try to ejaculate within 2 mins the faster it was done the better. Now that I'm older I'm ****ed up really bad. I've tried everything and I still bust a nut in two minutes. If you find something that works let me know

 

[Boxer]

I went two months with out whacking it off and still ejaculated rather quickly. Man I remember the day I discovered masturbation I was humping the crap outta my bed for a good 10 minutes PASSED the point of no return before ejaculation. Yea man I was able to keep it in for that long.

 

[Altair]

I went two months with out whacking it off and still ejaculated rather quickly. Man I remember the day I discovered masturbation I was humping the crap outta my bed for a good 10 minutes PASSED the point of no return before ejaculation. Yea man I was able to keep it in for that long.

Well yeah...you're going to come faster after abstaining from it for an extended period of time, not the other way 'round.