Sex advice for a total newbie...

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OK...I'm 24 and a virgin. I've had a few sexual experiences, but never anything major.

There's a possibility that I could hook up with a girl in the near future. What do I need to know to make it at least a decent time for both of us?

I'm not expecting to knock anyone's socks off, but I want it to be at least enjoyable. Not sure what her level of experience is going to be. Any tips/hints/pointers/words of wisdom?

Thanks. :)
 

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What tips do you want?
Advise on getting her into bed?
Foreplay advise : P.I.M.P.S post in the other forum is wicked.
Sex Advice: Not necessary everyone knows how to ****. Its been passed down through your genes since the stone age.

Concentrate on pleasing her before pleasing yourself and dont get too excited since if you cant control yourself then its not going to be much fun for her.

Few general tips. P.I.M.P 's post covers it in detail
1)Women love to be teased in bed
2)Dont grope the box and tits too much. Stay in control
3)Women can have multiple orgasms without stopping
4) Most women like it when you talk dirty
5)Talk to the women after sex
 

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Not so much on getting her into bed, just things to do once "it's on."

Dunno if it'll happen right away, but I want to be ready.

Can you give a link to that other post you're talking about? :)

Thanks
 

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From a woman here!!! - just the first things that jump to mind.

1. Take it slow - we require more warming up than you guys do otherwise it's no fun on either side.

2. ASK her what she likes - every woman is different and this isn't something that you should feel you are doing just a beginner - if EVERY guy did it with a new lover, the world would be a much happier place :)

2. Relax and Enjoy it...sex was never meant to be too serious. If a guy takes it TOO seriously, there's no flexibility. If he's relaxed, a woman can be more open to saying what she likes or if she wants you to try something different or whatever

Unless you are incredibly gifted, lucky and everything else, it probably won't be perfect....but if you just have fun, you can overlook the mistakes and laugh about the parts that weren't exactly great, like when you fell off the bed or got your clothes stuck etc etc, which will give both of you more confidence in each other....and then you can try again later ;) Enjoy!!!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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If you want to get laid, you first need to come off as you just want to give her pleasure. Eating her out is a good way of doing this, because women find it so sexy and its possibly one of the most pleasing things for them. I've had women tell me that they wanted to really **** me after doing that, so I figure its a good way of doing it. Good luck
 

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1) lot's of forplay. Kissing. Licking. light touching, scratching - use everything you have at your disposal.

2) look for her reactions - that will tell you how your doing. enjoy it. Tease her.

3) Go down on her. But don't go straight for the cl@t or dive right in. Warm her up - suck and lick around her - make her WANT it. Again go slow.

4) Penertation. Remember multiple positions here. If you've warmed her up enough before hand - this is where you can start to get a little more agressive. grab her legs and flip her over - light hair pulls - a slap on the a## - all good little tools of your trade. If you feel like your going to blow your load - change positions - or go back down on her and give yourself a rest.

most important thing to remember there's nothing to be nervous about. It's natural. We've all been there and gone through it.

Enjoy it and get better.
 

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You forgot nibbling and biting......

OMG I so turned on........


Edit: but none of that down there
 

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who cares, that girl you are banging might be gone a month later banging some other guy
 

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who cares, that girl you are banging might be gone a month later banging some other guy
thats a bad attitude.

because if the next guy doesn't get the job done, Squirrels could get some repeat action...
 

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Here's a few pointers from my Makeout Mastery manual.

1 - She won't take off her clothes unless you give her a compelling reason to do so. You can accomplish that by pleasuring the body part that you want to expose THROUGH her clothes. For example, if you want her shirt to come off... start kissing her breasts through the shirt.

Why? Because when you start to remove her shirt, she'll instinctively know that once it comes off, you'll continue to pleasure her on her bare breasts. The idea is to let her know that by removing her clothes, she'll receive much more pleasure than by leaving them on.

2 - If you want to take her top off... do it while she's mounted on top of you. If you try to remove her top while she's laying down, she has to go through the trouble of sitting up, and then you have to reach behind and undo her bra... etc. If she's on top of you, everything can happen effortlessly. I have full instructions on how to do my "Bra Be Gone technique" in my training manual.

3 - Make sure that there's nothing in your bedroom that would prevent her from wanting to get naked with you. Some things that guys always forget about are:

* temperature - if it's too cold, she won't undress.

* check your pillows and blanket for how they smell. You don't want her to lay back on a pillow full of beer farts. If she gets turned on by THAT, run like hell.

* low lighting - a colored light or a blacklight works best. Why? Because women are often self-conscious about how you will perceive their naked body. If the light is low, that objection will be less likely to make her uncomfortable.

4 - Sex is something you do WITH her, not TO her. Have fun, and remember that it's a physical dialogue, not a peformance that you have to do perfectly.

Jason King
http://www.MakeoutMastery.com
*Who ELSE Wants To Learn How To Make Out With A Woman On The First Date... GUARANTEED?!*
 
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Originally posted by squirrels
OK...I'm 24 and a virgin. I've had a few sexual experiences, but never anything major.

There's a possibility that I could hook up with a girl in the near future. What do I need to know to make it at least a decent time for both of us?

I'm not expecting to knock anyone's socks off, but I want it to be at least enjoyable. Not sure what her level of experience is going to be. Any tips/hints/pointers/words of wisdom?

Thanks. :)
1. I thought you told me when I said this about you that you were not a virgin.

2. Wack off before you do it with her, so you don't explode too early.

3. I'm sure you've read enough books on the actual act, but you need to find her cli---t and stimulate that even before you have sex with her. Get her a couple of orgasms before you even put your thing in her.

4. Buy and have in your pocket or side of the bed Astroglide and lube up your middle finger and use that to gently stroke the cli-t while you lay beside her kissing her. Tune into her body and listen to her moans and match them. Moan slighty when she does as your stroking the cl--it. Keep kissing her and tune into her body through your finger.

Some women like a fast stroke so try that to see if it works..some like a slow light or strong touch and try each...you gotta figure out what works for her.

I like to put lay on her left side and put my right arm under her kneck around her so that I'm also holding her slightly as I kiss her and talk into her throat. With my left hand I stroke that button. I will watch their face and try to keep an eye on the stomach muscles to see how they contract or if her back is arching.

I will have the bottle of glide in my right hand also so that I can just move my left hand up and squeeze more out onto my middle finger while still kissing her lips or cheeks or nibbling and breathing into her ear.

After giving her a few orgasms this way then decide if you want to have sex with her. If not then you've done your job and proven that you can get her off when ever you so desire.

If you do put ya dyck in then don't forget to keep fingering the cli-t while you stroke it so she can get off again.

This stuff takes time to perfect but once you do you will be a master of giving women orgasms.
 

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so.... what happen quirrels?
this thing was posted almost a year ago !
you posted it and never finished the quirrel thing. you've got guys posting to this and never answered them. may we assume the struggle goes on?
 
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