comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Hello Fellow DJs,
This veteran poster, comic_relief, signing in and reporting in on how my life has gone since I began posting here.
I have hit a lowpoint in my motivation to get sh!t done. I am about to graduate from college and have to look back upon my life since sosuave and I realized that I have a really good life compared to 2003 and 2004. I got my goals realized when I first came into contact with sosuavian theorem.
When I began reading the articles on this site, I had my only goal of getting this one girl named Tina. I tried to get her by being the quintesential nice guy with oneitis by doing everything I could for her, but you know what it didn't work (surprise surprise, I know). I will also happily let everyone know that she was my last oneitis that I ever had either. I was also being bullied by fellow school mates. I had a long uphill battle.
In January 2004, I just typed into Yahoo search bar "How to get girls" and somehow found this site. I read everything in the hall of fame. I read for almost a complete year and continually did self-improvement. I read Pooks, Senor Fingers, Anti-Dump, and many others every night for hours on end, but I never got a date for that entire year.
I then said to myself, its time to act upon everything that I have learned about confidence. I completed out an application to a government program for smart teenagers and got accepted even though people told me not to do that because I was "dumb" and "a retard." I pushed through that wall and continued on my way to true "DJ-ness."
During the time of this government program, I got my first girlfriend (who I still keep in contact with to this day) in 2005. The goal when I first came here in 2004 was for me to get a girlfriend and I completed that.
she got me involved with the FCCLA (Family, Career, and Community Leaders of America). I not only went to the State Conference and got a "gold medal" but I also went to the National FCCLA Conference for free to win a "gold medal."
I also got accepted to college (a first for my family excluding online schools and community colleges) at a PA state school.
On October 2006, I broke up with my first girlfriend because we were just moving in different directions in life. I wanted a hotter girlfriend and she wanted me to be someone else. So we parted ways and I stayed single for a total of four months.
During my freshman year, I went and did stuff that I always wanted to do such as do white water rafting or jump off of waterfalls or go cave splunking. I also met some of the most amazing friends that I could ever ask for
Around this time, I began to get the travel bug and wanting to do bicycle touring across the country. I read about it in a philosophy book and thought it sounded amazing.
Than in January 2007, I met my next girlfriend and I dated her for two years. She went through so much with me and I learned so much. We broke up in May 2009 and we are still best friends to this day (actually my roommate and she is dating one of my best friends. I set them up so its cool :woo: ).
During the time period I continued to do travelling and I did my first long distance bicycle tour. I did a 350 mile tour throughout Northeast Pennsylvania in the Pocono Mountains. I camped out and completed a small dream of mine that I had started 2 years prior.
At the end of my junior year, I found a new girl that I had a short fling with. Her best friend broke us up while she was drunk and decided to do a drunken psycho-analysis. Our relationship never survived that discussion (the one that got away ).
So after a month of sulking and trying to make it work, we officially broke it off, but that night I was helping move a roommate into our new apartment. She was looking good and we ended up hooking up. She became my fourth girlfriend that I had. That relationship was from summer 2010- February 2011.
This new girlfriend was very clingy and got on my nerves. So after the fun wore off and we attempted to get things to work. We broke it off entirely.
During our dating period though, I got to finally complete four years after it started the dream of doing a true cross-country bicycle tour. I went from Niagara Falls, NY to New Orleans, LA. I still consider it my grandest achievement that I have reached.
Now we are here, after a month of sulking because of the breakup. I got a new girl in my life and I am just moving on. I noticed some things though after contemplating my own life achievements and have some tips for those that are just starting out.
1.) Please for the love of god, what is preached here is only guidelines. They are NOT rules like some want you to believe.
2.) Oneitis (which I haven't had since 10th or 11th grade) comes from a lack of action. Please, just make your move or move on. I remember oneitis was hell that I used to cry myself to sleep thinking about that one "special girl"
3.) Make some goals, but don't set dates if there doesn't need to be a date. I remember when I was younger making a goal list with dates stating "by such and such a date, I will have done three bicycle tours cross country." It didn't workout like that, but I did complete it with a third tour coming up West-East tour across the USA.
4.) Life is messy. if you try to keep it neat, you will miss out on experiences. Take those experiences and run with them.
5.) Don't listen to your detractors or those that love you, they are insignificant compared to what you truly believe about yourself. I remember everyone including my parents telling me I couldn't do something because of such and such an issue. If there is a will, there is a way. It just matters how much you are willing to sacrifice to succeed (opportunity cost).
6.) Be prepared to hear the word "no" a lot or some variation. They generally are not saying no to you, but to your idea. Don't take it too hard because you got to steel yourself for rejection. You can't have a thin skin.
7.) Women will come and go, but your friends are forever. Don't ever forget them because when you find true friends, than hold onto them as long as you can.
8.) Tell the truth. Don't pvssy foot around because people may get angry at the truth, but they will respect you for it in the long run.
9.) Get your priorities in order. Don't do things for other people, do it because you know that you want to do it (I mean legal things). Choose your major for you, not your parents or friends. I chose my majors based on my own interests (government and philosophy dual major with a minor in history).
10.) Experiment with your life. Go out for things that you never thought were possible because you might just find out that the thing you thought was impossible was very possible. If you want to travel abroad, than do it (I really suggest that everyone travels abroad for a period).
That is ten things that i learned since coming to sosuavian theory.
- comic_relief
This veteran poster, comic_relief, signing in and reporting in on how my life has gone since I began posting here.
I have hit a lowpoint in my motivation to get sh!t done. I am about to graduate from college and have to look back upon my life since sosuave and I realized that I have a really good life compared to 2003 and 2004. I got my goals realized when I first came into contact with sosuavian theorem.
When I began reading the articles on this site, I had my only goal of getting this one girl named Tina. I tried to get her by being the quintesential nice guy with oneitis by doing everything I could for her, but you know what it didn't work (surprise surprise, I know). I will also happily let everyone know that she was my last oneitis that I ever had either. I was also being bullied by fellow school mates. I had a long uphill battle.
In January 2004, I just typed into Yahoo search bar "How to get girls" and somehow found this site. I read everything in the hall of fame. I read for almost a complete year and continually did self-improvement. I read Pooks, Senor Fingers, Anti-Dump, and many others every night for hours on end, but I never got a date for that entire year.
I then said to myself, its time to act upon everything that I have learned about confidence. I completed out an application to a government program for smart teenagers and got accepted even though people told me not to do that because I was "dumb" and "a retard." I pushed through that wall and continued on my way to true "DJ-ness."
During the time of this government program, I got my first girlfriend (who I still keep in contact with to this day) in 2005. The goal when I first came here in 2004 was for me to get a girlfriend and I completed that.
she got me involved with the FCCLA (Family, Career, and Community Leaders of America). I not only went to the State Conference and got a "gold medal" but I also went to the National FCCLA Conference for free to win a "gold medal."
I also got accepted to college (a first for my family excluding online schools and community colleges) at a PA state school.
On October 2006, I broke up with my first girlfriend because we were just moving in different directions in life. I wanted a hotter girlfriend and she wanted me to be someone else. So we parted ways and I stayed single for a total of four months.
During my freshman year, I went and did stuff that I always wanted to do such as do white water rafting or jump off of waterfalls or go cave splunking. I also met some of the most amazing friends that I could ever ask for
Around this time, I began to get the travel bug and wanting to do bicycle touring across the country. I read about it in a philosophy book and thought it sounded amazing. Than in January 2007, I met my next girlfriend and I dated her for two years. She went through so much with me and I learned so much. We broke up in May 2009 and we are still best friends to this day (actually my roommate and she is dating one of my best friends. I set them up so its cool :woo: ).
During the time period I continued to do travelling and I did my first long distance bicycle tour. I did a 350 mile tour throughout Northeast Pennsylvania in the Pocono Mountains. I camped out and completed a small dream of mine that I had started 2 years prior.
At the end of my junior year, I found a new girl that I had a short fling with. Her best friend broke us up while she was drunk and decided to do a drunken psycho-analysis. Our relationship never survived that discussion (the one that got away
). So after a month of sulking and trying to make it work, we officially broke it off, but that night I was helping move a roommate into our new apartment. She was looking good and we ended up hooking up. She became my fourth girlfriend that I had. That relationship was from summer 2010- February 2011.
This new girlfriend was very clingy and got on my nerves. So after the fun wore off and we attempted to get things to work. We broke it off entirely.
During our dating period though, I got to finally complete four years after it started the dream of doing a true cross-country bicycle tour. I went from Niagara Falls, NY to New Orleans, LA. I still consider it my grandest achievement that I have reached.
Now we are here, after a month of sulking because of the breakup. I got a new girl in my life and I am just moving on. I noticed some things though after contemplating my own life achievements and have some tips for those that are just starting out.
1.) Please for the love of god, what is preached here is only guidelines. They are NOT rules like some want you to believe.
2.) Oneitis (which I haven't had since 10th or 11th grade) comes from a lack of action. Please, just make your move or move on. I remember oneitis was hell that I used to cry myself to sleep thinking about that one "special girl"
3.) Make some goals, but don't set dates if there doesn't need to be a date. I remember when I was younger making a goal list with dates stating "by such and such a date, I will have done three bicycle tours cross country." It didn't workout like that, but I did complete it with a third tour coming up West-East tour across the USA.
4.) Life is messy. if you try to keep it neat, you will miss out on experiences. Take those experiences and run with them.
5.) Don't listen to your detractors or those that love you, they are insignificant compared to what you truly believe about yourself. I remember everyone including my parents telling me I couldn't do something because of such and such an issue. If there is a will, there is a way. It just matters how much you are willing to sacrifice to succeed (opportunity cost).
6.) Be prepared to hear the word "no" a lot or some variation. They generally are not saying no to you, but to your idea. Don't take it too hard because you got to steel yourself for rejection. You can't have a thin skin.
7.) Women will come and go, but your friends are forever. Don't ever forget them because when you find true friends, than hold onto them as long as you can.
8.) Tell the truth. Don't pvssy foot around because people may get angry at the truth, but they will respect you for it in the long run.
9.) Get your priorities in order. Don't do things for other people, do it because you know that you want to do it (I mean legal things). Choose your major for you, not your parents or friends. I chose my majors based on my own interests (government and philosophy dual major with a minor in history).
10.) Experiment with your life. Go out for things that you never thought were possible because you might just find out that the thing you thought was impossible was very possible. If you want to travel abroad, than do it (I really suggest that everyone travels abroad for a period).
That is ten things that i learned since coming to sosuavian theory.
- comic_relief
