settling differences with a former pick up that went sour worth it for future proofin

[drift king]

i was seeing this girl briefly who was into me but had such spoilt tendencies that even when i told her off for not understanding that it's her responsibility to counter offer with another time the best she could do would be 'maybe next week?'

i made the mistake of just not ignoring her last text and leaving it, i had to respond, and i went over the top. since then she's been ignoring me/walk straight blankly.

the thing is i've only seen her with her friends so there was no way i'd be able to approach her without a negative response.

i walking by campus the other day and went into the computer room, she happened to be there sitting on the side waiting for her friend.

her guard was down, i was like 'hey. how r u?'

she was quite amicable. i knew me and her had tension from before. i just talked to her kindly my usual self which attracted her to me in the 1st place. there's little chance it'll work out between us cos of her traits but is she worth keeping round as social proof?

her friends are hot! and me having them around me can only make me look good for future pick ups. i think that social proofing is more valuable to me than banging this chick.

i feel like an afc tho, cos during the convo i wasn't apologising but it seemed as if i was.. i was like 'me and you get along but i know we've had our differences..' she interrupted me and said 'no it's cool, we're fine'

i didn't like how that felt, i wasn't apologising just clearing the air so to speak.. but it feels like she took it as an apology which makes me look weak. she was in the wrong originally not me. but i just see her as being valuable to me in future rather than an enemy. did i make the right decision?

 

[NewMan]

You should have let her make the first move - your need/worry/won't of her "friends" made you approach her.

Just remember, your ability to bang her friends will probably decrease if you are "friends" with your ex anyway.

Your best bet was to just cut the contact and move on with your life.

There a lot of women around - you don't need your ex's help.

 

[drift king]

You should have let her make the first move - your need/worry/won't of her "friends" made you approach her.

Just remember, your ability to bang her friends will probably decrease if you are "friends" with your ex anyway.

Your best bet was to just cut the contact and move on with your life.

There a lot of women around - you don't need your ex's help.

well she didn't we've been beefing since that incident and every time she walks by me with her friend she looks straight forward with a evil blank stare so it was never gona happen.

we were never ex's, let's put it another way.. i tried to pick her up and i did but she never committed to a time cos she's a spoilt little girl with her tendencies.. so we're basically could have beens.

i think you're right, i was weak by going up to her but having them around as my friends as social proof i think would help aid my pick ups cos they're all hot and i get on well with them as a crew.

i did cut contact and moved on with my life but the opportunity arose where she was by herself and i was passing by so i thought i'd be amicable.

is having them as social proof not even worthwhile in the long run even if i dont get to bang any of her friends?

 

[scrouds]

Hold, on, so she flakes on a date, and you're bending over backwards for her?

Dude, grow a pair or something.

Wait, she didn't even flake. Her IL is sooooo low she didn't even want to make plans with you in the first place. Way to step up the AFCism on the board here.

Wow.