So I cold approach two women. One very attractive, the other just so-so. I break the ice, have some conversation. They are college students at ODU nearby, in their senior year. School is starting for them soon. So my main focus at first was the very attractive one, she had a very good body and a kind of strawberry blonde hair. However, she did not seem not entirely responsive, I could tell by her closed body language and she seemed uninterested. Her friend however, seemed a bit more friendly. I already wrote off the attractive one as a loss, it was obvious. I did not directly focus my fliting on either one of them till that point. So I then focus on the so-so girl. Cute, a bit chubby but a pretty face and dresses nice. Turn to her facing her directly, direct eye contact, and put all my attention on her. So I get to flirting, she flirts back a bit (she also blushes and laughs a lot). Then, to my surprise the very attractive girl she was with begins to but in. Like she is trying to steal her friends thunder. It was obvious that I was flirting with her friend. The strawberry blonde becomes far more flirtatious and open with me, and she does some physical contact. I did not get it, because just a few minutes ago she was very distant and seemed completely uninterested. It was only when I focused my attention on her friend that she changed. The strawberry blonde even at one point moves in to hug me, and I did not even initiate it, she moved in for it... At that point I was impressed because rarely is it that girls initiate the kino. I was trying to figure it all out...
Then it clicked...
It was competition... The very attractive girl is typically the one who gets all the attention, her friend gets less attention. The attractive girl expects the attention, she likely knows she is more beautiful than her friend and no doubt her friend knows the same. A man giving her NO attention, and instead focusing completely on her friend had to be a bit of a ego blow. At which point, it set up a competition between the two of them. Of course, at this point I was less interested in the strawberry blonde and more interested in playing out this psychological dynamic... Even more, when the strawberry blonde started openly flirting with me the brunette became MORE responsive to me as if her interest in me increased. This was a fascinating dynamic.
So I continue focusing on the slightly chubby, but cute, brunette. Her hot friend starts looking a bit miffed, like she could not believe what was happening. I could have likely flirted with the strawberry blonde and got her number (she was being very direct and flirtatious with me). But I kind of felt slighted at the strawberry blonde for her coldness earlier, and the brunette seemed very sweet. I end up getting the number of the brunette, and a little kiss on the cheek (got in a bit of kino there), and she agreed to meet me this Saturday at Doumar's for some ice cream and I figure I can close the deal after that.
So... I consider something. We typically target the hottest girl of a bunch, this is innate because we seek the best. But I think it may possibly be a good strategy to target and hit on one of the less pretty girls in a group. This will set up a competition like what happened, and may actually possibly increase our chances with the hottest one. Also, setting up this kind of competition causes the women to actually compete for YOUR affections. It made it such that I needed to apply almost no effort, and it was actually quite fun. I am going to test this out further and approach groups of women and intentionally hit on the second or third most attractive one and see if this rule continues to apply.
Then it clicked...
It was competition... The very attractive girl is typically the one who gets all the attention, her friend gets less attention. The attractive girl expects the attention, she likely knows she is more beautiful than her friend and no doubt her friend knows the same. A man giving her NO attention, and instead focusing completely on her friend had to be a bit of a ego blow. At which point, it set up a competition between the two of them. Of course, at this point I was less interested in the strawberry blonde and more interested in playing out this psychological dynamic... Even more, when the strawberry blonde started openly flirting with me the brunette became MORE responsive to me as if her interest in me increased. This was a fascinating dynamic.
So I continue focusing on the slightly chubby, but cute, brunette. Her hot friend starts looking a bit miffed, like she could not believe what was happening. I could have likely flirted with the strawberry blonde and got her number (she was being very direct and flirtatious with me). But I kind of felt slighted at the strawberry blonde for her coldness earlier, and the brunette seemed very sweet. I end up getting the number of the brunette, and a little kiss on the cheek (got in a bit of kino there), and she agreed to meet me this Saturday at Doumar's for some ice cream and I figure I can close the deal after that.
So... I consider something. We typically target the hottest girl of a bunch, this is innate because we seek the best. But I think it may possibly be a good strategy to target and hit on one of the less pretty girls in a group. This will set up a competition like what happened, and may actually possibly increase our chances with the hottest one. Also, setting up this kind of competition causes the women to actually compete for YOUR affections. It made it such that I needed to apply almost no effort, and it was actually quite fun. I am going to test this out further and approach groups of women and intentionally hit on the second or third most attractive one and see if this rule continues to apply.