Seriously...

[Cod3r]

I'm just wondering how many of you actually actively go out and meet women, not just in nightclubs but are approaching throughout the day ??

Who here is dating, in LTR, or fvck buddies with an approach on a normal day ?? This is what this site is about right ?? I just don't see most guys buying into this site's core philosophies...

This site promotes personality over looks, but people are so insecure about their looks they have to ask guys for opinions. This site promotes spinning multiple plates, yet most people are trying to get one girl. This site promotes field experience, yet most people here speculate and theorize...

Just look at the majority of the threads (90%+) are about problems about some girl that some guy likes who he sees in his normal life everyday over and over again and he's wondering if he could ever be with her, OR a oneitis guy, OR some girl some guy met off of an online dating service and having problems with... Hardly ANY threads start like, "Ok met some girl at the libary and...." or "Approached X girl in the mall and..."


I mean who here is really living the life and meeting women in the real world ??

I actually don't know the point of this thread, just wanting to help people and realizing that its a futile battle... Kinda frustrated I
guess


-Cod3r

 

[BluEyes]

Originally posted by Cod3r
just wanting to help people and realizing that its a futile battle...

You're an idiot.

Spend however long you need to, and actually think about what you wrote.

 

[Demon]

You're an idiot.

Say what!? He's not from Australia...

 

[Scorched]

I'm in a LTR...
Trust me I do not plan on marrying this girl!
She fits my schedule, is low maintenance, keep me challenged, and we NEVER argue.
What more can you ask for?

When I am in public I will smile and make eye contact with as many women as possible. If they smile back, I'll say hi. If I wasn't in a LTR, I would push it further. Next time I do pull a number I will post about it on the forum. Although before reading this post I would have considered my self being arrogant for bragging about it! :cuss:

As far as people posting about their problems. I doubt its as high as 90%... I will admit I have created a few topics when I was having problems but that was just part of my growth. Venting as well as getting other opinions really helped me figure everything out and learn the lesson the easy way. It is human nature to be blinded as you become attached.

 

[JLW]

Well, I can speak for myself on this one, but...



i notice that some of the guys here spend pretty much all day getting numbers. Kind of like it's a hobby for them. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, by the way.

I look for girls in a more passive way. If I happen to run into one and I think they're cool and/or hot, I'll start talking to them, and eventually ask for their number.

It's less of a priority for me. I enjoy doing lots of other things. Not that I don't look for girls, but I don't really feel the need to ask every girl that I see for their number, just so i can "get better game". Seems kinda stupid to me.

Also, girls are usually more trouble than they're worth anyway, so I try not to stress over it by not making a big deal about it.

So my short answer to your question is: At 18 years old, girls are not anywhere near being my first priority, or maybe not even my 5th priority. I have lots of other stuff going on in my life that I consider more enriching.

 

[xdreamz]

it depends...

if i feel like going around and getting girls numbers OR if i feel a bit lonely i'll walk around and look for women on my campus, sarge, and then close. i can get 3 numbers in a day no problem......


nowadays, i haven't been as willing to due to severe one-itis. i'm recovering, and i have tried clubbing to get back up again and i managed to get a girl who worked at the bar's number.



can you call a number which you got a long time ago (a month or so) and still try to get something going on with her????

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

I got out of an LTR a few months ago and have been clubbing hard since-- had some luck with the girls but lately I feel like Im in a slump

 

[dj ben2]

You're an idiot.

Spend however long you need to, and actually think about what you wrote.

its a valid question many people here skim thru info but just dont do anything about it.

i must admi8t i dont go out cold approaching whatnot but when im in class and get talked to by people i play the game

 

[pimpin IS easy]

no no no no!!!

no one cares how you get girls. The pure fact is, getting ass from cold approaching is the rarest and most difficult way to go about things. Yes a true don juan can do it. But a SMART don juan will use all his resources effectively. The fact is, i personally almost never cold approach, simply because I have way too many other options available. I at most points in the last 3 years have had between 1 and 3 f8ck buddies at all times, and always at least 10 numbers of girls that i could call, go out with, have sex with, whatever. None of those from cold approaching. But who cares? It is the RESULTS that matter, not how you achieve those results.

So, Cod3r, SERIOUSLY, how one approaches does not matter. The results matter. I could cold approach like a maniac if I needed to....but I simply do not need to.

 

[Nasman]

Nice thread this is the shvt we should be talking about. As far as woman go when I was in the mix I would meet them through bars, clubs, friends,school, work.

Do to my oneitis and some other shvt that happened to me my game has cooled off. But I am ready to get back in the mix. I have a couple of girls that I have a good chance of banging.

I am going to take my game to another level after the newyear. I agree with pimpin is easy. It doesn't matter what one says or all these approaches and methods people talk about.

RESULTS MATTER.........................

 

[Ice.]

I don't think Cod3r is actually knocking people who don't do cold approaches, but mainly people who aren't embodying the essence of what this site is all about.

Basically, he's getting frustrated that there's a lot of keyboard jockeys around here.

At least, that's what I think.

And oh, just to respond to this thread... Yes, I go out and meet people (not just women) on a daily basis.

 

[Jariel]

I'm in a LTR. I don't approach or chat up girls any more, but I do keep a healthy social life and meet plenty of attractive women this way, I just don't encourage them as anything more than friends.

Personally I never liked cold approaches to begin with. I always met women via social networks or in university, work etc (My current girlfriend is a friend of my best friend's ex). I just find it a lot more satisfying on the whole to build up a large social network of male and female friends, go out regularly and constantly mix with new people, rather than being a loner who goes round approaching strange chicks and trying to get them to part with a number.

This is my personal philosophy anyway and it has always worked well for me.

 

[azanon]

Who here is dating, in LTR, or fvck buddies with an approach on a normal day ?? This is what this site is about right ?? I just don't see most guys buying into this site's core philosophies...

Here's where you went wrong, chief.

If you ask me, this site is about how to be effective with women in the art of seduction. For some, that means seducing different women on a daily basis. For others, maybe they have busy lives at it is, and they're far more selective by choice about which women they sleep with or game. But for these others, they want to have the knowledge and wisdom necessary to be effective with women when those not-as-frequent times come.

Yes, practice will make one better, but that doesn't mean you have to actively practice the actual pick-up every day. Perhaps a lot of us are just making sure when we go out into the real world, we look and smell nice, and feel confident, but not necessarily with an agenda. If we have people that are doing even just that, then they are following the guidelines of this site to some extent.

 

[Cod3r]

Don't get me wrong guys...

I'm not criticizing anyone's methods or preferences, I'm just stating that when I come on the forum, most guys are posting about the same girls over and over again. I was just wondering if people on here meet lots of women ??

Again, I don't mean to knock anyone but most posts are girls you've known for 9 years and you want to get out the friend zone, or she's been in your class all year and you're wondering how to ask her out, just wondering if there is anyone out there that is constantly meeting new people ??

When I was single, I was meeting females everyday... at the library, at MC'donalds, at work, at the park ect... Everyday I was meeting women through the course of my life (I too disagree with going out to sarge, seems pathetic to me too) but my life intetwined me with ALOT of women....

Maybe I was wrong, but my initial thoughts of this site were people who wanted an active social life and to date... but seems most people here are content to just relax and go with the flow... its all good... my bad fellas


-Cod3r

 

[JLW]

Maybe I was wrong, but my initial thoughts of this site were people who wanted an active social life and to date... but seems most people here are content to just relax and go with the flow... its all good... my bad fellas


-Cod3r

That's exactly it. I do want an active social life, and I have one. I just go with the flow. I know HOW to game a chick. There's room for improvement, but I pretty much know what I'm doing.

Sometimes, the harder you look for something, the harder it is to get it.

If you just sit back and relax, and just go with it, then you'll be better off. This isn't just about getting girls, it's about almost every aspect in life.

But, of course, once an opportunity presents itself, you better seize that opportunity and go for it 100%.