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hahaha, tag team trolling, I approve.
Seriously damaged girl
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thedarkpassenger
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Hey guys, I had to give an update. I was trying to see the good side of this girl, and take Slicker and Iqqi's advice, which was very good advice. But I regret to say ..... the advice was wrong 
It turns out, she is a CRAZY BPD. Really nasty, and really fvcked up. I'm in the middle of a BPD rage and it's a nightmare. I'll keep you guys posted on it...I should have known. Although not her fault, and there are exceptions of course, damaged women with damaged daddy issues and family problems will ALWAYS be damaged, or end up in abusive relationships.
As much as I want to, there is no way to "save" someone like this. They are destined for a bad life....looks like everyone else was RIGHT...stay away from damaged women with bad history of family and personal problems. They are most likely not cool, and are equally damaged.
Another WIN for logic
It turns out, she is a CRAZY BPD. Really nasty, and really fvcked up. I'm in the middle of a BPD rage and it's a nightmare. I'll keep you guys posted on it...I should have known. Although not her fault, and there are exceptions of course, damaged women with damaged daddy issues and family problems will ALWAYS be damaged, or end up in abusive relationships.
As much as I want to, there is no way to "save" someone like this. They are destined for a bad life....looks like everyone else was RIGHT...stay away from damaged women with bad history of family and personal problems. They are most likely not cool, and are equally damaged.
Another WIN for logic
thedarkpassenger
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Hey guys, I had to give an update. I was trying to see the good side of this girl, and take Slicker and Iqqi's advice, which was very good advice. But I regret to say ..... the advice was wrong
It turns out, she is a CRAZY BPD. Really nasty, and really fvcked up. I'm in the middle of a BPD rage and it's a nightmare. I'll keep you guys posted on it...I should have known. Although not her fault, and there are exceptions of course, damaged women with damaged daddy issues and family problems will ALWAYS be damaged, or end up in abusive relationships.
As much as I want to, there is no way to "save" someone like this. They are destined for a bad life....looks like everyone else was RIGHT...stay away from damaged women with bad history of family and personal problems. They are most likely not cool, and are equally damaged.
Another WIN for logic
It turns out, she is a CRAZY BPD. Really nasty, and really fvcked up. I'm in the middle of a BPD rage and it's a nightmare. I'll keep you guys posted on it...I should have known. Although not her fault, and there are exceptions of course, damaged women with damaged daddy issues and family problems will ALWAYS be damaged, or end up in abusive relationships.
As much as I want to, there is no way to "save" someone like this. They are destined for a bad life....looks like everyone else was RIGHT...stay away from damaged women with bad history of family and personal problems. They are most likely not cool, and are equally damaged.
Another WIN for logic
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Can you give us details soon?
Glad you see the light. Get away now, or you're stuck with her forever. I dumped my BPD ex over 4 years ago. Guess who knocked on my door at 5 AM this morning? Her dog just died, so I gave her a bone.
We may seem like jaded, bitter, woman haters, but we can spot these chicks, even from just a few paragraphs. people who have never dealt with them dont understand, and no woman ever will either, thats for sure. I can spot them in real life pretty quickly now too.
Im going to respectfully disagree with Igetit, because in my experience, BPD chicks dont usually stay with abusive partners. They usually stay with good guys, and wreck their lives, and tell everyone else, how horrible they are. I sure as hell aint abusive, and I doubt anyone else here thats had BPD PTSD is either.
You did good, opening your eyes. Stay away from them, but show some compassion, because it really isnt their fault.
We may seem like jaded, bitter, woman haters, but we can spot these chicks, even from just a few paragraphs. people who have never dealt with them dont understand, and no woman ever will either, thats for sure. I can spot them in real life pretty quickly now too.
Im going to respectfully disagree with Igetit, because in my experience, BPD chicks dont usually stay with abusive partners. They usually stay with good guys, and wreck their lives, and tell everyone else, how horrible they are. I sure as hell aint abusive, and I doubt anyone else here thats had BPD PTSD is either.
You did good, opening your eyes. Stay away from them, but show some compassion, because it really isnt their fault.
thedarkpassenger
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Well I gave her the benifit of a doubt...I know she had serious problems in her life and past that would make me believe she was damaged and emotionally unstable.
I thought she was "stronger" and had come out of her experiences as a better person. Boy was I wrong.
It turns out, it's OK to judge a book by it's cover...most of the time. She turned into a vindictive and just plain crazy bvtch after I decided she wasn't for me. She started calling my friends, calling co-workers of mine, spreading rumors, making it sounds like I was harassing her, and so much more. When I confronted her about why she was calling me 20 times a day, she denied it! My caller ID proves otherwise.
Anyways, lesson learned. If a woman has a damaged background, I'll bet she's screwed up in the head. She was so sweet and cute and funny...but it was all a show.
I hate to be cynical, but I believe this is just the reality of it. Us men need to be more thick skinned and know when to walk away from a damaged girl...no matter how attractive
I thought she was "stronger" and had come out of her experiences as a better person. Boy was I wrong.
It turns out, it's OK to judge a book by it's cover...most of the time. She turned into a vindictive and just plain crazy bvtch after I decided she wasn't for me. She started calling my friends, calling co-workers of mine, spreading rumors, making it sounds like I was harassing her, and so much more. When I confronted her about why she was calling me 20 times a day, she denied it! My caller ID proves otherwise.
Anyways, lesson learned. If a woman has a damaged background, I'll bet she's screwed up in the head. She was so sweet and cute and funny...but it was all a show.
I hate to be cynical, but I believe this is just the reality of it. Us men need to be more thick skinned and know when to walk away from a damaged girl...no matter how attractive
vicious cycle
its not fair to say all damaged girls are crazy. skiddish, sure. it is unfair that we come off all normal until you try to date us. the truth is, it's hard to open up to someone when your past experiences are bad. but as a general rule, its not going to help anything to treat a girl based on her past. it isn't fair. i am not what happened to me. all most people who have been through traumatic life events need is for good things to happen. you unlearn that everything is bad.
think of it this way:
if you adopted an abused dog, you wouldn't hit it when it peed out of fear. you would work with that dog until it realized that you were trustworthy and loving. its behavioral modification. it doesn't vary much between species.
furthermore, if you become emotionally unavailable to any woman with a past, then you're damaged goods too. don't miss out on a great girl just because you dated a whacko once.
its not fair to say all damaged girls are crazy. skiddish, sure. it is unfair that we come off all normal until you try to date us. the truth is, it's hard to open up to someone when your past experiences are bad. but as a general rule, its not going to help anything to treat a girl based on her past. it isn't fair. i am not what happened to me. all most people who have been through traumatic life events need is for good things to happen. you unlearn that everything is bad.
think of it this way:
if you adopted an abused dog, you wouldn't hit it when it peed out of fear. you would work with that dog until it realized that you were trustworthy and loving. its behavioral modification. it doesn't vary much between species.
furthermore, if you become emotionally unavailable to any woman with a past, then you're damaged goods too. don't miss out on a great girl just because you dated a whacko once.
Doesn't sound anything out of the ordinary. All crazy / mean / manipulative / dysfunctional women seem very sweet, defenseless, victimized, and in need of saving. Falling for ze ol' damsel in distress, and sympathizing with her through everything. She has issues, seeks out these kind of people, and surrounds herself with crap - which she dishes back and is herself.
Notice when she's most responsive to you. She's attracted to unavailable, abusive men who don't care about her, and whom she demands the approval of. She also needs a feeling of walking on egg shells, impending abandonment, neglect, drama, etc - which she's creating with you. This is NORMAL behavior to her.
People mistake craziness and dysfunctionality for "testing", "fear", "confusion", and all this **** - when they're simply just crazy and dysfunctional. This is how they behave, what they respond / are attracted to, seek after, and CREATE. You can't save them from their own chaos. Because you're not crazy - you view everything from a rational standpoint. As well, you are sympathizing with RED FLAGS.
The crazy damsel's always seem like helpless victims in need of saving - but they create and seek out all this turmoil. They NEED drama, failure, rejection, negativity, stress, uncertainty, and to be the victim. That's why they end up in all these chaotic, unhealthy, abusive relationships, and cause massive problems when there are none. You're sympathizing with, and trying to save her from the same thing she creates. This is futile. She's a trainwreck, and ALL of the signs are there.
I also wouldn't be so foolish as to believe everything she says. She's making it out like she's innocent and victimized in everything, but she probably caused a lot of problems - which led to these toxic experiences. If you stick with her long enough, you'll see just how innocent she isn't - and how crazy she is. The same patterns that have ALWAYS OCCURED are going to be replayed with you. And she'll play the victim and blame you for everything; over-exaggerate how horrible you are, and make you seem like Satan incarnate.
This is how crazies operate. They do the same **** with EVERYONE, because the problem is THEM. You just don't see it when you're sympathizing and having your head in the clouds - even as these cracks of impending CRAZY are peeking through every step of the way. Don't feel sorry for, give the benefit of the doubt to, or make up excuses for her, or you're going to get sucked right into the chaos. Watch closely for abnormal, unhealthy behavior, and recognize the danger ahead. It's all going to explode in your face, anyway, and you'll be the next victim. :moon:
Edit: Didn't see your follow up. Yup - that's how they are. They play the role of a sweet and innocent victim in need of love, and have the beauty to build themselves up as perfect angels, but they're cruel, manipulative, evil *****es of the worst kind. And crazy.
But when you act like a ****y badass, or whatever, this is the kind of women you're going to attract. They FLOCK to abusive, ****y, unavailable men - because they're dysfunctional themselves.
Notice when she's most responsive to you. She's attracted to unavailable, abusive men who don't care about her, and whom she demands the approval of. She also needs a feeling of walking on egg shells, impending abandonment, neglect, drama, etc - which she's creating with you. This is NORMAL behavior to her.
People mistake craziness and dysfunctionality for "testing", "fear", "confusion", and all this **** - when they're simply just crazy and dysfunctional. This is how they behave, what they respond / are attracted to, seek after, and CREATE. You can't save them from their own chaos. Because you're not crazy - you view everything from a rational standpoint. As well, you are sympathizing with RED FLAGS.
The crazy damsel's always seem like helpless victims in need of saving - but they create and seek out all this turmoil. They NEED drama, failure, rejection, negativity, stress, uncertainty, and to be the victim. That's why they end up in all these chaotic, unhealthy, abusive relationships, and cause massive problems when there are none. You're sympathizing with, and trying to save her from the same thing she creates. This is futile. She's a trainwreck, and ALL of the signs are there.
I also wouldn't be so foolish as to believe everything she says. She's making it out like she's innocent and victimized in everything, but she probably caused a lot of problems - which led to these toxic experiences. If you stick with her long enough, you'll see just how innocent she isn't - and how crazy she is. The same patterns that have ALWAYS OCCURED are going to be replayed with you. And she'll play the victim and blame you for everything; over-exaggerate how horrible you are, and make you seem like Satan incarnate.
This is how crazies operate. They do the same **** with EVERYONE, because the problem is THEM. You just don't see it when you're sympathizing and having your head in the clouds - even as these cracks of impending CRAZY are peeking through every step of the way. Don't feel sorry for, give the benefit of the doubt to, or make up excuses for her, or you're going to get sucked right into the chaos. Watch closely for abnormal, unhealthy behavior, and recognize the danger ahead. It's all going to explode in your face, anyway, and you'll be the next victim. :moon:
Edit: Didn't see your follow up. Yup - that's how they are. They play the role of a sweet and innocent victim in need of love, and have the beauty to build themselves up as perfect angels, but they're cruel, manipulative, evil *****es of the worst kind. And crazy.
But when you act like a ****y badass, or whatever, this is the kind of women you're going to attract. They FLOCK to abusive, ****y, unavailable men - because they're dysfunctional themselves.