Serious Problem: Constantly Insecure About Looks

[DOTD]

This is driving me insane..I'm always checking out myself in mirrors every 15 minutes it seems and I constantly pick out features like "my hair doesn't look good" ..even though it looks fine ..or something else. I hate getting my picture taken or video. I know I'm good looking but it's like whenever I go anywhere I feel everyone is looking at me like I'm hideous or something, I know it's all in my mind but it KILLS my confidence. Even when I dress up great I still have this insecurity about my look. It's gotten a lot worse lately ..it's always on my mind. I know you're your own worse critic, whats the best way to overcome this? It's driving me crazy.


This pretty much sums up what I'm going through...

"Hear, hear! I 100% agree with that. Until a few years ago, I'd always considered myself ugly because I'd always gotten very little attention from the ladies. I thought the only thing I had going for me was that I was a Super Nice Guy, and that's the only reason some (the non-superficial ones) even talked to me. Turns out I'm OK in the looks departement, a bit above average even. What was holding me back: massive shyness and insecurity. Don't let your own mind mess up your life..."

 

[wowiehowie]

Do you have 2 personalities going? One narcissisticaly ranting about looks, hair, pictures, etc..., and the other giving you advice, explanations, and a little pep talk?

Clue me in please?

 

[DOTD]

Thanks alot Jcrew, it did help, now to put it in effect.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

If you want to rid your fears, you must face them

I had the same problem, extreme acne, blotched clothing, frizzy helmet head that IS always out of place.

I decided one day not to let my looks hold me back.

I went out and played in the dirt, like rolled around, I was covered in mud and my clothes were ****, my hair was matted, and my acne was acting up from being in the sun and from being scratched by rocks all day.

But as long as I was excited about life and could joke and laugh with the best of em, there was no problem, I was fooling myself.

You too can win over your fears You just have to face em.

Think of it is bootcamp, you have to face your fear of rejection at the simple ones


You must do with your looks, what you can do without.