serious help needed

[thirteenthstep]

Okay, many people post about not getting attention from women and not getting noticed. I have a friend with an extremely serious problem when it comes to women...it is the complete opposite of this.

The problem is... he gets noticed ALL the time. Every time we go out, walk on the street, go to the mall, women are looking at him, many smiling, many get shy around him. So what is the problem you ask???

He's still very shy around women. He's 23, granted still a bit young, however he needs to learn to lose the fear and grow some balls. He's jacked with muscle popping out of every orifice and wears the best clothes. He's a lucky lucky guy in the looks department, but he told me that whenever a hot woman approaches, his heart starts beating in double time and he gets all sweaty. He also says he feels awkward being the center of attention and having everyone look at him. I guess hes more of an introvert at heart but man, if i could have what he has id be pimpin like crazy!!!

Any help/advice for him would be greatly appreciated. Hope I'm not wasting your time. Is it possible that its all genetic or something??

 

[Dr Don Juan]

It's definetly not genetic, it's a mind set that has become a habit.
How to break it...
Have him every day for 30 days lie/sit down by himself when he will not be disturbed for about 5-10 mins.
Then have him close his eyes and imagine all the times he has been confident in any field whatsoever, have him relive those feelings and sounds, sights, everything (detail will improve as he continues), all while holding his forefinger and thumb together. Then release his fingers and imagine a girl approaching him and being scared, have him in the moment as if it were truly happening, then he must imagine bringing his finger together and tons of confidence flowing into him pushing the fear out, and him being a Don Juan Ü
It's part of NLP and hypnosis.. if he still has problems let me know and il make him a hypnosis session for him to listen to Ü

 

[MrCode]

It just goes to show that good looks and nice style are useless without the right attitude.

I'd recommend you see if you can get your friend to try the DJ Boot Camp. Quite a few guys (including yours truly) are starting it this week, so he won't be alone.

Given what he has going for him, I think he can have a lot of success.

 

[WestCoaster]

DJ Boot Camp.

Needed tool for people who are shy or need to polish their social skills.

It's amazing what just standing tall, smiling, and saying 'hi' can do for your self-esteem as well as the people you're saying 'hi' to. I've worked on it the past few months and I'm amazed how many women say 'hi' to me either in reply or before I say 'hi' to them.

Have him work through the step by step Boot Camp drills. Remember, this is the only place you're gonna get this information. It's not at Barnes & Noble!

* Also, Player Supreme's eye contact game is a good one ... not sure where that post went, but it's priceless.

 

[thirteenthstep]

hey guys!

thanks for the replies!!!

nice nice, good advice given. Yes, this guy is the prime example how it takes way more than good lucks to score (if you are a guy that is). Low self esteem is like a disease! Fo sho! Ill tell him to check out the DJ Bootcamp.


But the core of my question is this.... What the f$%* happens in your childhood, where u can have such good looks, but yet lack the confidence to master the opposite sex. Like, u guys think it revolves around a shy childhood or some other psychoanalytical crap????

 

[Soma]

My old best friend was one of the best looking guys I've ever seen in real life. And you have no idea how many times girls would tell me that. hahah Growing up I'd hate hearing that and I had a lot of envy towards him. But thanks to that situation I used it to enhance my personality and grow as a person.

Anyway, like your friend, my friend SUCKED and still SUCKS with women. Ohhhh the stories...hahah...one time this girl he was on a date with actually told him, "Umm, I gotta get going. I have to go home to brush my cat.". Yeah, she said she had to fvcking brush her cat. It crushed his heart, haha.

I wondered why he was like this, especially since he was a good looking guy. The best answer I can come up with is that it's because his dad abandoned the family when he was a baby. He grew up without a father figure. His mother raised him and she is very docile, a true bookworm homebody. No confidence in herself at all. Obviously this had to rub off on him but it's surprising just how much of it did.

I think he kind of looked up to my father. My dad has always been a confident, funny guy, and a charmer. He's only 5'4 (short!!) but he get's women no prob. I had that to look up to as a kid but my friend didn't. He always liked being around my dad.