Seraph's Boot Camp Journal

[Seraph]

Week 5

Oh boy, week 5, week 5. I'm supposed to be maintaining ten active numbers. All week. Guess who doesn't have any except Trina's? This guy. And I have no excuse. Saturday should not have been the last day for me to go out and approach. I don't even have this Saturday to use because it's my birthday (and I'm not stressing over sh!t then- no hw, no girls, just having fun ).

I guess the overall mood from the start of the week was kind of muted, kind of dull. Like I didn't really want to go get any numbers. I have no idea why I was thinking like that, but I'll just chalk it up to fear. Yesterday I made a concious effort to at least try and talk up some more girls and heres how it went-

Class 1- Remember last week when one of the girls went with me to Starbucks and paid for my stuff? Well, this is the same class. Blonde 1 was going to go, but backed out before we left class. Yesterday morning she dropped a comment about coffee and how we went to Starbucks. A little light went off in my head so I went with it. She talked about how she likes coffee with alot of sugar and how expressos don't do much for her. I think she said she was going to get some later, but she kind of mumbled it.

That's why about 15 mins later I said-

Me: Blonde1, did you say you were going to get some coffee today?
Blonde1: Yea, probably.
Me: Ok, because I'm going to leave for Starbucks to get a Vanilla frap in a few mins.
Blond1: Cool, just let me know when you're about to leave.

This exchange happened during one of the lulls in class convo so it was pretty quiet when it went down. I made sure to word it so I didn't ask to join her, because I wanted to make it seem like she was latching on with me, following me like the other girl did last week (the other girl was absent that day btw.- Would have been nice to have 2 chicks follow me out of the class). We leave soon after, with my friend David tagging along and she also invited her AFC friend with her.

I chatted her up while those two went to the bathroom and we were soon in the elevator on the way down. Everyone was talking and she mumbled something about CVS. I thought- " uh oh, sh!t test". When her and the AFC turned to go to CVS, I asked them where they were going. She said she was just going to go to CVS. I waved her off (laughing of course) and went my way with david. We wound up at BK since they serve breakfast early and had food there. When we came back I didn't talk to her for the rest of class (didn't ignore her, just did some work and chatted with others) and she kept making these little sighs throughout the class.

Class 2- Blonde 2, who was in Class 1 also, must have gotten jealous of my attention to the only other hot girls in class besides her. I say this because she did an unsual thing considering her habits and sat next to where I usually sit. I came in late and sat next to this other blonde (Joanie), which is ok since it's right behind Blonde 2. I didn't talk to Joanie much, but I did chat up Blonde 2 for a min.

Approach, approach, approach. Damn I need to start this now.

 

[Ever onward]

Did you get the 10 rejections? I think you skipped that part....Your bootcamp was really inspirational until you skipped ahead.

 

[Seraph]

I'm still working on the 10 rejections, sadly =p But I'm also not trying to fall behind with week 5, either. The goals are close together, but do you think I should only focus on the rejections?

 

[Unforsaken]

Originally posted by Seraph
I'm still working on the 10 rejections, sadly =p But I'm also not trying to fall behind with week 5, either. The goals are close together, but do you think I should only focus on the rejections?

I thought you would be a natural at it, by now... lol

 

[Ever onward]

I don't know, just ask yourself WWWD? What Would Walden Do? LOL! Keep up the good work though, you are making awesome progress. This is probably the best bootcamp Journal I've seen since Walden's.

 

[Seraph]

Originally posted by Unforsaken
I thought you would be a natural at it, by now... lol

Nah, I still have my shy moments

I'll focus on the rejections then. It just sucks that it seems like it takes me twice as long as Walden to get this stuff done.

 

[david90]

I have an idea. Although I think it is a bit cheating.

why don't u do the approach for 10 rejections and the approach for phone # at the same time? If you get a rejection, it counts for week 5 or something? whatever...

 

[Ever onward]

Don't worry about taking too long. I think Walden stretched one of his weeks out to over 13 days!

The great thing about this exercise is that you are trying to get the rejections! Imagine you're in the mall and a really hot woman walks by. Normally, you would be afraid to approach because you have no idea what to say or do to get her number. But going for the rejection, on the other hand, takes the pressure off. It doesn't matter what you say or do, you're trying to be rejected. Have fun with and worse case scenario you score a lot of numbers.

 

[Seraph]

Holy sh!t i did it. I can't believe it, but I did it.

Wow. Today was good. Really good. Let me start from the begining. Tomorrow is my 19th birthday. I was sick and tired of coming here with nothing good to report, so I decided to do something different today. I decided to get 3 rejections.

Now you might be thinking " oh, he set some goals again"...nope. Goals are nice, but what I needed was a requirement. I made sure to tell myself that 3 rejections were required before I came back home, no if, and's or buts. And I reached my goal.

Girl #1
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Store- Forever 21

I needed to pick up my check for work and this store isn't too far from it. I went here last Saturday and choked so I decided to come back again. She was half asian and half white (7). You know what I noticed about this whole rejection thing? The tough part isn't asking for the number, it's not even the approach. It's the one second before you actually open your mouth and speak to the person, the one moment before you put yourself out there that is the toughest to deal with. But once you get over that, it's a peice of cake.

Right before I entered the store I had the strongest urge ever to run back to my car. To go home, play some video game and just chill without any worry of putting myself out there. But I realized, " Is that how I want this day to end? If I died tonight, would I look back and be happy with just running away all the time? I had the strongest urge to just go. To just walk away.

But I didn't.

I go right up to her and say " hi, i'm Seraph" and extend my hand ala bible handshake. She thought i was just a normal customer coming to ask a question , but she gets this " taken aback" look for a sec her eyes were locked to my mouth the entire time (green eyes, might have been contacts) then smiles and says her name is leila, while shaking my hand.Then i say

Me: i was walking by outside, and saw you in here, so i decided to see if you wanted to go out sometime.
Leila: (smile/laugh) I'm married
Me: (laugh) Ok, have a nice day
Leila: (smile) you too

And I left. I felt really good about myself and thought " wow, if I can knock one out, then I can do one more ".


Girl #2
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Store- Hell if I remember the name

So I went to a few stores, no hot girls I'd bang, so I wound up at some store where they sell a variety of things for your house. Saw an asian chick, about a 5.5, 6. Nothing spectacular, but I was here to get rejections, not get numbers. She has her arms folded from the get-go, and is in a low populated area, so I know it's going to be a toughie. I go up, give the " Hi, I'm Seraph" line and extend my hand. Her arms never leave position, and she says " Hi..." I sense I'm going to get nowhere, so I go straight for the line " i was wondering if you'd like to go out with me sometime". Her response? " No, sorry. " I said ok, have a nice day and walked away. Funniest thing? I didn't even get phased by it. As soon as I was able to just start talking to her, I knew the rest was easy. I sort of felt like a weird salesman when she didnt even move her arms and acted like that, but the best is to come with number 3.

Girl #3
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Store- Blockbuster

It took me a bit to find the last one, i told myself " I'll go to giant and blockbuster".But then i thought " but one of my highschool classmates works there (blockbuster) somedays...what if they are there? il look stupid"

So i made sure to go to blockbuster first.

Saw this white girl, forgot her name. She was a 6.5, good sized titties, not really an ass. I went up to her, did the name thing and she did the sideways look towards the exit after shaking my hand and said shes kinda in a hurry. She didn't give her name and I had to wait a sec before she shook my hand. I had to ask her name, she seemed kind of weirded out that I'd be randomly talking to her there, like I had another motive. It was hillarious
Anyway, asked her, she said no shes only in town for acouple of days. Asked her why, found out she goes to VT. I said ok, have a nice day. When I walked out, I was like " wow....I actually did it. I got 3 rejections. Took me like 7 stores, and 2 hours but I did it. "

You'd be surprised what you can do when you put your mind to it.

 

[Seraph]

Side note: Thanks to ever onward, and david (as usual) for keeping me in good sprits.

Also got some quotes that helped me out-

It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not.

There is no point in living if you can't feel alive- The World is Not Enough

Do what you can now, because tomorrow isn't promised today.


Also, just so you know, going up to girls your own race is much easier. I know I said this in one of my posts before, but I just wanted to make it clear. I asked out a black girl last week, so I made sure to go for asian girls this week, and even the white girl wasn't a letdown. I think that if you can get 10 rejections from a variety of girls of different races, ages and colors then you will be good to go.

Oh one last thing- Girl #1 (woman actually, she was like in her mid twenties) had a priceless expression when I extended my hand and said my name. " Taken aback" doesn't give it justice. It's like she went from helping a customer mode to " whoa he wants to fvck me" mode. I sort of felt like a salesman when I went up to them. I don't know if it's because I look young, because they don't usually have guys coming up to them like that, or because I pretty much cut to the chase every single time- but they all seem kinda put off when I approached them. Maybe it's all three. I'll work on getting better at this later, and if you have any tips, feel free to give them to me. I'm going to take it easy tomorrow, you guys have fun out there.

 

[Ever onward]

" Taken aback" doesn't give it justice. It's like she went from helping a customer mode to " whoa he wants to fvck me" mode.

That is the funniest sh!t I've ever read lol, way to go man!

I sort of felt like a salesman when I went up to them. I don't know if it's because I look young, because they don't usually have guys coming up to them like that, or because I pretty much cut to the chase every single time- but they all seem kinda put off when I approached them. Maybe it's all three

That's a good mentality to have. Don't even worry about getting rejected. It's a numbers game just like every good salesman knows.

You've inspired me, I'm going to enlist in bootcamp!

 

[dualman7]

you're a true role model bro. I started doing this thing because of you and your journal, and it sounds like you have gotten a few others to enlist aswell. You not only owe it to us, but you owe it to yourself to dominate the bootcamp. I am a couple weeks behind you, make us proud!

 

[TurboLover]

Keep it up. You were in the zone, 3 approaches in 2 hours is not bad, actually really good. If you go everyday with that mentality, this is going to be a very interesting Bootcamp. And at the end I have no doubt you will being laying some chicks. Get some white ones in there, because they get dirty easier.

 

[Seraph]

Thanks for the kind words all, I feel like I can't let you down now. Tomorrow I'm going to keep my eyes peeled and try to continue with the rejections. I was looking back at what goals I wanted in the begining of this- here they are for those that don't remember them :

-When a situation arises, no matter what it is, to be confident
enough to calmly asses, adapt and react to the situation accordingly.

-To have the ability and confidence to go up to and at least try to number close a girl that I find attractive, even in the most random of occurances.

-Being able to assert myself and not back down to anything. Basically to be the best man I can be.

I'm not done with this bootcamp by any means, so I still have a long way to go. I just needed to see them again and harden my resolve to get to where I wanted (and still want) to be.

 

[david90]

good job on getting rejections. I gotta do a couple of my own

 

[apodyopsis]

hey man, keep up the good work! just look at where u were when u started, and where u are now... and itl only get better as time goes on

AND, were ahead of this big wave of new bootcamps , so we have to set a good example

 

[One on One]

Originally posted by Seraph
Nah it's actually quite nice, just make sure to not park in an alleyway . I heard from a few of my friends that Platnium is just a big room, have you been there? How is it IYO?

Platinum is cramped even worse than Dream. It's got 3 floors, but it is very small. The basement is like a dungeon where it's all dark and guys rape girls. Very ghetto and immature. I don't like Dream either anymore. I went there this past Saturday and it seems to have changed. It was so crowded and ghetto. These two ugly girls were actually showing their ****s on the platform thing where all the girls dance....I swear it was like a strip club that night. DC clubs suck, IMO.

I sent you a PM, Seraph....hadn't noticed this bootcamp before. We probably live pretty close. I saw your post about Potomac Mills....I went there before, too, and I think it's a crappy mall. It's big so you'd think there'd be opportunities, but I think it's pretty ghetto and the girls aren't open to you. A good place that I have been wanting to try is Reston Town Center. It's a chill area and the girls seem to be more open. I enjoy just relaxing there.

 

[Seraph]

Yea I haven't been in a rush to check out Platnium, I don't feel like heading out to DC for a small crappy club. I haven't been to dream in almost a month now, so maybe it got worse, I don't know. I don't go to clubs often so I can't be more helpful in picking a good one out for you. Although, this blonde in my sculpture class that I was talking to today said that Baltimore clubs are pretty good. She hasn't been to Dream yet, but wants to go with one of her girlfriends. I sent you a reply OnO- and I seriously need to start checking more malls out (Reston maybe, Landmark) soon so I can start stacking up the rejections again. If you find any good places, let me know.

Sorry I haven't been posting here for the past couple of days folks, Sunday through today has been busy with me getting my finals all worked out. I had a 12 inch clay sculpture that I had to do, and a 300 (10 second) frame animation final. If anyone wants to see it, just let me know where I can upload the 70.8mb avi file and I'll post the link here.

It was so funny going to class these past few days because I wasn't the only one stressing out over finals. It seemed like the average amount of sleep for us Animation majors was like 3.5 hours. You have no idea how tedious and time consuming drawing 300 frames is. Especially making it smooth and flow normally. I don't mean to sound like I'm whining, because I love to do it. Theres no other feelng quite like seeing something you spent time creating come to life. I guess having a kid would be similar, but I don't so this will have to do

Anyway, I haven't had time (or the energy) to get any rejections. It's sort of become a ritual for me to do this crap near the end of the week..and it's that time yet again. Expect to see more rejections here soon, I can't stop now.

 

[Seraph]

First I'll mention something that happened yesterday, then I'll go on to what happened so far today.

Yesterday I decided to try out Apod's "scanning" technique, and the funniest response I got was near the end of the day. I was in a hallway of school, walking by 3 girls and the hottest one was the one talking. We made eye contact, and after that I made sure to let her know I was checking her out. She actually stumbled on her words as I passed by! It was fvcking hillarious. Other times when I've scanned girls have smoothed out their shirts and messed with their hair, it's really funny stuff. You all should try it out.


Anyway, back to today. It's only 2pm, and I plan to go out later after I mow the lawn so we'll see how the rest of the day goes. This morning (around 12) I got up planning to go to the bank and get a haircut. Now, I went to the bank with the intent of doing the whole rejection thing this afternoon. I always think before I go into the bank " I hope that cute spanish girl is there, I'd try to get her number". You know, the normal type of thing you would think about if a hot girl works somewhere where you go frequently. Well, I go in today, and for the first time in a long time, she's actually there. Not only that, but the other teller is at the drive through, so I know I'm going to be dealing with her. I think " No way I can walk out of here without trying to get her number" but at the same time, my heart is beating a mile a minute because..well I didn't really expect her to be there. It's freaky as sh!t when that type of thing happens, an it catches you off guard. She's dealing with a lady at the moment, so I breathe, relax and basically tell myself I'm going to do it. The other teller finishes with his cutsomer at almost the exact same time as a random guy walks in and stands behind me in the line. The cute spanish girl finishes up with her customer, and it's my turn at bat.
((Now or never...))

So I do my transaction like normal, and the past few times I've had her as the teller, she has always asked " is there anything else I can help you with"- you know, like it's company procedure or something. Fvck, everytime she says that I'm just thinking like " a bj would be nice " or " how about your number" or some crap like that. I usually come in lookin slick, but this time my hair is lookin a bit wild, clothes are kinda busted, and yet...I ask her anyway.

Her: Is there anything else I can help you with?
Me: Yea, I was wondering if you would like to go out sometime
Her (smile): sorry, I have a boyfriend
Me(smile): No problem. Have a nice day
Her: You too

((Oh man, did I just do that?)) It happened again. Everyone else around you completly dissapears once you focus on the girl and start talking to her. Not only that, but it was a helluva lot easier than it used to be. So far I have 2 asians,1 white, and 1 spanish rejection. I need to get some rejections from a girl that's with a friend. I haven't gone up to 2 girls yet, I think I need to work on it soon. Also, like the spanish bank teller, I need to start asking girls that are so hot you'd take them right the fvck there and bang the sh!t out of them. The girls last friday were alright, but not that hot. If I can get a few hot girl rejections under my belt I should be good. 4 down, 6 to go. If I can nab anymore while I'm out later today I'll post again here.

 

[Seraph]

Hmm, kind of boring day. I'll recap what happened today and then fill you all in on the past few days and why I haven't posted.

Today I went to the library with the intent of getting books on how to be a leader, and maybe some pyscological books also. After about 20 minutes (damn those librarians are really nice and helpful) I walked out with 11 books. 9 on leadership, 1 on body language and another titled " How to argue and win everytime". The next stop on my agenda was this mall that I vaguely knew how to get to, so I could get some more rejections. Well on my way there I stopped off at a TJMaxx, and some other random stores just with the hope of some random HB chilling inside. No such luck. I drove for about 15 minutes looking for the mall but I couldn't find it. I'll have to get the directions later.

Truth be told, I haven't been stressing over getting these rejections since Saturday and I think I know why- I've been to most of the places around here. Both malls in close distance, tons of stores around here, grocery stores, etc etc. It's kind of boring to keep going to them to get rejections/numbers and I usually end up lost when I try to expand my driving knowledge. I'll have to buckle down, get directions and really try to expand soon.

Next post will talk about what I've done for the past few days.