Sending flowers is AFC?

[Tyler]

I've seen it said a couple of times that "sending flowers is AFC." I completely agree that sending flowers to try to "get" a girl IS an AFC move. However, I would hate to think that people are under the impression that one should NEVER send flowers under any circumstance.

Compare it to buying a case of beer for a buddy. You'd do it if you were feeling nice and wanted to pay a random act of kindness to someone. You wouldn't feel obligated to, or expect anything because of it. Girls like flowers as much as we like beer...mmm, maybe not quite as much.

Point here is that you don't have to become a narcissist or a jerk to be successful with women. There's a line between "putting yourself first" and "not caring about anyone but yourself."

Thoughts on this?

 

[Kodiac]

Ok..well, when she sends me a case of beer, ill send her some flowers

But other than that, i do agree to a certain extent.

If you do decide to send her flowers, at least wait for a decent amount of time ie going out for more than 2 months.
Don't overdo it, don't spend big $'s
Do it very very infrequently, she has to earn it!

 

[PimpWannabe]

I completely agree with you on this. Tho I would'nt
send her any flowers intill I was well into the relationship.
A random act of kindness after a few months could restore
intrest in you and keep your realtionship fresh. And it doesnt
nessessarly have to be flowers, anything will work.

-Just my 2 cents

 

[stormwriter]

The thing that sucks about sending flowers is that some women don't like it, cause it takes no creativity and little effort.

"FTD? Ok, her name is Jill. I want the card to say, "you are great." Here's my credit card number. Bye"

That takes all of 3 minutes and very little creativity.

However, on the flip side, when a chick gets those dumb colored weeds in front of all her dumb friends, she will get all excited.

SO, in summary, i would think of something else she hasn't experienced. I would totally rather have a chick say,

"Thank you so much for the card you made me! I was totally blown away. I have NEVER EVER in my life received a card like that before. You are VERY VERY cool and i can't wait to see you again!"

(which is almost exactly what a chick wrote me after i made her a funny Valentines Day card)

Rather than her say, "oh, thanks for the flowers you sent, that was nice."

 

[numlock]

I think this issue is not so much about sending flowers, but gift giving in general. It's true that just sending flowers is not a very creative and thoughtful gift idea, since all you have to do is pick up a bouquet from the flower store and hand it to her.

When giving gifts, girls aren't so much concerned about the actual gift as they are about how it was presented. You can go out and buy a cheapo $10 gift and spend $15 spicing it up and coming up with a clever way to give it to her, and find that she will be far more appreciative.

With flowers, there isn't much you can do, because the flower shop inevitably does all the work for you. Instead, i think flowers should compliment or supplement another gift. You should use flowers to accent another gift idea to make the entire package creative and memorable.

 

[unixguy]

alright i am breaking here .. but what is an AFC?


unixguy

 

[laydee1]

I'm sorry
I've wanted to say this since I joined

RTFM!!!!!

Or even the FAQ on the home page

I feel so big now

 

[unixguy]

Originally posted by laydee1
I'm sorry
I've wanted to say this since I joined

RTFM!!!!!

Or even the FAQ on the home page

I feel so big now

Ok I checked FAQ and the home page and there is nothing about AFC.

 

[Ko-B]

To the dude above...

You post around Rapmusic.com , don't you?

 

[Ko-B]

I meant laydee..

 

[laydee1]

OK
Click on
The DJ Bible (in blue letters underlined at top of page)
Click on Frequently Asked Questions (in black in middle of page)

Can't miss it
AFC
It's there

 

[laydee1]

Originally posted by Ko-B
To the dude above...

You post around Rapmusic.com , don't you?

Err...not a dude - a girly,
and errr no

 

[xblitz44x]

AFC is to feel like you have to be somebody else to impress another person. And being somebody else can mean giving flowers and expecting that is what is going to get a woman to like you, or to wait 5 days to call and expect THAT is what is going to get a woman to like you. Both are AFC, in both cases you are not YOU, you are transforming yourself to the person you THINK she wants.

Drop the rules, drop what ya heard, drop what this society has brainwashed you to believe and go out there and learn for yourself. If you want to get flowers just because, then do it - if you want to call her the next day, do it...if you don't want to give a girl flowers because you don't have the money or because you don't have the time - don't do it.

Fvck, half of these so called "DJ's" ARE AFC and think they are masta playa pimps. They listen to a bunch of guys on the internet about "targeting a hot HB, neg-hitting her while isolating her from the obstacles and closing by anchoring her feelings and going GM because MM wasn't penetrating her bytch shield"...grow up. Think about it, what's the difference between acting a certain way because our 'bible' says so, and acting a certain way (like buying flowers) because other people tell us so?

Be your own person. This game is nothing more than being confident with YOURSELF. Don't confuse that with "appearing confident", and "fake it till you make it". People who say that have confidence in the methods, tricks, tactics, tools, rules, not in themselves. And they will never have confidence in themselves as long as they attribute the success they have to their "game'. When you have true confidence in yourself then it's just a matter of going through enough women until you've found the ones that are interested in you, and advancing the interaction. That's it. If you're thinking more than that, you're overcomplicating things.

-Blitz

 

[laydee1]

Beautifully put xblitz44x

I just thought he wanted the definition