I set up a date on the phone with a HB on tuesday for sunday which is quite far in advance so I should at least give a heads up on saturday or sunday to just let her know its still on. Is something like 'hey, as I recall I think we said 8pm tomorrow at the station. See you then' is that ok or does it sound afc?
sending a confirmation text for sunday?
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If she is interested in you, she will show without any confirmation! If she doesn't show, or lord forbid... Forgets! She wasn't worth your time anyway. Spend that time you set aside for the date and find yourself a HB that is worth your effort.Confused said:
I personally wouldn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she is on my mind. Let her wonder where you are, why you are too busy to confirm, like most AFC's would. By scoring the number, making the call, setting the date, and planning the date; you have already done your part as far as showing that you are indeed interested in her.
Now, all you have to do is execute!
To living the good life!
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Edit: if you cannot resist the urge to confirm... Do not sound incompetent by "acting" as if you don't know what time "you" set the date for.
If you must confirm... And I have a terrible feeling you are going to. LoL
I'd call and use something like
Me: Hey HB! Its DJ and I am afraid I have some terrible news...
HB: Oh no! What's going on DJ?
Me: Well, there is no need to get into all the details... But, something came up and I won't be able to meet until 8:15.
HB: Oh, I see... That works for me. What's happened?
Me: Details, Details... I will see you at 8:15 *click*
Yes send her that text. Stop thinking 'does this sound afc' . Istead, think what is the most lean back way of saying something and go with that. Always trust your gut instinct, the fact that you are asking this means that you are at least aware of the existence of AFC behavior. That is enough to recognize when something is afc.
I forgot where I read it on the board, but someone else mentioned that if you want to throw her a reminder do it smoothly.
Text her something along the lines of "hey, something came up on sunday, I might run a little late".
It makes you seem less needy/busy and reminds her at the same time. Some other guys might have some better input....
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For some reason I didnt see what in$tinct said. But its the general same idea.
Text her something along the lines of "hey, something came up on sunday, I might run a little late".
It makes you seem less needy/busy and reminds her at the same time. Some other guys might have some better input....
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For some reason I didnt see what in$tinct said. But its the general same idea.
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If I say something like 'hey if the weathers ok tomorrow and we have time, I got an idea for after our drink if the place I still open. I'll reveal all later. See u at the station at 8' is this better? I want to send this on saturday rather than during the day on sunday. The problem was setting up the date on tuesday which is quite a long time from sunday. Does this still sound needy talking more about what I have planned for the date?
The thing is I don't wanna waste gas money and my time showing up without confirming cos from my perspective if I was a girl I wouldn't want to get all made up and ready just to be stood up so she should at least check if we're still on so maybe its better I wait till sunday and say I'll be a bit late. I'm conscious though given she likes to get really drunk 1 weekend night a week partying that she doesn't try to cancel on me. Her interest hass dwindled since we met at the party and I know I'll need to raise it IF we meet. I got no other options right now and may not get any this weekend so I'd like to consolidate what I have. Does the text I wrote in the post above sound needy?
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I just don't understand why you are "assuming" that she has totally forgot about the date, when you haven't?Confused said:
Can you give more information on the girl? Where you met, your approach, convo, close? And more about the call setting the date?
If you set the hook deep enough; nothing good can come from a follow-up.
Oh! And why did you set the date for Sun, with a Tuesday call anyway?
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The danger with not sending a confirmation is that if the girl is timid, she may chicken out and pretend to have forgotten it. It's not that her interest level is low, it's that she may be a little nervous and have stagefright because she knows Confused is going to be trying to pound that pvssy. Sending a confirmation gets rid of that excuse.
As others have said, do it in a non-needy way, be smooth, don't ask if it's still on, just send a reminder. As Mystery would say, it's the polite thing to do.
thing is when do i send it?
the day before i.e. tomorrow or on the day?
i was going to send:
'hey if the weathers ok tomorrow and we have time, I got an idea for after our drink if the place is still open. I'll reveal more later. See u at the station at 8'
is this too needy?
the alternative is to wait till sunday then send the reminder on the premise im going to be a bit late, but given that the date was set up on tuesday it's possible she'd have maybe forgotten unless her interest is super high, i mean even i'd forget if i had lots of HBs i was alternating day to day.
the danger is that if i send it on saturday afternoon and she doesn't reply, it gives her the option to cancel on sunday with the reply.
i had to choose sunday because at first she was like 'this week i cant do, and i know before i said i couldn't do it cos i was busy but i've been finishing so late at work etc' this is when i realised her interest wasn't as high as it was at the party, and it's been 3 weeks since we first met.
i knew that phone call i had to raise interest and rebuild the rapport which i didn't do amazingly well. is it better to leave it till sunday to confirm rather than doing it tomorrow given that her interest isn't as high as it was when we first met?
i dont know if she's in the 'interested but not sure' category but i dont want to do anything to scupper meeting her.
the day before i.e. tomorrow or on the day?
i was going to send:
'hey if the weathers ok tomorrow and we have time, I got an idea for after our drink if the place is still open. I'll reveal more later. See u at the station at 8'
is this too needy?
the alternative is to wait till sunday then send the reminder on the premise im going to be a bit late, but given that the date was set up on tuesday it's possible she'd have maybe forgotten unless her interest is super high, i mean even i'd forget if i had lots of HBs i was alternating day to day.
the danger is that if i send it on saturday afternoon and she doesn't reply, it gives her the option to cancel on sunday with the reply.
i had to choose sunday because at first she was like 'this week i cant do, and i know before i said i couldn't do it cos i was busy but i've been finishing so late at work etc' this is when i realised her interest wasn't as high as it was at the party, and it's been 3 weeks since we first met.
i knew that phone call i had to raise interest and rebuild the rapport which i didn't do amazingly well. is it better to leave it till sunday to confirm rather than doing it tomorrow given that her interest isn't as high as it was when we first met?
i dont know if she's in the 'interested but not sure' category but i dont want to do anything to scupper meeting her.
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I've been in your position before. I have scheduled dates 2 weeks out in advance.
Let me cut to the chase. You are not afraid that she will forget per se. You are actually afraid she has low interest in you and thus will forget about the date.
Again, the theme is the same: 'You are the Prize to be won.' Adopt this simple mindset. It is ridiculously effective, and luckily most guys don't have the balls to adopt it.
You are the Prize to be won. She has to prove herself to you. So don't remind her about the date. If she forgets, then that is a sign of low interest, and you immediately NEXT her.
If she remembers, then obviously she has proven herself to you a little.
If you have balls, you won't remind her.
Funny thing is, when I was in your situation, I didn't remind her, and she actually called me up to remind me that we were still on!
Let me cut to the chase. You are not afraid that she will forget per se. You are actually afraid she has low interest in you and thus will forget about the date.
Again, the theme is the same: 'You are the Prize to be won.' Adopt this simple mindset. It is ridiculously effective, and luckily most guys don't have the balls to adopt it.
You are the Prize to be won. She has to prove herself to you. So don't remind her about the date. If she forgets, then that is a sign of low interest, and you immediately NEXT her.
If she remembers, then obviously she has proven herself to you a little.
If you have balls, you won't remind her.
Funny thing is, when I was in your situation, I didn't remind her, and she actually called me up to remind me that we were still on!
If you must text, which is reasonable seeing as its a huge gap, tell her on the day you will be late.
'Hey its confused, im running late, il be there 20 past 8'
and yes, she will more than likely text you anyway.
'Hey its confused, im running late, il be there 20 past 8'
and yes, she will more than likely text you anyway.
Yes. Any text is too needy. Any unnecesery communication is too needy. Dont do anything untill you are in person.
Crap I got a bigger problem than her just cancelling. The weather forecast for where I am on sunday is going to be heavy rain and gusty winds.. Given that arranging a date with her during the week or fri/sat is out of the question the following sunday seems obvious choice.. I'll wait till sunday to see how bad the weather is but what should I text her to not seem like I'm not interested or desperate? She doesn't drive and we're going for a drink so she needs to get a bus to the station to meet me there and we'll walk to the bar which is about 5mins walk. I could maybe tell her to meet me at the bar, but she'd still have to walk out in the drenching rain. I suspect a flake is on the cards with no fault of my own or cos of low interest.
Very well said Trader! I have read many treads on here from the Pooks, Mr Fingers... EctTrader said:
Spent hours reading all of the knowledge those men put on here; I might start digging through your posts next. Listen to this man Confused!
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Well? It's sunday. Game on? Game off?
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What happened??
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DJ Confused? Ok guys, whats your bet? I say it's bad news, because if it was good he would have come here & reported. No?
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If you have to ask whether it is AFC or not, then it is as AFC as it can possibly be!Confused said:
Where is your confidence? Where are your balls?? YOU WILL SEND HER WHATEVER GODDAMN TEXT YOU WANNA SEND HER!!! AND YOU WILL NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT SHYT!!!
cmon dude.........were you raised by a single mother or something?? Where in the hell is your masculinity?? A real man learns his lessons from experience, and if a text like that fails a few times in a row, then the man will not ever send that kind of text again.
Seriously.....i cannot understand the mindset from which you are coming from........why can't you just use some logic in your life and stop being a total pvssy???
From your thread here, you actually want random strangers on the internet to tell you whether a text you sent to a chick "sounded AFC" or not..........do you not realize how dumb that even sounds???
GET A GRIP..........you are a total and uber utter chump!!! Can you please do me a huge favor, and take all of the feelings you have for me right now, and store that up in your balls, with hopes that one day you realize how much you hate being this big of a pvssy, and you truly want to start THINKING and ACTING like a real man!!!!!!!
you send that text to her whether she likes it or not, its your life, its your phone, and its your goddamn opinion.........and if it is a sh1tty text that is going to kill her attraction, then goddamnit you will learn from that and not make this mistake again
Please make me happy and LEARN from this experience
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wow.