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DJism at its very core is a thing known as self-esteem. Most of these concepts come from the DJ bible

When you have low you feel like shat but when you have high self-esteem you are much more happy and in a better mood. Let me show you what I mean.

Signs of High Self-Esteem

1.Accept yourself (good or bad)
You must accept yourself to understand your individual flaws.

2.admit mistakes
this goes with accepting yourself. You must do this to understand and fix those mistakes. Such as your weak. Recognize it and fix it by waight lifting

3.take responsibility for your actions
You should take responsibilities for your actions good or bad. You hurt someone don't just say "well he did it"

4.feel competent
Feel like you know what the hell you are doing. If you don't know what is going on you are unsure of yourself

5.willing to learn and try new things
Take risks in your life. Like a small one is eating somewhere you don't know about or driving somewhere you don't know about.

6.take chances
If you don't take chances you have already failed yourself but if you take a chance so what if you fail at least you will know what you are doing

7.use your abilities in activities
Don't try and hide from success take risks and see what happens



Signs of low self-Esteem

1.Peer pressure
You falter and go with the group. If you don't like something, stand up for yourself and don't do it.

2.worry to much about what others think about you
you let others say how you should dress and do things. Once you get rid of those bonds of stupidity and try to fit in. You will learn real freedom to do what you want within the areas of law.

3.self-esteem will go up and down
this goes hand in hand with number 2. you let others define how your self-esteem will be that day.

4.few satisfying relationships
this doesn't mean just with women. This means with people in general. People must have a large base of friends and people to hang out with.

5.Bully others or threaten others they see as weaker than yourself
You become arrogant and thinking that you are better than everyone else. You must realize that you are making yourself look like a fool. Even if people are laughing with you, you are the chump because you might have just lost a person that could have become a friend

18 ways to improve your self-esteem

1.asssit others

2. find a passion
right from the bible it says to do that(RE Pook)

3.self-improvement
A big thing on this website

4. build a network of supportive friends
Yes you should have many friends

5.Surround yourself with people who respect, approve, and accept you for you
surround yourself with people who are working with the same cause that you are. Such as you notice how business people stick with other business people and not with drug bags and poor people because they don't work the same as you so this might just hurt yourself

6. learn from your mistakes
only idiots do the same thing over and over and wait for a different result

7. don't let rejections and putdowns affect you
Right out of the bible

8. affirminations
Right out of the bible

9.look at weakenesses and improvements
look at your weaknesses. See them for what they are and fix them

10. congratulate yourself on everything that you do that is good

11. Stay in school
Knowledge is power

12.improve your mindset

13. practice your passions

14. get training in an area of interest
Become a jack-of-all-trades

15. make a list of qualities, skills, and talents
make a list and continue to make that list bigger and bigger

16. avoid engaging in self-destructive habits
avoid things in which you might end up having problems with

17. volunteer

18. set concrete goals and accomplish them
So you are skinny plan this out.
6 steps to improve your self-esteem
a. Select a goal
b. List what you will do to reach that goal
c. Identify others who can help you and support your efforts
d. give yourself an identified period of time to reach your goal
e. build in several checkpoints to see how you are doing
f. Give yourself a reward once you have achieved it

If you noticed from the entire post alot of DJ qualities come alive from the thing known as self-esteem. I gave you ways to improve it. Now get out there and get it.

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Matt Rogers

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Great thread. Lack of self-esteem is the root of a lot of AFCism-determined the women won't like them as they are, they feel the need to go out of their way to impress the woman and get her to like them.

For me low self-esteem was mostly about perfectionism. I have always wanted to be perfect and have high standards for myself.
I have learnt over time to loosen up, accept myself, and set more realistic goals and not get upset if I don't reach them.
This has made me a lot more relaxed and happier.
 

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Im of the opinion that self esteem and self respect are the most basic foundations of becoming an attractive man. You confidence, dominance, attitude and every other attractive trait that women look for in a man is a direct result of his own self image. Your self image is absolutely paramount in how you are perceived by other people as they will only respect you as much as you respect yourself. If you have no respect for yourself, people wont have any respect for you either.

Self respect should be your #1 priority.
 

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Originally posted by James Olmstead
Im of the opinion that self esteem and self respect are the most basic foundations of becoming an attractive man. You confidence, dominance, attitude and every other attractive trait that women look for in a man is a direct result of his own self image. Your self image is absolutely paramount in how you are perceived by other people as they will only respect you as much as you respect yourself. If you have no respect for yourself, people wont have any respect for you either.

Self respect should be your #1 priority.
Amen to that!! I take it this is coming from the heart since you have 31 years under your belf. Spoken like a true champion. Looks, height, intelligence, money will not do damned thing if you have low-self esteem.
 

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bump for WHJ
 

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bumping up some of my older work
 

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bump.

good post comic:) ...
and just because i can...:kick:
 

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comic this post is so concise and great that i almost wanna have butt seks with you my man.

almost....;) :woo:
 

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good post except for the part about having many friends its still the same as depending on people for your happiness. one can never have a group of 50 close friends thats impossible.
 

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Here, this should pretty much gives you a different perspective on self-esteem:

Note that I would strongly suggest reading the whole article which is quite fascinating if the whole self-esteem paradox is of some interest to you.

http://www.geocities.com/forbidden_area/esteem.html

Remember, Key Point #1: Self-esteem must, in some way, be earned.

Remember, Key Point #2: Self-esteem must be earned repeatedly. It is never permanent.

Remember, Key Point #3: Self-esteem leads intermittently to self-damnation.

Remember, Key Point #4: Self-esteem usually promotes social and behavioral inhibition.

Remember, Key Point #5: A compulsive drive for self-esteem leads to frequent anxiety.

As an immediate corollary, we deduce Key Point #6: Self-esteem- related anxiety is an obstacle to achieving those goals essential to our self-esteem!

So, remember, Key Point #7: To overcome self-esteem-related anxiety and inhibition, recognize that your choice is not between self-esteem and self-condemnation. Your choice, rather, is between establishing an overall self-image and establishing no self-image. View your external actions and traits as desirable or undesirable, but abstain from esteeming or damning yourself as a whole.
 

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wow thats really good. thanks man.
 
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