SELF DESTRUCTION
the act of destroying oneself.
So often time is spent in SELF - IMPROVEMENT trying to build up something of who even knows what?
What are you building upon?
Would you build your new mansion upon loose soil? Would you place your dream home upon ANY OLD PLOT of land?
Would you settle your hopes and dreams of your future upon a woman who is shattered and broken because you're using emotion and not logic to judge the situation?
Many times the ideologies and philosophies and even tactics put forth by ANY book, be it wealth, stock market investing, romance, sex, language, NLP, sales don't TAKE because the person you're applying them to WON'T have them.
You will see something when you FIRST believe it, then you will SEE it.
If you aren't getting the results you expect to get, you must persist until you get them, in whatever endeavor you seek to get them, but you do not need to be rigid about your plan to get there.
Why SELF - DESTRUCTION ?
Because who's to say the SELF you see yourself as will take up what goals you desire? The self you are, or believe you are, hasn't done what it is you truly want. As a result, your outcome and goals aren't in concert with who you are viewing yourself as.
"It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you are not." ~ Denis Waitley
On two levels of the inner game, you must first accept your own masculinity. THEN, work on the self. You can affirm all you want what you want, but deep down, if you have a wound left from your boyhood/manhood about being a man or left there as a result of something missed in childhood, everything else will be out of whack thereafter.
It's like changing the addiction. Many guys have a deep hurt, or pain, and never see it. They fill that void with money, wealth, friends, women, booze, alcohol -- all these little safety nets that MAKE THEM feel like someone. It's as if you want to BE SOMEONE to find your identity, as if you have NO IDENTITY. Is this true?
No.
Touch upon books like "Iron John" and "Wild at Heart" and "Way of the Superior Man," and from a variety of angles (choose one), you see that manhood is BESTOWED, it is not a mere occurence. For women, they merely bcome women at about 16 or so. Their mental maturity takes time to catch up to their bodies.
However, for a BOY to become a MAN, a transition must occur. And it can only be done by the indoctrination of other older, sage men. Study the old ways of tribes, of hunters, of cowboys, study the movies, the books, the history, a certain "RITE of PASSAGE" existed that said "you're a man, here's how to act."
Modern day society leaves that part out, and in part, men find other avenues BELIEVING they've aspired and transitioned, but falling quite short of the mark.
If you build a SELF upon a SELF that has yet to MOVE, it's all built upon quicksand. There are many people living out false selves, appearing to be men with all the socially accepted images of men: trucks, football, construction, facial hair, smoking, grunting, etc. But these again, are images. Outside you might do them, while inside a battle wages. A question exists.
Look upon the millions of dating websites and how to pick up women books, upon the seduction lairs, and the pick up artists, and tell me that most so-called men aren't boys crying to be men? Begging to find a way. Women want to be taken. To be rescued.
And even many guys live with women, or date women, they deep down don't care for. They're living out a false lie. Sure, there's moments of happiness or rapport, but by and large, a question looms. Uncertainty enshrowds everything.
_______________________
What's a guy to do?
Face your fears first of all. Find out that everything your comfortable with is a protective barrier to something you became a friend of in youth. When you sense fear creeping in, take action. Don't shirk from it. Each time you do, you die a little. Push the boundary. Women are only 1 of those avenues.
Examine your past. Realistically consider yourself in your childhood. Some guys had the fathers or grandfathers or role models to lead them, give them values, to be a good role model and leader. Some didn't. If you didn't, don't lose heart, other means exist. However, realize how important a father figure is, because only can that role confer upon BOTH sexes their identities. Their confidence and courage.
There are many millionaires who cloak themselves in the falseness of success and wealth. And many celebrities who's issues crop up in drinking problems, gambling problems, drugs, or bankruptcy and adultery. These are all outcroppings of inner turmoil. A struggle on the inside.
_________________________
SELF DESTRUCTION means destroying the boundaries we once thought existed by doing everything we never believed we could do. The empowerment that comes from that is believe that you have nothing until you're free to lose everything.
If you cling to what you feel, think, believe or know to be true, you're the person who has a lot to lose. You die when someone attacks your ideals, or virtues. You die when you're not living.
How many guys come on here and make a post when someone says something they don't like? So what? Are they attacking you? No they're stating an opinion, of which generally has no facts.
_________________________
Self - Improvement teaches one to have a sunny disposition, a motivated character, yet the inner self is still wondering with gigantic question marks.
Who am I?
What am I hear to do?
Do I have the strength to do it?
Am I capable?
The strength of a man must burn through to his character, to his bones, through to his soul. It must be bared upon the world, and not concealed. Because your employees and employer will count on you. Your parents will eventually count on you. Your friends will count on you. And soon, a wife and children will count on you.
Take stock of the moments your called to action and check your character. I've looked back and observed the moments I've been called upon. A time when I had to read a Euology on behalf of my father at his father's funeral in front of 100 people without shedding a tear. I had to do the same for my mother. And as of lately, I was called to assist an Aunt who is now divorcing my uncle of 16 years who was in need of direction.
If you're constantly ASKING to be fulfilled by other people who are in need, the day will never come. People are more in need of MASCULINE strength than they TRULY know. They fear asking and they don't believe it exists still. When you look around you see boys. You see OLD BOYS still trying to score with 18 year olds, succumbing to their own sexual demons. You see married men succumbing to their own false prison, shirking away the duties they gave their word on.
_________________________
Each little day you break a promise to yourself, or to others, is a day you die in a little in your strength and masculinity. If life didn't require the "essence" of two beings, it wouldn't have devised the masculine and feminine. Yet it did, because ASEXUAL life was bland, dangerous, and boring. A copy of a copy of a copy, left it all to chance.
So do you now see that there exists a SPECIFIC set of traits that is meant to be the POLAR opposite of femininity? Is it by chance men evolved, or were born here or is there some DESIGN? How is it possible women could have survived this LONG without the guidance of masculine force? Do you HONESTLY believe that a masculine force is no longer needed? Look beyond the hype and propoganda.
Everytime you're OBSERVING rather than DOING, you're giving up the ability to be active as a man was meant to be. So many would rather watch sports than DO sports. So many would rather WATCH cooking than do COOKING. Or watch dating, rather than DO DATING.
Destroy the self to learn WHAT truly exists. Test yourself. Go after things you wanted to, but were so afraid to. The minute you hesitate is the minute you should act. Action is rewarded.
Break down the walls you've built up to protect a self that is false. Only a false self needs boundaries. A confident, masculine, centered self does not need nor require boundaries because it is safe within it self. It needs no protection. It doesn't hide behind idols, and images, and ideals to bury the hurt and pain it truly hides.
A-Unit
the act of destroying oneself.
So often time is spent in SELF - IMPROVEMENT trying to build up something of who even knows what?
What are you building upon?
Would you build your new mansion upon loose soil? Would you place your dream home upon ANY OLD PLOT of land?
Would you settle your hopes and dreams of your future upon a woman who is shattered and broken because you're using emotion and not logic to judge the situation?
Many times the ideologies and philosophies and even tactics put forth by ANY book, be it wealth, stock market investing, romance, sex, language, NLP, sales don't TAKE because the person you're applying them to WON'T have them.
You will see something when you FIRST believe it, then you will SEE it.
If you aren't getting the results you expect to get, you must persist until you get them, in whatever endeavor you seek to get them, but you do not need to be rigid about your plan to get there.
Why SELF - DESTRUCTION ?
Because who's to say the SELF you see yourself as will take up what goals you desire? The self you are, or believe you are, hasn't done what it is you truly want. As a result, your outcome and goals aren't in concert with who you are viewing yourself as.
"It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you are not." ~ Denis Waitley
On two levels of the inner game, you must first accept your own masculinity. THEN, work on the self. You can affirm all you want what you want, but deep down, if you have a wound left from your boyhood/manhood about being a man or left there as a result of something missed in childhood, everything else will be out of whack thereafter.
It's like changing the addiction. Many guys have a deep hurt, or pain, and never see it. They fill that void with money, wealth, friends, women, booze, alcohol -- all these little safety nets that MAKE THEM feel like someone. It's as if you want to BE SOMEONE to find your identity, as if you have NO IDENTITY. Is this true?
No.
Touch upon books like "Iron John" and "Wild at Heart" and "Way of the Superior Man," and from a variety of angles (choose one), you see that manhood is BESTOWED, it is not a mere occurence. For women, they merely bcome women at about 16 or so. Their mental maturity takes time to catch up to their bodies.
However, for a BOY to become a MAN, a transition must occur. And it can only be done by the indoctrination of other older, sage men. Study the old ways of tribes, of hunters, of cowboys, study the movies, the books, the history, a certain "RITE of PASSAGE" existed that said "you're a man, here's how to act."
Modern day society leaves that part out, and in part, men find other avenues BELIEVING they've aspired and transitioned, but falling quite short of the mark.
If you build a SELF upon a SELF that has yet to MOVE, it's all built upon quicksand. There are many people living out false selves, appearing to be men with all the socially accepted images of men: trucks, football, construction, facial hair, smoking, grunting, etc. But these again, are images. Outside you might do them, while inside a battle wages. A question exists.
Look upon the millions of dating websites and how to pick up women books, upon the seduction lairs, and the pick up artists, and tell me that most so-called men aren't boys crying to be men? Begging to find a way. Women want to be taken. To be rescued.
And even many guys live with women, or date women, they deep down don't care for. They're living out a false lie. Sure, there's moments of happiness or rapport, but by and large, a question looms. Uncertainty enshrowds everything.
_______________________
What's a guy to do?
Face your fears first of all. Find out that everything your comfortable with is a protective barrier to something you became a friend of in youth. When you sense fear creeping in, take action. Don't shirk from it. Each time you do, you die a little. Push the boundary. Women are only 1 of those avenues.
Examine your past. Realistically consider yourself in your childhood. Some guys had the fathers or grandfathers or role models to lead them, give them values, to be a good role model and leader. Some didn't. If you didn't, don't lose heart, other means exist. However, realize how important a father figure is, because only can that role confer upon BOTH sexes their identities. Their confidence and courage.
There are many millionaires who cloak themselves in the falseness of success and wealth. And many celebrities who's issues crop up in drinking problems, gambling problems, drugs, or bankruptcy and adultery. These are all outcroppings of inner turmoil. A struggle on the inside.
_________________________
SELF DESTRUCTION means destroying the boundaries we once thought existed by doing everything we never believed we could do. The empowerment that comes from that is believe that you have nothing until you're free to lose everything.
If you cling to what you feel, think, believe or know to be true, you're the person who has a lot to lose. You die when someone attacks your ideals, or virtues. You die when you're not living.
How many guys come on here and make a post when someone says something they don't like? So what? Are they attacking you? No they're stating an opinion, of which generally has no facts.
_________________________
Self - Improvement teaches one to have a sunny disposition, a motivated character, yet the inner self is still wondering with gigantic question marks.
Who am I?
What am I hear to do?
Do I have the strength to do it?
Am I capable?
The strength of a man must burn through to his character, to his bones, through to his soul. It must be bared upon the world, and not concealed. Because your employees and employer will count on you. Your parents will eventually count on you. Your friends will count on you. And soon, a wife and children will count on you.
Take stock of the moments your called to action and check your character. I've looked back and observed the moments I've been called upon. A time when I had to read a Euology on behalf of my father at his father's funeral in front of 100 people without shedding a tear. I had to do the same for my mother. And as of lately, I was called to assist an Aunt who is now divorcing my uncle of 16 years who was in need of direction.
If you're constantly ASKING to be fulfilled by other people who are in need, the day will never come. People are more in need of MASCULINE strength than they TRULY know. They fear asking and they don't believe it exists still. When you look around you see boys. You see OLD BOYS still trying to score with 18 year olds, succumbing to their own sexual demons. You see married men succumbing to their own false prison, shirking away the duties they gave their word on.
_________________________
Each little day you break a promise to yourself, or to others, is a day you die in a little in your strength and masculinity. If life didn't require the "essence" of two beings, it wouldn't have devised the masculine and feminine. Yet it did, because ASEXUAL life was bland, dangerous, and boring. A copy of a copy of a copy, left it all to chance.
So do you now see that there exists a SPECIFIC set of traits that is meant to be the POLAR opposite of femininity? Is it by chance men evolved, or were born here or is there some DESIGN? How is it possible women could have survived this LONG without the guidance of masculine force? Do you HONESTLY believe that a masculine force is no longer needed? Look beyond the hype and propoganda.
Everytime you're OBSERVING rather than DOING, you're giving up the ability to be active as a man was meant to be. So many would rather watch sports than DO sports. So many would rather WATCH cooking than do COOKING. Or watch dating, rather than DO DATING.
Destroy the self to learn WHAT truly exists. Test yourself. Go after things you wanted to, but were so afraid to. The minute you hesitate is the minute you should act. Action is rewarded.
Break down the walls you've built up to protect a self that is false. Only a false self needs boundaries. A confident, masculine, centered self does not need nor require boundaries because it is safe within it self. It needs no protection. It doesn't hide behind idols, and images, and ideals to bury the hurt and pain it truly hides.
A-Unit
