Seemed promising but she ghosted and so I unmatched

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Gotta invest a little more if you don't want her ghosting. In her mind, she's saying either 1) I'd like to be more than just a cheap pump & dump or 2) I can phuck another guy who's a little more interesting (not saying you're not, but you haven't shown any uniqueness or personality through the text.)

Be a little less mechanical and the ghost percentage will drop. Not saying you have to radically change anything, but try putting a touch more effort in. Plus, this is 5 days before the hookup. Plenty of time for her to change her mind, so you need to keep the fire burning.

So a little more effort and/or better timing should help.

Your correspondence is like a plain burger with no cheese, lettuce, onions, etc. Need some condiments at least. Sh1t needs some flavor. The opener isn't bad but you can't talk about "adventures" without engaging her imagination some.
 
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Gotta invest a little more if you don't want her ghosting. In her mind, she's saying either 1) I'd like to be more than just a cheap pump & dump or 2) I can phuck another guy who's a little more interesting (not saying you're not, but you haven't shown any uniqueness or personality through the text.)

Be a little less mechanical and the ghost percentage will drop. Not saying you have to radically change anything, but try putting a touch more effort in. Plus, this is 5 days before the hookup. Plenty of time for her to change her mind, so you need to keep the fire burning.

So a little more effort and/or better timing should help.

Your correspondence is like a plain burger with no cheese, lettuce, onions, etc. Need some condiments at least. Sh1t needs some flavor. The opener isn't bad but you can't talk about "adventures" without engaging her imagination some.
This presupposes I’m not the prize tho.
 

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Low interest from the start. If it takes a day for her to reply this isnt going anywhere.

Also, you cant build up sexual tension over one short message a day. Women agreeing to get sexual with you after 2 lines of text are either paid to entertain you or no women at all.

Some women are easy, but not THAT easy.
 

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She was on the app for entertainment and validation. Not to actually meet up with someone. As most online chicks are. They aren't there to actually meet and go on dates. They just use it for free attention. You did the right thing.
 

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With most women trying to go straight to sex leads to flakes and ghosting. I learned this the hard way back in the day. Unless you are super hot and she is horn dogging over you.
 

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This presupposes I’m not the prize tho.
Acting like you are the prize doesn't mean you can exert little to no effort and make mistakes. It's more of a "I have value/worth" mindset. You still have to capture her mind. You def had her attention, you needed to exert more creative effort and not try to get commitment multiple days ahead of time for a sex date. Women are in the moment.

Asking a girl to have a fuhk date in my bed has never been my style. I'm more of a come over for drinks and music. You don't need to tell them you want to fuhk them. They already know that. A girl doesn't want to feel like a wh0re.

You didn't invest enough, you just went for the kill. You need to preheat the oven(her feelings for you) to 400deg before you stick the meat in. You barely made it to 100.
 

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Should have hit her up again rather than unmatching which is a bit emotional, go have a wank and try again.

That kind of bold sexual talk needs to be done off the app to begin with.
 

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Low interest from the start. If it takes a day for her to reply this isnt going anywhere.

Also, you cant build up sexual tension over one short message a day. Women agreeing to get sexual with you after 2 lines of text are either paid to entertain you or no women at all.

Some women are easy, but not THAT easy.
Tell that to my exes
 

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Acting like you are the prize doesn't mean you can exert little to no effort and make mistakes. It's more of a "I have value/worth" mindset. You still have to capture her mind. You def had her attention, you needed to exert more creative effort and not try to get commitment multiple days ahead of time for a sex date. Women are in the moment.

Asking a girl to have a fuhk date in my bed has never been my style. I'm more of a come over for drinks and music. You don't need to tell them you want to fuhk them. They already know that. A girl doesn't want to feel like a wh0re.

You didn't invest enough, you just went for the kill. You need to preheat the oven(her feelings for you) to 400deg before you stick the meat in. You barely made it to 100.
In that case she’s not my type
 

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In that case she’s not my type
But you weren't that far away from success.

If you just want to fuhk some girl, then hire one. Much less bs.
 

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In my experience the best way to gauge whether or not a woman genuinely likes you is how much effort she’s making.

Any guy can blitz approach women in clubs, blitz open chicks on dating apps, and get a bunch of numbers and even lays. If you do this long enough, you might even calibrate yourself to every situation and get consistent lays from different women all the time.

But often times the women who stay are the ones who actually initiated and made an effort to get closer to you.

Romance isn’t sales were you blitz hundreds of women for 25 lays a year. Romance is marketing and building a brand. A solid brand has 25+ women pursuing him a year with no effort. He is internally focused on his own brand, his values, principles, and vision. And women buy into it because they are attracted to it. He’s the leader of the tribe.

Sales = you go to them. Marketing = they come to you and buy into your vision.
 
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Honestly starting to think your type of woman is any woman that will let you stick you d!ck in her with no effort.
That’s almost right yes


But you weren't that far away from success.

If you just want to fuhk some girl, then hire one. Much less bs.
I had a prostitute one time. Never again till I can afford porn stars.


In my experience the best way to gauge whether or not a woman genuinely likes you is how much effort she’s making.

Any guy can blitz approach women in clubs, blitz open chicks on dating apps, and get a bunch of numbers and even lays. If you do this long enough, you might even calibrate yourself to every situation and get consistent lays from different women all the time.

But often times the women who stay are the ones who actually initiated and made an effort to get closer to you.

Romance isn’t sales were you blitz hundreds of women for 25 lays a year. Romance is marketing and building a brand. A solid brand has 25+ women pursuing him a year with no effort. He is internally focused on his own brand, his values, principles, and vision. And women buy into it because they are attracted to it. He’s the leader of the tribe.

Sales = you go to them. Marketing = they come to you and buy into your vision.
I’m not after romance my guy but thanks for the distinction. It’s an important one
 

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That’s almost right yes



I had a prostitute one time. Never again till I can afford porn stars.



I’m not after romance my guy but thanks for the distinction. It’s an important one

If all you want to do is get laid then it’s best to come up with a unique selling proposition. What makes you unique? It could be a guy who is overtly sexual. You’ll get blown out by 90% of females but that 10% will instantly recognize you and there would be very little game involved.

The last thing you want to be is an in betweener. A guy who is kinda of a nice guy, kinda bad. No, you have no to be a niche. I know a hipster guy who’s totally mastered the hipster niche and pulls hipster chicks all the time. A good way to find your niche is looking at the venues you go to and observe which type pulls the most there. Women go for “types.” That why they say stuff like “he’s cute but not my type.”
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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