Seem to fall out alot with women.

[fal! out boy]

Hey guys, so basically, now I've taken my life with women into my own hands, rather than just waiting for it to fall into place, one thing I've adopted is not letting women get away with things I consider rude, or obnoxious.


For example, me and my friend both know this girl, and she's ignored me on a few occasions when I messaged her (this girl is only a friend btw) and I'd always told her that being ignored is one thing I can't stand, as I consider it rude. She had a bit of attitude and gave me the whole "I'm fed up of texting people at the moment", to which I replied that if i'd taken the time to text her, the least she could do is reply. She messaged me on Friday (yesterday), I messaged back and asked her a question, no response. I sent the text again around.....5 hours later, no response. So, I figure she can go whistle now, thats twice she's ignored me.

Next day me and my buddy are at the gym and his phone goes off, I ask him if it's his g/f and he said "no, It's *claire*. I saw her driving earlier, and I just text her to make sure it was her". So I'm thinking wtf, so I text her saying "You'll text Jake but not me? I'll see you soon", she told me to stop being paranoid, and I sent a text back, and.....nothing. Meanwhile, I'm still with my buddy, and his phone goes off again, it's her. So I told her that if she was ignoring me, but answering other people, I didn't have time to text her. She went ape, and it disintergrated.

This isn't the only time I've "fell out" with women so to speak, over things I find unnacceptable. Am I going about it the wrong way? I thought guys were supposed to get respect when telling a women what they didn't expect, and I did it courteously (sp). Where am I going wrong?

 

[guru1000]

You can't make a women have interest in you. She either has or she has not. You can increase her interest level if there is some to begin with.

Never send a text message or place a phone call again if it is not responded to the first time. It is that simple.

 

[joekerr31]

so hypothetic situation...

you have a friend over at your place and he decides to molest you. is this how it goes down...

you: hey now, stop that
him: (takes your clothes off)
you: hey now, im serious, stop that
him (takes his clothes off)
you: im REALLY serious, stop this
him: (stick a finger in yoru butt)
you: what is wrong with you?!!! stop it
him (stick his **** in your butt)
you: i said NO. stop it
him (blows his load up your butt)
you: if your going to be like this i don't want to talk to you anymore.


what did you do wrong in this scenario?

you should have told the guy to leave RIGHT AWAY.

this woman mind f*cked you. she does it because she loves the attention. women love drama. you are an AFC to her, there for drama purposes.

and the mistake you made is you fall for the drama. yes, eventually you say 'thats it im not taking this anymore', but unfortunately you wait until a load has been blown in your *ss before you do it.

you should have recognized this chic for what she was in the beginning and delt with her according. instead of hoping that she wasn't what she appeared to be and that you weren't going to get f*cked in the *ss.

and the irony is that she's only mind f*cking you because she knows your going to fall for it. if you were the type of guy who didn't fall for it she wouldn't be doing this.

your buddy only attempts to molest you becuase he knows youll let him. if he knew he was going to get called out the moment he tried something, he wouldnt try it. or if he did it would be at his own perile and he would know that.

 

[squirrels]

Oh my god...grow up.

Whining is not sexy. And stop texting all the time. You're 25 years old.

 

[DavenJuan]

i agree...stop texting all the time and stand up for what you think is right...

HOWEVER the OP is not a bad topic...

I also have realized that when i dont put up with not just womens sh*tests, but anyones i tend to come off as rude. If my gf ignores me or gets into her "princess" mode when i ask her a question because shes "mad" about something else, i remove her priviledges from speaking to me same as anybody else.

To keep it simple ..i finally realized that Im the prize and no ones sh*t is worth my time, however it does come off as rude and inconsiderate...curious if anyone else had similar responses

 

[shop until I die!]

you need to relax. if the woman is just a friend then don't sweat it if she "ignores" you. You were in the wrong there.

 

[MikeYikes122]

In my opinion you came off sounding less like a man in control and more like an anal P.O.S. who is wayyy too hung up on text messages. If someone went off on me every time I forgot to or intentionally didn't respond to a text, I wouldn't have any friends or girlfriends. The bottom line is, who cares? It's just a text message.

Where you should stand up to a girl is if she blows you off, or if she is acting flakey. You don't flip over an unreturned text message.

I agree with squirrels. It's time to cancel your unlimited text message plan. You're 25 years old. Text in situations where it's convenient to: you're in an area where you aren't getting good service, you just have something quick to say, etc.

 

[fal! out boy]

I understand what you guys are saying, and I appreciate it. However, just to clarify a few points :

I'm not totally hung up on being answered. It's more the fact this girl deliberatly ignores people/me, because as she puts it "I answer when I want, not when you want me to".

 

[joekerr31]

I understand what you guys are saying, and I appreciate it. However, just to clarify a few points :

I'm not totally hung up on being answered. It's more the fact this girl deliberatly ignores people/me, because as she puts it "I answer when I want, not when you want me to".

whatever dude. you are still fixating / obsessing over a womans behavior.

that is the very defintion of AFC if you ask me.

this should be so simple. heres a woman. this woman treats men badly. this woman treats you badly. conclusion: you shoudl want nothing to do with this woman.

anything other than that is just AFC.

 

[Mr.Positive]

I'm not totally hung up on being answered. It's more the fact this girl deliberatly ignores people/me, because as she puts it "I answer when I want, not when you want me to".

You shouldn't care if she ignores you. In fact, you shouldn't care if anyone ignores you. Focus your attention on people that respect you. Save 'caring' for the people that earn it.

 

[Interceptor]

I think he's rationalizing and making excuses for himself.
He knows he's got issues. I just don't know how willing he is in facing them and dealing with them.

Dude, guys come in here and they really think they can pull the wool over our eyes, man.

"No, you're wrong. I don't really feel that way."

BZZZ! Wrong!

You do feel that way. Just admit it. You're clingy, possessive, and need atention and validation, and take things too personally.
Just admit it, realize it's wrong.
And change it.

 

[jophil28]

Hey Falloutboy, it is OK to be aware of women's crap behavior so that your bells clang a bit when they are disrespecting you,however it seems that you are almost "on alert" waiting for the smallest indication that SHE is not acting "properly". The trick is NOT to get all bent out of shape about every small infraction. Women today have a huge dose of "entitlement" -they really believe all that Cosmo/ feminazi junk that they have been fed since the 70's.
Sure, a lot of them are just irritating BUT why get so huffy about their adolescent actions. YOu do NOT have to WIN every encounter with the baitches. Just walk away or ignore them . Put your energy and effort into women who act WELL rather than taking every little rebuff as a personal challenge.

 

[DavenJuan]

I think he's rationalizing and making excuses for himself.
He knows he's got issues. I just don't know how willing he is in facing them and dealing with them.

Dude, guys come in here and they really think they can pull the wool over our eyes, man.

"No, you're wrong. I don't really feel that way."

BZZZ! Wrong!

You do feel that way. Just admit it. You're clingy, possessive, and need atention and validation, and take things too personally.
Just admit it, realize it's wrong.
And change it.

DIDDO...

unless you are messing the bulk of what type of BS she puts you through, i agree with what posters are saying.

just because she doesnt text YOU back when YOU want doesnt mean much of anything. YOu look like a huge AFC by letting her get to you.

Its YOUR world and if she doesnt text you back then she missed out...NEXT. you dont have time nor do you exhaust any of your energy inquiring about why she didnt or did

 

[lookyoung]

How the fvck is it that this guy is 25 years old. Having oneitis for a girl that you have fvcked is sad. Having oneitis for a girl that you have not kiss closed is pathetic.

Scroll down to bottom of page and read the DJ BIBLE ASAP.

 

[Sun Tzu]

The guys seems to be genuinely asking for help. We should be able to set him on the right track without insulting him.

 

[Vulpine]

Where am I going wrong?

LoL... I come back after being away for a while and...




Where did you wrong? Texty games. And there's a reason I refer to them as such: "texty" is childish, and "games" is self explanatory.

Do yourself a favor fal¡ out boy, do a search for "texty games" and get all info regarding where you are going wrong. "Texty games" pops up in many relevant threads.

Too available for communication, paranoia, jealousy... the list of AFC attributes apparent in your post goes on and on. Texty games is for women, woman.:nono:

i know wtf is up wit everyone on this site? its like there all bitter virgins or somethin...

Aww... would you rather be on snuggleparty.com?

Sometimes people need a good swift kick in the a§§. joekerr blessed you with the true and right feedback. Don't like the tone? Poor baby! He got the answers he needed - not the ones he wanted. If he got mocked in the process, great, embarrassment is a good motivator for a man to stop acting like a woman.

Interceptor, lookyoung, jophil28, and squirrels are dead-nuts on the money.

Ever hear the expression "take it like a man"? This isn't "Mary Poppins": take your medicine without a spoonful of sugar.

Take your whiskey without a chaser.