Seeking advice on pre-date text exchange

[Pierce Manhammer]

And you miss 100% of the shots you do not take. Good job.

 

[RickPound]

Correct and correct, in fairness to you both.

Dinner was more-or-less sh1t. It was inexpensive.

She had just come from the gym and was sad about missing her 100kg squat PR. She was complain-y. She works in a gym, so has to be there before 6am to open it every day.

I fell into her trap, basically. A young, 'attractive' woman looking for some chump to buy her dinner. Then she sits there talking about how she has to be up early for work in the morning, negating any escalation.

At one point she even mentioned that she would consider taking testosterone to compete in a body building contest.

She was boring and hyper masculine.

She failed then, not you. She’s gonna have to step it up if she wants any of your time again. Your mindset should be that you’re screening her and you’re more than happy as a man to give women a chance on a first date, but if they don’t make it fun for you, they’re not getting a second one.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Hell, most of my first dates were dinner dates (but I actually enjoy going out to dinner). Imho, the problem was not so much dinner as a first date as it was lack of a better frame and lack of better vetting/screening.

No worries @FinallyAlpha . We all been there. We live and we learn.

 

[Akiles]

I’m a bit late to respond but, you’re definitely over analyzing this. You didn’t meet her off tinder you met her at a gym in person. Not only that but you specified at night (when most people eat dinner) so in a sense you kinda screwed yourself there lol. Just start hanging out more, lift together, and talk. It should all come naturally.