i've gone into this before, but ill explain it again, haha....
taken chics are INFINTELY easier to "get" with.
now why is that?
all you have to do is think back to your own relationships. people go into relationships like they go in to watch a movie. with great expectations and expected to be completely enthralled and to FORGET reality. most people anyway.
and thats all fine and dandy. the first few months are great. heck perhaps even six months in you're still tearing up the sheets and are all lovely dovey. after that however one of two things happen...
1) things just keep getting better nad better. you grow closer. you begin to see each other as the most trusted people in each others lives. etc. this is a great path, you may have found the one, and if it keeps up you'll get blissfully married and possibly live happily ever after.
2) the sparks start to die. you basically only do things for her so that she'll let you "get off" in her (note, not make love, not f*ck - get off). because that's all its really about anymore. she, being a woman, can't walk away without something being lined up. she's prepared to let the charade go on for 6, 12, even 18 months while looking for an opportunity to "move up" from you. if after 18 months the opportunity doesnt present itself, she might settle and start pushing you for marriage (thereby putting off the entire problem of your relationship for 15 years and 2 kids later, at which point she takes half of what you got and you get stuck paying for your life, her life, your kids lives that you rarely see, and your new girlfriends life).
now in scenario two it may sound as though its the guys fault. but its always a two way street. while he may lapse into only paying attention to his woman to get off, she is just as at fault for playing one hand on the table and one under (ie. searching for a better deal).
Soooo, after all that rambling, why is it easier to get taken chics? SIMPLE. 90% of them are UNHAPPY with their current bfs.
you might say - wait a second Joe, 90%, thats insanely high, it can't be right.
It is right and i'll tell you why. People go through life thinking that happiness can only be attained through external elements - money, cars, houses, kids, careers, spouses, looks, etc. - people go on thinking this way often into their 50s - and they are CONTINUALLY let down.
they buy a new car, but after 3 years are bored to sh*t of it. they get a new house nad after 5 years are b*tching about the repairs. they get a new job and after 6 months are *****ing about the new boss. they get some kids and after 12 years b*tch about how their kids don't cut the lawn. and on and on it goes...
so TRUST ME, about 90% of the people out there are dissatisfied with their lives.
suddenly a new shiny object comes along - YOU. at first its all innocent. casual chit chat. then some jokes. then some flirting. then some personal chit chat. then some consoling. then some more flirting. then some F*cking!
its not that the chics bf is a wanker (well, not completely). nor is it that she is a wh*re (well, not completely). its merely the fact that she is highly disastified with her life and like most peopel believes that disastifaction can be remedied not so much by evolving, maturing, and taking responsibility for her life, but rather by something new and shiny - YOU.
single chics are a COMPLETELY different attitude. single chics are often shy and nervous at first. they don't go home to positive reinforcement of a guy who wants to f*ck her (even if its just to get off). They go home to their cat, or whatever, look in the mirror nad blame the cellulite on their inner thigh (which no one else in the world ever sees) as the reason they are single.
it is 100 times easier to flirt with a taken chics because she OVERLY exhibits all the signs of interest. the single chic will give mixed messages - she will be shy sometimes, nervous other times, etc. - every statement she makes shes concerned with the implications of it. whereas the taken woman doens't really care about the outcome, she just wants your attention, and will flirt recklessly to get it.
now as for whether it is right or wrong to bang a taken chic, id argue there are two paths you can take.
1) do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. do you want someone banging your gf behind your back? if the answer is no, and you go and do that to someone else, then with due respect you aren't a man, your a parasite.
2) life is short, screwing feels good, so if some chic lets you screw her, so be it.
personally im a #1 kind of guy and that works for me. I'm a big fan of self respect, and I don't think you can truly have self respect when you treat others in a manner different than you would like to be treated.
i've got to say though i've been tempted by #2 many times, and am currently riding the line of the #2 situation. but i've never crossed the line.
Lots of chics cross the line into #2 which is why very few chics have a high level of self esteem and self respect and why they are so good at rationalize how their behavior isn't actually THEIR FAULT, but rather the result of some GUY.
anyway, any chic that cheats isn't cheating because her boyfriend is lame (yes yes, go ahead blast me, blame him for being an AFC). she's cheating becuase she hasn't matured to the point where she has taken responsibility for her own happiness. Mature women don't stay in relationships that are no longer working for them.
and you know, some will say no such women exist (ie. mature ones). but i whole heartedly disagree. they may be rare, but they exist - and if you catch one of them, you're set.
but any chic who cheats on her bf, trust me, whether its 6, 12, or 18 months down the road, she's going to cheat on you too. or marry you, have your kids, and divorce you 15 years later. hehe.
there are PLENTY of single women out there guys. they may not be as initially intriguing as the taken ones - the taken ones really know how to lure you in. but in the long run your odds of a catching a quality woman are much higher if you catch her when shes single first.
