Seeing couples when out and about

[knglerxt]

sry, but that's just a bunch of excuses.

Rhetorical question...

If you always run away from your fears will they vanish or get worse?

Look, you can call it what you want. It's not like I can just flip a switch and reprogram my brain. It just doesn't work like that. I could go out right this minute with the sole purpose of walking up to women and asking for their phone numbers. But I guarantee you that it wouldn't happen. It's not like I've never tried. I just can't get myself to do it. I'd venture to say that it would be a problem for most men if you took them out of their social network.

 

[Maxtro]

Wow knglerxt you are basically me living on the East Coast.

I think you should read the DJ Bible and or buy and read these ebooks; Michael Pilinski - Without Embarrassment, David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating, Wayne Elise (Juggler) - How to be a Pickup Artist.

You need to put yourself in situations where you can interact with women. Here's a nice list that somebody posted a while back

- yoga classes
- cardio classes
- kick boxing classes
- cooking classes
- wine tasting classes
- the body shop
- the mall in general
- horseback riding classes?
- co-ed sports like basketball
- the dog park
- the coffee shop / bookstore (haha, how many guys do you know who stop by the coffee shop and sit down and have a coffee and read a book or something? not many. but i see women doing it all the time).
- the shoe store (find a shoe store that sells both men's and womens shoes)
- church
- the gym (in my opinion, any woman who joins a gym for men and women is looking to get a date. women who are taken and not looking go to all female gyms)
- dance classes
- coffee shops juice bars next to gyms
- healthy food stores
- yogurt shops

There are also lots of women on college campuses.

Also why do you think you are single?

 

[ChrizZ]

Look, you can call it what you want. It's not like I can just flip a switch and reprogram my brain. It just doesn't work like that. I could go out right this minute with the sole purpose of walking up to women and asking for their phone numbers. But I guarantee you that it wouldn't happen. It's not like I've never tried. I just can't get myself to do it. I'd venture to say that it would be a problem for most men if you took them out of their social network.

so you are saying it's okay not to approach women and live a mediocre life in misery by justifying that other people do the same?!

Either grow a pair or stop complaining.

 

[knglerxt]

so you are saying it's okay not to approach women and live a mediocre life in misery by justifying that other people do the same?!

Either grow a pair or stop complaining.

I'm not saying that at all. If you can do that, more power to you. I'm just telling you that I just can't seem to get myself to do that.

 

[knglerxt]

Wow knglerxt you are basically me living on the East Coast.

I think you should read the DJ Bible and or buy and read these ebooks; Michael Pilinski - Without Embarrassment, David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating, Wayne Elise (Juggler) - How to be a Pickup Artist.

You need to put yourself in situations where you can interact with women. Here's a nice list that somebody posted a while back

- yoga classes
- cardio classes
- kick boxing classes
- cooking classes
- wine tasting classes
- the body shop
- the mall in general
- horseback riding classes?
- co-ed sports like basketball
- the dog park
- the coffee shop / bookstore (haha, how many guys do you know who stop by the coffee shop and sit down and have a coffee and read a book or something? not many. but i see women doing it all the time).
- the shoe store (find a shoe store that sells both men's and womens shoes)
- church
- the gym (in my opinion, any woman who joins a gym for men and women is looking to get a date. women who are taken and not looking go to all female gyms)
- dance classes
- coffee shops juice bars next to gyms
- healthy food stores
- yogurt shops

There are also lots of women on college campuses.

Also why do you think you are single?

I appreciate your advice, but all those places you named would require approaching women just out of the blue.

Let's take the mall for example. I've been to malls more times than I can count. The only way to meet a girl in that environment is to cold approach her. That's the only way. Like I said, I can't get myself to do that, so what would be the point of me going there to try to meet women? Without that approach, it's not going to happen. Same thing goes for bookstores and any other kind of store. Same thing applies to the gym. I'm not really interested in dancing and yoga classes.

I think the main reason I'm single is that I don't have a social network like most men. Most men don't go to random places and approach women. From what I've seen, most people actually don't meet randomly. They meet through people they already know. I don't have this option, since I have no friends and my family members mostly only know people their age, 40's and above.

If I were in a position where I was around the same women on a daily basis and could talk to them, I don't think I'd have much of a problem getting a girlfriend. I get looks from girls all the time, so I know there are girls out there who are attracted to me.

 

[Maxtro]

Ok then don't go to the places where you would only see the girl one time. That leaves you with the various classes, coed sports, church college and careers group and gym.

It's not a cold approach if you are with the woman for an extended period of time or if you see her regularly. I'm sure you can start talking to a girl at the gym if you've seen her around a few times. I actually got a date with a girl at a gym after I've seen her working out a couple of times.

Who cares that you aren't interested in dancing and yoga classes? The only point to go there is to be around women and start talking to them.

I think the main reason I'm single is that I don't have a social network like most men. Most men don't go to random places and approach women. From what I've seen, most people actually don't meet randomly. They meet through people they already know. I don't have this option, since I have no friends and my family members mostly only know people their age, 40's and above.

Very true. Most people meet each other through mutual friends. But if you don't have that option then you need to go out and meet people. You could also try to pick up girls on myspace or use some online dating sites.

 

[muscleman]

I appreciate your advice, but all those places you named would require approaching women just out of the blue.

Let's take the mall for example. I've been to malls more times than I can count. The only way to meet a girl in that environment is to cold approach her. That's the only way. Like I said, I can't get myself to do that, so what would be the point of me going there to try to meet women? Without that approach, it's not going to happen. Same thing goes for bookstores and any other kind of store. Same thing applies to the gym. I'm not really interested in dancing and yoga classes.

I think the main reason I'm single is that I don't have a social network like most men. Most men don't go to random places and approach women. From what I've seen, most people actually don't meet randomly. They meet through people they already know. I don't have this option, since I have no friends and my family members mostly only know people their age, 40's and above.

If I were in a position where I was around the same women on a daily basis and could talk to them, I don't think I'd have much of a problem getting a girlfriend. I get looks from girls all the time, so I know there are girls out there who are attracted to me.

You "cant" get yourself to do that? Do you have some physical barrier preventing you from walking up to a person and saying hi?

You don't have to go into it expecting to get a date and you don't have to stalk people. Just go about your business, and start by saying "hi, how are you" to whoever ends up close to you. And people do meet randomly.

How do you think you get a social network? Well, what are your interests? Do you even have any? If you like to lift weights, hit the gym often, talk to some dudes there, voila new friends over time. Co-workers should be a no brainer (if you have a job). It's like a web. You only need 1 person to chill with. They introduce you to someone else, bam now you know 2 people. Then they introduce you to a few others and before you know it you have 10 new acquaintances which can be made into friends. You gotta start somewhere though, and making up excuses for why you "can't" do something is only holding you back.

EDIT: I dunno about yoga, not my style at all. Dance could be good but don't go there just to meet chicks that's lame. Find a class where you actually want to learn that style of dance (which is good to know in the first place) and have fun.

 

[Nighthawk]

My unreformable AFC ex-friend was scarily anti-couples too. He wouldn't go to a birthday dinner because it would be 'all couples' like they were looking down on him. He wouldn't let me save a table in a coffee shop while he ordered, because that was part of the 'couple-advantage' that discriminated against single guys. Crazy. But would he ever ask out a woman? No.

Don't get mad, get even. Read the DJ Bible and actually apply it, and you will get a girl. Don't be too picky at first, you have to learn the ropes and trade up.

And yes, most people in relationships are unhappy.

 

[crackers444]

I know the feeling, I don't like seeing couples at movie theatre also! I too have a lot of strong qualities, good looking and intelligent. People don't seem to recognize me offline as much as they do online!

 

[MooseGod]

It's fun being part of a couple...for the first month or two, until sh!t goes downhill...

Don't let it get you down, think how much money you're saving! And nagging sucks too. Not to mention leaving the seat down. I mean seriously, if a chick's dumb enough to not look before she sits down, she deserves a wet ass.

But that's kinda weird to hate couples, you should be happier seeing happy people. I'd rather see a happy couple walking down the street anyday than say...watch the news where there are people killing each other all over the world for no good reason.

Sounds like you have a distorted world perspective, man.

 

[The Sperminator]

I'm not going to lie when I'm single for a while I feel the same way. It's jealousy. Plus depressing to you. Did you know the most suicides are done during spring and not winter like most people think. It's because the guy is lonley and depress and he sees all these couples happy together and it makes him even more depress. Don't worry though guys your time will come you just have to be patient. There is someone for everyone.

 

[RockAndRollRefugee]

There is someone for everyone.

:crackup:

Maybe... but some people have to learn to settle.