Seeing a therapist

Kerpal

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Does/has anyone here see a psychotherapist? I have a lot of issues that I just can't deal with on my own, but I'm very skeptical about psychology in general, a lot of it just seems like quackery to me. At this point I'm willing to try almost anything though.
 

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I am 100% sure it's quackery, except these quacks earned a degree is bullsh1tting. Oh they can also give you mind numbing drugs to "help you feel better." But that's just my opinion and it doesn't really matter.

If things are tough right now, try talking to someone close to you, maybe family and friends. However if you have no one, a psychiatrist is not a bad idea. Check it out, go for a session and see how you like it. If its your thing and it helps you, stick with it. If not, keep looking for help but the key is to never give up. Never stop fighting. Good luck man.
 

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Yeah I don't have anyone to talk to, that's why I was thinking about doing this. However, I can't get over the feeling that it's just quackery, plus I think I will have a hard time opening up and talking about my problems to someone I don't really know at all.
 

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Hi,

sorry to hear you have problems.

In theory they are good because at least they have experience with people's problems.

In reality they are mostly useless idiots like in every other profession, especially in a profession where the outcome is hard to measure.
Additional problem is that they live from your problems, so the longer it takes for your recovery the better ;).

So you have to see one with good reputation. Some even promise money return on curing common things like phobias which are easy to cure etc.

Like in everything else he will only show you the way. You will have to cure yourself in the end. So if you are not totally helpless, you might as well get it all done yourself. Just be sincere with yourself and don't over thing...be a above things.

Can you tell us what bothers you? Maybe someone here can help for he experienced something similar.
 

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I have mommy issues lol, so I see one and have for a few years. Also a recovered addict.

I don't expect to be "fixed". Alot of times however I get shown a different, professional point of view that I would not have come to about something. I've gotten over hating my mom due to my sessions. I don't like her lol, but I don't hate her like i used to.
 

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My ex-wife is a therapist in Florida. She has worked in both marriage and family and substance abuse counseling. I think therapy does have value with a decent counselor. She is good at what she does, and I still talk to her from time to time. It's very...therapeutic.
 

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I could never date a therapist. that is the one thing I refuse to do. They are NEVER wrong. ever.
 

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Kerpal said:
Does/has anyone here see a psychotherapist? I have a lot of issues that I just can't deal with on my own, but I'm very skeptical about psychology in general, a lot of it just seems like quackery to me. At this point I'm willing to try almost anything though.
Dude see my past posts on here. Therapy helped me a ton when I was in it. Unfortunately, it was through the school and so now that I'm no longer a student I can't see the same counselor so I'm in the process of looking for one.

Psychology is not "quackery". There are a lot of wacko psychologists out there, it is true, so the real challenge is in finding a counselor that is "good". Once you do, though, it will really help.

I was incredibly surprised by how my counselor basically read me like a book from the first 5 minutes of talking with her. Just based on how I talked and acted.

Anyways, I really do recommend getting some counseling if you think it will help, but just make sure that you shop around and find one that's reputable. There are a bunch of wacko psychotherapists out there, but don't let those nuts decide on your opinion of psychotherapy. If you find a good one it will help.

My therapist never recommended drugs to me. She basically took what I was feeling as I communicated it to her and went down to the underlying issues and how to resolve them. She recommended a few books (because I told her I liked to read about this stuff), recommended meditating and being more conscious about myself, and it all really helped me get out of the hole I was in. She was a completely normal person, not a "nut" as most people describe therapists. She related to me through her own experiences of her divorce and what she went through.

There are good therapists out there. What's the harm in trying? However, remember that if you do try, it has to be for a few weeks/months, and not for just one or two sessions. The first few sessions are just laying the groundwork for the entire process.
 

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I once read a great book, it's called "Change Your Thinking". Brilliant book, highly recommend it.
 

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I've learned that the people with MAs in counseling are much better at helping people through their problems than those with PhDs in psychology or MDs in psychiatry.

Councilors help; "doctors" make the problems worse. I think a lot of the "doctors" try to slow-play you and hustle you for more money. The "docs" also have their ego and reputation on the line, while councilors are there just trying to do their best to help you get better (most of the time).

Try to take advantage of any free counseling sessions you get with your college or employment health plan.
 

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