I have been going out with a few different women here and there. I dont see any of them very often though. One of these girls is dating around and has a few guys, no relationships, and she probably sees me the least out of all of us. She definately has some interest, however, and she is very responsive when I set up a date and everything always goes well between us while we are together. The question is, if I start to see her gradually more often, will she automatically be thinking "relationship"??
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The question is, if SHE starts to see YOU more often.. and if she is a lady player then most likely she is just going to try and play you.. so dont be expecting anything more then a fvck and dont let her play you.. you just make sure to lay the pipe.
retrievher
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I saw this one but somebody replied before I did, but is dead on! Make her see you, make her invest some of herself into whatever your doing together, if she's interested in a relationship it should be a full one right? Not just one that your so glad you weren't wasting your time that she now has you wrapped around her finger, and might reserve the right to look around for some more options.
Whether or not she is interested in a STR or a LTR, what are you interested in? This will solve your planning problems and make the next few steps a lot easier (because you won't be all freaked out) You determine what you want her to do, and thats how you let her know.
I saw this one but somebody replied before I did, but is dead on! Make her see you, make her invest some of herself into whatever your doing together, if she's interested in a relationship it should be a full one right? Not just one that your so glad you weren't wasting your time that she now has you wrapped around her finger, and might reserve the right to look around for some more options.
Whether or not she is interested in a STR or a LTR, what are you interested in? This will solve your planning problems and make the next few steps a lot easier (because you won't be all freaked out) You determine what you want her to do, and thats how you let her know.
Good points guys. Basically, I only see her about once a month, and we talk breifly a few times in between encounters. We both have other options, as I have explained, but I would like to gradually start to see her a little more, maybe twice a month to start off and then go from there. If I do this, do you think she will be going into the relationship mode?
You say she has other guys.. If she wanted a relationship then she would most likely already have one.. there is nothing you can do to make this girl want to date or like you.. if the chem isnt there then it isnt there. sorry bro..
I know that, thats not what I am asking. I have read on here and heard through other sources, that if you start seeing a girl more than once a week, she may switch into her "relationship mode". Im not quite proposing to see her that much yet, but if I fade to 3 times a month, and things are still going as well as they are going now, then I might want to see her more than that. I'm not asking how to get her to like me, I just want to know if she is going to be in "relationship mode" if i start to see her gradually more and more.
retrievher
Don Juan
Its not the frequency of times that you see her, its gonna be the quality of the times you see her. If she comes to associate you with happy times, good feelings, great convo and wants more of any of those, she should naturally look to see that you are in her life more. I'm kinda going through the same thing - its a delicate balance. But I'm seeing that when I'm around her, but not necessarily with her that a lot more unspoken signals get started by her. I'm thinking (and hoping) that this means we're not just hanging out and she is expressing that she's a sexual being, and that she recognizes that I'm one too.
Yup, Retrievher, that sounds like my situation. Like I said, everything goes great when we are together. There is crazy chemistry between us, and it just feels different than any other girl that I have dated or hung out with or worked with or anything. There have been times when she will start talking about how this guy is an a55hole, that guy is a pr1ck, whatever, (and I always change the subject to something fun and/or intelligent), but there is none of that with us. So its all quality when we are together. The sexual thing is starting to come around too. I appreciate the advice fellas. Anything else to add?
Be careful if she's a professional dater that likes being taken out, and given free food and entertainment...
When you go out with her or anyone else, you should have reasonable expectations that a connection or chemistry will surface over the course of a couple of dates...If there feels like a gap and distance, and you haphazardly get together off and on...you probably don't click and should move on....
If there is a connection, don't be afraid to start seeing her more and expecting more out of her...If she doesn't feel the same, her loss...
gl
When you go out with her or anyone else, you should have reasonable expectations that a connection or chemistry will surface over the course of a couple of dates...If there feels like a gap and distance, and you haphazardly get together off and on...you probably don't click and should move on....
If there is a connection, don't be afraid to start seeing her more and expecting more out of her...If she doesn't feel the same, her loss...
gl
