See if you guys can help me with what you called oneitis....

[iturbide1981]

ok..see if i dont get shut down in here too...ok..about two years you could say i was the shyest person you could find..my teeth were mess up..i just had low self esteem..not to low either..ok..well eventually i started to appreciated my appearence..i felt good about myself..and started clubbing..and as a matter of fact i found this website about two years ago too..and it helped me a lot..started reading a lot of books about relationships besides don juan discussion forums..
two of my favorites is THE GAME BY NEIL STRAUSS...AND THE ART OF SEDUCTION BY ROBERT GREENE...well you could say i am not that guy anymore...the one two years ago..

I mean i have a lot of luck with chicks that are not that attractive you could say i am always testing the same water, maybe i just handle what i know i can handle..(that sounds like more self esteem issues right) ok..every friday or saturday night i can go home with a phone number you could say i am like a recycler machine..ok about the oneitis..

I meet this girl at a party shes a good friend of my aunt..the first night we meet..whe where so into each other grinding you named it...then..you could say i left without a phone number or nothing then a month later i ended up hooking up with her ...and we went out for about 3 weeks..and like a total i think you all called them AFC...i told her what i felt..and she told me she just wanted to be friends..but we still went out for about 3 months after that incident...and i guess I read all the wrong messages..and i told her what i felt..and i told her too..after she shot me down..i told her that it was my fault for dealing with somebody that was more experience than i was and i think she took it as an insult..and you could say we did not go out anymore after that...

then 2 months later i am dancing with this girl and out of nowwhere she comes up to me and taps me from behind i turn around...and i saw her..but acted like i did not know here...but then i felt bad and i called her 3 days later apologising for the way i handle myself...(i know iknow) what a wuz...so that happen , and inside of my head...i thought to myself..ill make up for it...(but remmember when she tap me she was with a guy , DID SHE WANTED FOR ME TO SEE THAT SHE WAS WITH SOMEONE ELSE..remember we left of as friends...

so a month later a called her wishing her happy birthday and thing..but the while we were taliking she told she had a boyfriend...so i acted you know LIKE A FRIEND..I AM NOT INTERESTED SO WHAT you know kind of attitude...

so you know time passed remember i still went clubbing meeting new girls..but for some reason she is still in my mind everyday *EXCEPT FRIDAYS AND SATURDAYs

but THIS IS WHERE I WANT ALL OF YOULLS PERSPECTIVE...YESTERDAY DECEMBER THE 2ND SHE CALLED ME around seven oclock pm...remember its been two months since i had talked to her (her birthday) she talked and we were just catching up on things...but i acted again LIKE I DID NOT CARE...YOU KNOW SHE WANTS FRIENDSHIP ILL GIVE HER FRIENDSHIP
so we just said goodbye..and i thought that was the end of it..but 2 hours later (from her point view she called me to go out...but i acted like i did'nt know her intentions..) two hours later she called me..and asked me out...
we went out dancing..grinding you name it...and as soon as i was going to leave her at her house...she told me she really enjoy the night..and that she hope it would repeat itself...but remember she stills has her boyfriend supposly.....and i told her straight(i acted like i did not care) look you have a boyfriend and i dont want to cause problems..so if you want to repeat nights like this...if you really want too..YOU..YES YOU HAVE TO CALL ME....because if you were my girlfriend..i would not let another guy take you out to dance..
and she said ok...

BUT HERES THE DILLEMA I MET THIS GIRL LIKE IN JANUARY 2006 AND I BEEN CRAZY EVER SINCE..BUT KNOW THAT SHE HAS COME BACK INTO MY LIFE..I DONT WANT TO SCARE HER OFF..BY COMING TO STRONG...BUT I STILL LITTLE BY LITTLE WANT HER TO KNOW THAT MY INTENTIONS IS NOT BEING IN THE FRIEND ZONE...SO WHAT DO I LET HER TAKE THE INITIAVE FROM NOW ON...AND I JUST KEEP PRETENDING LIKE I DONT CARE...

oh and trust me those 4 months that a dint treat her..you know i been fooling around here and there as a matter of fact...i have this girl that is crazy for me...and since i dont want to hurt her feelings because i know how that feels i want to put her in the friend zone (ths little fact is to let all of you know that i am not as miserable...as i might seem to sound..)

BUT YES THIS GIRL ITS IN MY MIND ALL THE TIME AND NOW THAT SHES BACK...WHAT DO I DO? PRETEND I AM HER FRIEND..BUT MY WAY..NO CALLING NO NOTHING OR WHAT... PLEASE HELP...PLEASE

 

[iturbide1981]

ohhh

and by the way in those two year i got my teeth straight..jajaja

 

[iturbide1981]

whats up

no comments come on guys can you helpe me out..do i take more initiative..or do i totally disses her...i mean still like her a lot..but i dont want to get hurt again..or do i take the risk?

 

[Macca]

no I stopped reading when you started using capitals.

 

[Cod3r]

Live your life apart from her, if she so decides to be apart of it, let it be from 100% her effort, she makes the calls, she plans the dates, she makes the moves.... If she dosen't turn this page of ur life


-Cod3r

 

[Jay Jay]

Dude!

You are putting way too much value on this chick. It sounds like she is playing all sorts of games. I know you really like her but you are doing yourself no favours.

You say you don't want to scare her off. I say you do. Bust a move. If she runs you have closure and can get on with your life. If she doesn't run, well then...

 

[iturbide1981]

thanks cod3r, jay jay

for your words...trust me I know what to do...but like saturday that she aske me out where dancing this romantic song..and you know those guys that passed by with flowers..he asked ,,,some flowers for the lady...and I just said no thank you..or when I picked her up...I did not get out...did not open the door...I just hate myself...for being rude and cool...but I just dont want her to think nothing of me...(friends) right now, before this saturday i had seen her in 3 months....and I want her to actually hate..me then see me as a friend....i am sick huh...

 

[Cod3r]

^ ^ Actually bro... I agree with JayJay...

You NEED to have your heart broken. Bust a move and put your heart on a platter once again and let her take out a sharp pointed daggar and stick it straight in, then proceed to tear it to pieces and then eat the scraps


-Cod3r

 

[iturbide1981]

cod3r

men I swear ...thats a great quote...all this time...thats what I really wanted...see shes great...either that she can act real..good..she says she wants to be my friend...but I dont want to go back to that stage again..men you dont know how many nights I expected her phone call...but your right as a matter of fact should I called her tonight or wait for her to invite me again and just say everthing I actually feel...PLAIN AND SIMPLE...JUST DESTROY THAT ILLUSIONARY DREAM THAT I HAVE ABOUT ME AND HER...AND WHAT BETTER WORDS THAN YOURS...

 

[Cod3r]

I say go all out...

Call her up tonight, when she says hello just tell her to sit back and listen...

Take a deep breathe and even muster up some tears, I mean put your whole heart into it. Really think about how much emotion you have for her and lay it all out so she can hear it in your voice, tell her how you would lose your right testicle just to smell her morning breathe, how you would marry her right now and lock your d!ck in a chastity belt for the end of all time if she just said 'maybe', how you maturbate to the scent of her panties, EVERYTHING !!

I'm being dead honest, i mean really pour everything out on her. Really cleanse yourself of everything you feel, let it all out and really get into it and emotional and wash it all out, then watch and listen...

You'll actually hear her take the daggar out of its sheath and proceed to destroy you. You'll feel it even more when it hits you that she really dosen't give a flying fvck if you died tommorow as long as she was happy, then watch her look at your heart in her hand and proceed to eat it with a big smile on her face....

That should cure you... did the job for me


-Cod3r

 

[iturbide1981]

hey cod3r

men..it sounds good...but deep inside you know ...youre afraid..I think situations like this is what really makes a man a don juan...basic and simple get out of life ...what you WANT TO GET OUT OF IT

 

[iturbide1981]

I

put my last reply before you put yours...and its funny i thought i was cured..till she called again...and you put in plain words...jajjajaja what it means to actually get her off youre system

 

[Cod3r]

I hope you will heed my advice, it would be good for you


-Cod3r

 

[Charm]

Since you are not a Don Juan yet, you really dont know what makes a man into a Don Juan. Keep moving forward and you shall see.

 

[rpglord]

You do realize Cod3r is messing with you ? Don't even think about doing that.What you should do is call her,and arrange a meeting with her.When you are alone with her,start touching her ( kino ) .If she is receptive,kiss her on the lips.If you get rejected,well you know where you stand with her.If not,you get to live your dream ! I hope for this you can gather just a little bi9t of courage,just enough to go for the kiss.Its just that kiss which is keeping you from beeing with her.Thats what you want isn't it ? Then kiss her

 

[iturbide1981]

rpjlord thanks

trust me this thread i just dont want it to be just another thread...this girl...means so much to me..But you know if it doesnt work..maybe its all good..why because I thaught about over and over...and all this comes to just one thing...its making me aware of what i really want...more patient...because believe it or not I am not a player..I really want to settle down...but I guess all this its like a training camp...which will make me a better person etc etc...boy do i get cheesy huh...thanks again

 

[pvf94]

You do realize Cod3r is messing with you ? Don't even think about doing that.What you should do is call her,and arrange a meeting with her.When you are alone with her,start touching her ( kino ) .If she is receptive,kiss her on the lips.If you get rejected,well you know where you stand with her.If not,you get to live your dream ! I hope for this you can gather just a little bi9t of courage,just enough to go for the kiss.Its just that kiss which is keeping you from beeing with her.Thats what you want isn't it ? Then kiss her

For some reason I think coder is serious. :rockon:

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

"what you call oneitis"

look, dont act like we're speaking a foreign language. either use the slang, or dont.

 

[Cod3r]

You do realize Cod3r is messing with you ?

Umm, no i'm as serious as an STD


-Cod3r