Second Date

[Lamia]

I've been talking to this girl and stuff like that for 3 months and we are pretty cool wiht each other. Last weeknd I went on a date with her (my first date :nervous: ) and it went alright except for a few things that I dont understand.

1.) In the movies I was thinking of trying to get romantic with her but I didnt know whether or not she was ready so we pretty much talked all through the movies...

2.) At the end of the date I felt pissed cause inside of me it felt like I did pretty bad. I don't understand why but I was kicking myself thinking that she dosn't want to talk to me anymore...

I'm thinking to go out with her again but I need somethings to improve on.

 

[musicman10]

just take her on a more fun date, the movies is just an excuse to be on a date with her, take her bowling or to shoot pool with her, do anything that u can bet a kiss on, ull b making out in no time

 

[Anomalous]

Lamia, you must be italian. You need to stop living in the past or future. Live in the NOW, the present. Don't even think about what the past or future holds.

The only thing you have to worry about is, "What can I do at this very moment to feel complete? How can I improve my state to a point of ecstasy?"

Only then will you truely live a peaceful live, and in return you will never sweet a kiss or F-close.

Your are welcome.

 

[Michael Chief]

Lamia, you must be italian.

lol wtf?

anyway, things to keep in mind for your second date: just make sure you got the "inner game" down and the "outer game" will naturally take care of itself. In other words, just keep the right mindset. Be calm, cool, collect, and confident. Relax with every breath and know that you are more comfortable in your own skin than anyone else

If you think right, you'll act right.

For the date itself, do anything that involves a heightened sense of physical and/or emotional arousal (not necessarily sexual). Your goal is to stimulate her sympathetic nervous system so that you go with her through an intense emotion (such as fear). This is why rollercoaster parks are such fun dates! I shall quote an actual controlled experiment:
"In tests of theory, college men have been aroused to fright, by running in place, by viewing erotics materials, or by listening to humorous or repulsive monologues. They are then introduced to an attractive woman and asked to rate her (or their girlfriend). Unlike unaroused men, those who are stirred up attribute some of their arousal to the woman or girlfriend and feel more attracted to her (Carducci & others, 1978; Dermer & Pyszczynski, 1978; White & Kight, 1984)." - Psychology Sixth Edition, David G. Myers
The experiment may have been conducted on men, but women will obviously have a similar effect.