I'm a Psychology college student and I'm very interested in behavior, dating, and women. I have a good exposure to the academics and I'm hooked on learning. Enough about me, this is a small database I put together based on my experience. All the info contained here is backed up by research.
Women who wear tiny clothes playing hard to get:
Emotions are officially the most addictive drugs that exists. Developmental psychology recognizes attention (and the chemical reaction in the brain) as being the most sought-after feeling in humans. Think about a baby crying and a mom going to check on him. She has no idea why he's crying, hence, crying catches attention & gets the baby what he needs. If babies who are only a few months old know what to do to get what they want, what do you think a smoking-hot woman can come up with to get what she wants out of you?
Don't get whipped! :trouble:
Give her your full attention and she will be out the door before you can say "I'm a chump." Give an addict a high dose of drugs & he will probably die, just like attraction dies when you give too much attention to a woman. On the other hand, give her few small pills of your attention a week & reward her with a few extra ones when she "behaves"
and you will have her coming back for more and more.
Sh!t tests:
I'm repulsed by how much the term above appears in this forum. However, it is a must I bring it up. Women will give you tests to see right through you. Psychologically, she is trying to find someone who will keep up with her & has similarities, along with a man who can produce attractive children that will survive to the next generation, and beat the crap out of other males who want to hurt her or her offspring. This is why hitting the gym is important.
She can get 100 times more information in a single 10-second test than by conducting an interview on you. The sh!t test is "lie-proof" according to her mentality because that's what has been working for generations. If you pass 5/10 tests, that's default probability. Yet, if you successfully pass 9/10 chances are you got your game together. Just like if you flipped a coin 10 times and it always lands on the tails side; the coin is probably weighed. This is why building rapport and getting through your target's persona is so important.
Men who grew up without a paternal figure:
Boys who were raised by single mothers have about the same probability to be healthy and lead a normal lifestyle their counterparts who were raised by both parents. Nevertheless, a paternal figure MUST be present in the boys life for him to become a MAN & model healthy social behavior accepted int he culture. This is where many guys are stuck and learned to be sweet boys, better known as AFC's in this forum.
What if you're all grown up already? Well, hangout with some guys who are already successful at meeting women (or whatever your goal may be). By surrounding yourself with people who have more experience, status & confidence, you will most likely blend in to avoid being the outsider (and some chumps will run
).
Now, am I saying that you should systematically think about science when you're out with a cutie? Hell no. Stop trying to overanalyze everything and just go for the fish. Are you scared of other men who are smaller and skinnier than you? Most of you will answer no. Then why the HECK would you be scared of a woman who is way weaker than you? Well, there is an area in your cerebral cortex where pain is registered through your central nervous system. When you cut yourself, your nerves put a little note in an envelope that says "this hurts!", and then send it to the brain. Similarly, social rejection "pokes" the same exact area of the brain (through the examination of MRI's) when you get rejected. Hence, it literally hurts.
So what can you do? The mind is the most advanced biological machine that has ever existed. You can literally train your mind to ELIMINATE pain & failure from your reality. A break-up can be a negative experience. Shoosh...so she dumped your sorry butt for some other guy & now you're lonely & frustrated. Nooo....she did you a FAVOR. You need to work on your game and self-esteem before you do this to yourself again. The end of a relationship is the beginning of a better, more fulfilling relationship with a cuter babe.
Dating and life in general are defined by the choices we make. By not talking to people, you are missing out on making new friends. By staying with a psycho girlfriend, you are missing out on a beautiful, healthy woman out there. By denying scientific findings, you chose to stay ignorant. And most importantly, by NOT making a decision, you are, paradoxically, making a decision.
Keep moving forward, fellas! I'll update in the future.
