School's turning REAL sh!ty, REAL fast, help me...read this post

[Drug_L0rd]

hi, how's it going

hope you are all doin good. i'm not. let me cut to the chase quickly.

recently in school my friends have started turning against me. i don't know why. these are the guys i hang around with at recess and lunch times. these are my good friends. at first i fit into the group pretty good. but recently for some reason everything's going downhill for me. i am still friends with my best friends but i want to become good friends with the rest of them aswell.

for some reason i sometimes meet a guy and we become really good instantly. we connect, i make the guy laugh. he likes to be with me and that, i do all this sometimes without even trying. but the boys i try to become good friends with i cannot connect with for some odd reason. i don't freaking understand it.

i've been in this group at school since the beginning of the year. i definately became more friendly towards most of them but it wasn't the type of results i was looking for. i wanted to become REALLY good friends, particularly with three guys in the group. whatever i've tried i just cannot do it, and now my friendship with most of the group is going downhill day by day. and it's all because of ONE guy.

for some reason, he started a grudge against me. i have no idea what i did to him. he is popular and a good friend of everyone in the group, especially with the three guys i was talking about earlier. so from what my instincts tell me, he has influenced them and turned them against me. and from them a chain reaction has happened which has now carried on to a few of the other boys. We'll call the guy Joe. Joe puts on a happy, friendly face whenever he sees me, says hi to me and all of that, he thinks im stupid, he thinks i cant see through him. i can snap the guy like a skinny twig if i wanted to but that will only make things worse, it isn't the answer. why you ask? because he may look like he's showing me respect and all the rest of it but behind my back he'll talk more. he knows he can't get at me physically so he'll fuk my social life in the school up.

has anyone every watched that movie Van Wilder, i wanna be like that guy man. see how everyone loved him. the boys were his best friends, he treated the nerds and the winners and popular ones all the same. all the boys wanted to be him and all the girls wanted him. i wanna be like that, I JUST DON'T FRIGIN KNOW HOW.

FUUUUUUUUUUK, first i could get along perfectly with any boy but i couldn't carry a conversation with a girl now its the other way around. there's always something wrong.

i have two questions:
1) how do i fix this problem, i'm just hanging in the group by my finger nails and can get back up. i just need to know how to connect and become really good friends with these guys. i wanna know how to connect with them. get them to REALLY like me.

2) do you have any tips or anything that you all personally do to connect better with someone?

i know i come off as a loser in this post, but believe me i'm quite the opposite. it's just Joe who's caused all of this, i don't know how to fix this.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

You can try and make things better with Joe, whoop is ass, or just move on. You can't get everyone to like you, that's just life. Try building rapport with people, through stories and stuff so that people get to know you better and erase their newly construed ideas.

Try sharing more if you don't right now, and if they are your close friends you are prepared to go out on a limb fo them, but not allow them to walk all over you

 

[freshintake]

confront joe and ask him what his problem is. if you dont feel comfortable doing that then talk to one of the other guys who you are better friends with about it. Otherwise, become better friends with the others, then they shouldnt care what joe thinks of you.

 

[Oxide]

one big thing you are doing wrong is over analysing. ive lost so many people becuase i worried too much about what they thought of me.

In 9th grade i could swear one kid named Charly disliked me. Well 2 years later i meet him and he is the nicest guy ever, we connect and everything is great.

DO NOT WONDER WHAT OTHERS THINK. FVCK what they think, do what YOU want to do.

 

[Drug_L0rd]

Originally posted by Oxide
one big thing you are doing wrong is over analysing. ive lost so many people becuase i worried too much about what they thought of me.

In 9th grade i could swear one kid named Charly disliked me. Well 2 years later i meet him and he is the nicest guy ever, we connect and everything is great.

DO NOT WONDER WHAT OTHERS THINK. FVCK what they think, do what YOU want to do.

i know exactly what you mean. i do it A LOT. i over analyse, for example if someone didn't shake my hand in the friendly way he did yesterday then i'll think to myself...wtf, was it something i did?


and Microphone Fiend, it's easily said AND easily done (whooping his ass) but it will get me NOTHING, if anything it will make things WORSE, he'll paint a worser image behind my back to them.

thanks for the advice freshintake.

 

[es_mer8]

Reminds me of this one kid I know named Aaron that talks behind people's back. He tries to be everyone's friend. I'm not sure what his deal is but he talks behind people's backs like crazy. He started talking sh*t about my best friend and I said, "Why do you talk behind everyone's back?" He said, "Everyone does it." I told my friend about what he said. He then told me everything bad he said against me. Then we told our friends and we all had stories to tell of how our good buddy talked behind our backs. One day he was talking bad about me but didn't know I was there (I like 10 ft away) My friend knew I was there and asked about me. After spewing BS from every orifice, I said, "Talking behind people's backs again?"

Later that night, we all got tired of his BS. We put two stickers on the window of his truck behind his seats so that way he can't notice them in his rear view mirror. One said "Guys Wanted" and the other said "Can I Borrow Your Boyfriend?" He found out the next day and was pissed to say the least. They peeled right off and was determined to "kick the ass of whoever did it." A stupid ass ho told that it was me and others that did it. He confronted me about it and was like "What the f*ck are you doing touching my truck?"

"I did it alone but we got tired of your backtalking BS."

He didn't kick my ass. Instead I told him that we all knew you were talking behind our backs and should be glad we're putting stickers on his truck instead of "beating the living sh*t" out of him. He got pissed but he knew I was right. He just avoids us now but is starting to talk to us again. He has yet to talk sh*t about anyone ever since.

My advice: confront