School starting CHALLENGE!

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Greetings fellow students!
Wellcome to school again.


Love it or don't, here we are again.
Oh, look at those all real good piece of fine áss!

That's what I'm talking about!

Actually, not much.
I am here to give you a challenge!
Ah, music to the real DJ's ears who wants to improve.

What we are going to get from this is more comfortable and enjoyable school year for you.
Interested? I bet you are.

So this is going to be a new, fresh start to school and some of you guys get a new start as DJ's too.


1) Get more motivated going to school.
More easily said than done. Now when you get a new start and you haven't got a burnout yet, it's quite easy to start. If it's still hard try to remind yourself all the positive things: you have something to do, you meet your buddies there, there's some hot chicks, it's fun to hang around there.. What ever positive you can imagine. And remind yourself often that you are a DJ and even just being you is fun!
Sleep 8-10 hours every night to make sure that you are awaken and fresh every day. Go to sleep an hour earlier than you used to so you can wake up little earlier, make some good breakfast, take a shower, listen to radio or some music that cheers you up, read the paper to get your brains work, have a friendly chat with your family member, take a little time to spend in front of your mirror. You want to look at your best at school.
Make sure you don't have to hurry in the morning. I know this may sound hard, I used to love only those mornings I could just continue sleeping.
I can do it and so do YOU!
If you start your day nice, the rest of the day goes nice as well.
When you are having a class, try to listen more what the teacher has to say. If you had a good morning this isn't hard either. If everyone seems bored, try to cheer up the athmosphere a little bit. For example last week we had a really boring math class. The teacher made us to copy a square shaped table of numbers to our notebooks. He was shouting those numbers and we copied. It was silent. Suddenly I screamed outloud "BINGO!". Everyone bursted out laughing even the teacher. Oh, you got the idea.
When you are having a recess, it's time to sosialize and have a good time with your buddies. Try to get people laugh. Your good day should cheer others up too!
Now when school is over, try to do your homework as soon as possible. If you can't do them straigt away then do something relaxing first. When you get them done, they don't bother you anymore in the evening. This is important. After doing your homework you can feel and be free rest of the day. And next day, when you have done your homework properly, make sure to raise your hand if you know the answer or if you have some comments. It gives you a good feeling when you made your homework and now it's your turn to shine with your knowledge. It even needs some balls to say what is in your mind.
Don't allow negative thoughts about school poison your mind.
School IS fun!


2) Making your social circles bigger.
There are many guys you see every day but you've never talked to them. Talk! they may be good guys to talk with or even be your future buddies! It's bad to have just few friends. Get them more! You don't have to try something special here. Express your thoughts about current situation, or a teacher for example. They will respond.
I don't say here that you should dump all your current buddies. No. It's REALLY important you hang around with them and have fun. Otherwise there's a risk that you get apart from them. Make sure everyone is having fun being with you. Don't be the guy who is always negative and complains how boring it is in school. Because it isn't.
If there's some other DJ-like guy you don't know and you feel that he is going to steal all your chicks, don't start to compete with him. Make friends with him. You can propably get a good wingman for future.
This is why it's important to have many friends. You never know if they suddenly become your best friends or you may need them one day. There's no negative things about having many friends. Go and get some new friends!


3) Get more chicks.
Ah, this is what you all are here for. Your school is perfect place to practice your knowledge. I ain't going to go into details how to get women here, but try to expand your game. Make friends with new chicks. Ugly ones too! they are for social proof. Is there someone special you've always felt that you are in love into? Oh, get over it. it's PURE LUST! LUST, LUST, LUST! It's just your D!ck who is trying to confuse you. Even if you feel lust to her, there's nothing to be ashamed of. You are male and she is female. Just this time GROW SOME BALLS AND APPROACH!!! What are you waiting for player? Go and get her! and if you don't, you are not a DJ, you can't ever become one and you will be doomed to be a loser AFC forever! Period. And if you get rejected, don't worry. Big deal! at least you had some balls to try!
Girls are needed to make your schooling experince enjoyable. It's nice when so many girls say hi to you while waving in the halls! This, if nothing cheers your day and make you feel that you are the man!


4) Other things that keep you fresh:
It's also important that you can switch that school off from your mind. It's your free time.
Do something you really enjoy.
Hang out with your mates, do sports, pursue chicks, go to the mall, hit to the beach, listen music...
There are countless things you can do.
Join to a gym if you haven't already!
Eat well so you have enough energy. Sleep enough.
Remember to get your butt up and live a life!


5) Every day is a new day.
I have been taking every single day as a brand new day. And a new chance to countless opportunities. Don't think next day as just another day. It's really like a new life. When you go to sleep you think "ah, it's whole new day tomorrow! I can't wait waking up!". This is the real attitude you should have. School can't be boring this way. And REMEMBER: Tomorrow never comes. There's only today. You may be dead tomorrow. Live it today at max so you know you have Lived.



So the challenge here for you is to take every day as it's own and make every day you are in school special and enjoy!
This may be hard at first but it's really worht it!!!
By trying to make this a routine, it will one day be and your everyday life will improve really much! You will feel much happier.
Now, who's with me to get to the next level?



I made this thread mostly because:
My last year sucked BIG time.
I got kicked from classes because of continuos absence.
My motivation was totally gone.
This had something to do with my new stage of DJ'ing which killed my interest and need of girls for a while.
And because my only motivation to go school was girls I didn't even go to school much... (there are other things too!)
And Hell no I'm going to let this happen to you too!


Happy Hunting!
- Hot Ice
 

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hey good advice, i have to try that "Bingo" comment some time, lol
but theres one problem i've decided that i just dont want to go out with any of the girls in school, i was friends with all of them when i was an afc, an so i cant ether change their mind about me, so ive decided to just go for new girls or non at all, plus i tend to prefer the more rock chicks, they have more fun imo
 

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Great post!

Can you help me out with something?

See, my school is focking huge! Over 6,000 people attend. So, its impossible to know everyone. I notice about 50 new faces everyday. And this is everyday. And only people who I actually look at to observe their face. If I were to stand somewhere observing the courtyard during lunch and look at everybody, thered be about 300 students in my view. And Id probably only know only 1 person. And its only KNOW, not even if Id have talked to them or anything. Just RECOGNIZE them.

Thats how big it is.

So.... in class Id joke around, make people laugh and all. But I do everything indipendent. I don't make conversation or small talk, because Im not a good conversationist. Only if I talk to girls will I try to make conversation. I tend to get nervous on ALL conversations. I usually only talk if I need to talk. But when I talk I don't seem shy at all. My ******d appearance and aura isn't shy at all. Just keeps to himself, yet not afraid to say anything. Sort of humble.

So, like I said I do crack jokes during class about whatever is going on in the class. I say them to the people around me. But as soon as I go outside, I don't know anybody. If their is a girl I was macking to, thatd be basically the only time youd see me interacting with someone outside of class. Between classes Im always on my way to another class, I say wussup to someone I know or recognize if I see them. And that is IF! Now I don't even bother to go ahead and try to look for people I know because its a waste of time, everywhere I look there is a crowd. I don't have time to look around a crowd desperately looking for someone to say hi to or talk to.

During lunch today I said wussup to like 4 people I recognize, and all of them were on their way to somewhere, so nobody was really chilling. So I planted myself on an empty peice of wall and just stood there the whole damn lunch period, since I don't eat lunch in school. That sucks. I don't know anybody! I only usually see about 3 poeple during lunch who I know out of like a couple thousand kids.

I don't know how to make small talk. I don't know how to make conversation just FOR THE SAKE of conversation. I was never that way. I always kept to myself and was never afraid to speak up about things that I needed to speak up about.

This is getting me frustrated. Its the second day of school. I dont know how to make freinds, don't know how to make small talk with poeple just for the sake of small talk. Only know how to joke around. WTF!! (and complain like im doing now) but I want some advice.
 

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Originally posted by Boricua_33015
See, my school is focking huge! Over 6,000 people attend. So, its impossible to know everyone. I notice about 50 new faces everyday. And this is everyday. And only people who I actually look at to observe their face. If I were to stand somewhere observing the courtyard during lunch and look at everybody, thered be about 300 students in my view. And Id probably only know only 1 person. And its only KNOW, not even if Id have talked to them or anything. Just RECOGNIZE them.

---> Man, I've always dreamed about bigger schools... I'm in a school where's about 400? students. There's wait a minute... 6 girls I would like to f*ck. Not a great number, eh? so keep in mind you are BLESSED with endless amounts of hotties...
I see your problem though. It seems you don't actually have those social circles. That's what meeting new people is all about! you get more faces to recognize!

So.... in class Id joke around, make people laugh and all. But I do everything indipendent. I don't make conversation or small talk, because Im not a good conversationist. Only if I talk to girls will I try to make conversation. I tend to get nervous on ALL conversations. I usually only talk if I need to talk. But when I talk I don't seem shy at all. My ******d appearance and aura isn't shy at all. Just keeps to himself, yet not afraid to say anything. Sort of humble.

---> So your problems are
1) you're not a good conversationalist
2) you get nervous
3) you talk only if you need

I say these are excuses not to talk and not to be so eager to meet new people...
1) I'm not good either. But for basic tips there are a Full section in bible to get better in this!!
2) This will go away when you get experience and practice. There's no magical cure to this.
3) Don't talk only if you need. Talk every time you can and it's good to talk. I understand. You are within all these strangers but at least talk to girls! You can't say that you can't think of a subject. Think about the situation. Think about how it would be like to be this person right now who you are going to talk with. Always take a chance to talk. If you screw up, nobody cares! your school is so damn big. Again, read that becoming better conversationalist section in the bible and advance!



So, like I said I do crack jokes during class about whatever is going on in the class. I say them to the people around me. But as soon as I go outside, I don't know anybody. If their is a girl I was macking to, thatd be basically the only time youd see me interacting with someone outside of class. Between classes Im always on my way to another class, I say wussup to someone I know or recognize if I see them. And that is IF! Now I don't even bother to go ahead and try to look for people I know because its a waste of time, everywhere I look there is a crowd. I don't have time to look around a crowd desperately looking for someone to say hi to or talk to.

---> Sounds kinda bad, but how do you think other people socialize there? it can't be THAT bad you described! Not everybody wonder around from classroom to classroom and be alone within 6,000 other people.

During lunch today I said wussup to like 4 people I recognize, and all of them were on their way to somewhere, so nobody was really chilling. So I planted myself on an empty peice of wall and just stood there the whole damn lunch period, since I don't eat lunch in school. That sucks. I don't know anybody! I only usually see about 3 poeple during lunch who I know out of like a couple thousand kids.

---> Again, you shouldn't be standing ALONE within 6,000 people. It's impossible! again, you don't have to KNOW people to interact with them. I see this particular thing pisses you off.
How about you would make a conversation starter with some person about this with other students?
Ask if they feel like you do.
Ask how they meet people in your school when it's so damn big.
Ask how is it even possible to find buddies to chill with.
Anything about this...
This would be a great convo subject!
I bet you are not alone with this and you may even get some ideas...


I don't know how to make small talk. I don't know how to make conversation just FOR THE SAKE of conversation. I was never that way. I always kept to myself and was never afraid to speak up about things that I needed to speak up about.

---> Now we are going to change that right, bro?
Hell yeah! What is small talk? usually people chat about things that are light and are common to them. i.e. situation, looks, news, anything!
Think about what has happened past few days and talk about that! Think about what is common to you and the person you are going to talk with...
If you really try, You will make it, I'm sure!
Again, check that bible section out!


This is getting me frustrated. Its the second day of school. I dont know how to make freinds, don't know how to make small talk with poeple just for the sake of small talk. Only know how to joke around. WTF!! (and complain like im doing now) but I want some advice.

---> I think I have already given you enough advice.
Now it's YOUR turn to take action and advance.

I hope you report soon when you have tried some small chatting and meeting new people. Not just in classes but outside too!

Cheers!
- Hot Ice
 

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thanks Hot Ice, you inspired me.
 

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Originally posted by Boricua_33015
thanks Hot Ice, you inspired me.
You are wellcome.
And believe or not, you inspired me too!

Now I'm going to bed so I can start a new day ;)
 

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Beautiful.
 

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Boricua, don't feel overwhelmed by how large your school is. I also attend a huge school (about 5500 people), but sooo many people know me and say hi to me and talk to me, but most of the time I don't even know their names or I can't remember ever talking to them before. I have many friends and tons of aquantances.

At the beginning of my sophmore year I had 3 friends and that was it. It didn't take but one semester to make friends with almost my entire graduating class. Now I'm a senior and I couldn't be happier.

Hot Ice made a very important post because, if you want to meet new people and make new friends, you have to be enjoying yourself. You gotta be having fun.

You have to show that you're a fun person to be around.

You have to respect everyone

You have to get your face out there (ie sports, clubs or anything you might find fun that people can associate your face with)

And finally, you have to MEET NEW PEOPLE. You can't expect friends to just fall in your lap. Make an effort to start a conversation with at least 5 new people every day.

That's all there is to it. Now go make some friends!
 

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Those are the goals i made for myself to start this school year, and so far i took giant leaps towards completing them in a day!

Thanks for putting it in words, now i have something physically there to keep me motivated.:D
 

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Man, If my school had 6,000 people in it, I'd be somewhat in heaven when it comes to meeting new people and girls and what not! So many chances and possibilities!


I mentioned in another thread that in my last class I go around and shake everyone's hand and say hello and have small convo with some and what not. What do you think of this Ice?
 

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Excellent post... I think this may be exactly what I needed. Keep up the good work :)
 

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Yeah Hot Ice, I start school next week, this kind of gives me an optimistic outlook, thanks man.
 

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Bump this one, I like it, just gotta get motivated for school now...
I wish I was in a huge school like you Boricua, damn (In my school, there is about 30-40 people in my grade!)
 

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Originally posted by Ded_Skin_Mask13
Man, If my school had 6,000 people in it, I'd be somewhat in heaven when it comes to meeting new people and girls and what not! So many chances and possibilities!


Same here! My grad class is 160 or so. I've pretty much tapped out my senior and junior classes for worthy girls. Sophomores are a chance though... if they are old enough...
 

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Fellow students!
Brother DJ's!

I ain't gonna belive that reading this once will make changes.
What I mean is, I already failed my own challenge once.
And you need to make this as a ROUTINE.

Heh, it ain't gonna help if you just do it once and let yourself slip into your old habits!
No!
I slipped once and you can't belive how mad I was to myself that I even managed to fail this...
There went a good day at school when I was just sleeping at home.
And there is NO WAY I'm going let this happen to you!!!

I'm laughing to myself that I need to read MY OWN post to keep it up! haha.

So guys,
Boricua_33015,
PiHiPlaya...
All of you!
You've been doing this? Anything to share and report?
I wan't you to improve and you need to show it to me!


I mentioned in another thread that in my last class I go around and shake everyone's hand and say hello and have small convo with some and what not. What do you think of this Ice?
You've done this already?
I don't know about the hand shaking with EVERYBODY (you might seem as little freaky or too forward), but it would be good to shake some of your new buddies hands to make a bond between you two, but I wouldn't do it with everyone. About talking... go ahead!

Cheers
- Hot Ice
 

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Nice!!! I agree with you big time, it's also been my attitude this year since I'm attending a new school and I've noticed the mistakes I did last year. Just like yours, my last year sucked as well. Let's make sure we both end up having the greatest year we've ever had!!

Originally posted by Hot Ice
It's nice when so many girls say hi to you while waving in the halls!
Sure as hell it is!! :D
 

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This is some good stuff ! I was doing pretty good how/where I am in HS at the moment, but hey, I feel I'll do even better this year !
 

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I'm starting my senior year tomorrow with those words in my head.

Thanks Hot Ice, I'll come back tomorrow night and share stories with ya guys :D
 
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