Rollo Tomassi said:
Men have one criteria for intimacy - she's got to be hot - everything else is negotiable. Attractiveness and sexual availabilty are the only prerequisites necessary for him to engage in sexual behavior with a woman.
I must side with the others objecting to this comment, because it is a VAST oversimplification of what is going on. If you are going to us the facs of evolution for your arguments then you need to take those arguments much deeper than you are going. I see absolutely no reason to believe that all men everywhere will deploy the same mating strategies. We don't all have the same color eyes. We don't have all the same tastes. We don't all have the same temperments. Why would all men use the same mating strategy? They wouldn't, they don't, and their's no reason to believe that we were all born with a genetic predisposition to mate just one way.
Cads vs. Dads
Let's imagine ourseles two tribes of men in the ancient world. Both will do things that we all recognize as typical male behavior.
The first tribe likes to spend its days out hunting, and when not hunting out playing sports. When they meet women they indescriminantly fvck them and then leave. This tribe has no cares in the world and if some of those women they fvcked happen to become pregenant the members of this tribe shall never know or even care because they have no concern for such things. We shall call them the Cads.
Our other tribe also spends part of its day hunting, but the rest of its day this tribe spends doing more work. They have divided their labor up among the individual members. While all of them have their job as hunters they also have their individual jobs of farmer, carpenter, blacksmith, and the like. This tribe also likes women, but treats them differently than the Cads tribe. This, the Dads tribe, tells women that they shall give women a house to live in with wealth at their disposal. The Dads offer the protection that organizing into a group offers: the division of labor that produces specialists in medicine and war and all other things pleasing to men. The Dads tribe has a standing Army to defend its borders and a domestic police force to ensure the ladies are safe in the streets. When children are born the Dads tribe protects the children and educates them in the ways of aquiring fortune in love and war. The Dads offer this all and more to the women, but they demand a cost from the ladies. The Dads tribe tells the ladies they must remain virgins util they are married to one member of the tribe. Once they are married they must remain loyal and sexually exclusive to the may they have married. If these conditions are violated the offending lady shall be kicked out of the protection of the city walls and must find her way in the wild.
Back when we were all roving around in tribes, most sex was probably rape; a woman in that era would be a fool not to take the offer of the Dads tribe.
But my point is not what women should chose, rather that the trite 'men want to spread their seed' is an oversimplification of what is going on. Men who, in our more barbaric past, would not give heavy parental invsetment to their young very often did not leave offspring because the women they refused to protect ended up starving, became a meal themselves, or were killed by a more organized rival tribe. The tribe that was historically successful was not the mindlessly permiscuous tribe of men who "gave their intimacy" to the first piece of hot azz that came along. Rather, it was the tribe that protected their women, and forced their women to be loyal (
or else). Refusal to deal with women who gave signs she would cuckold them was one of a host of strategies aside from physical looks that kept the Dads tribes alive.
The best part of all this Darwinian talk is that even ancient man said
explicitly that he wanted a virgin who would be loyal to him. Go and read "The Rape of the Sabines" by Livy. The Dads tribe in Livy's account could have picked up wandering women, but they kidnapped the virgin women of the Sabines so that this Dad's tribe would ensure paternity. Long before Darwin was around this tribe of Dads participated in large scale bride kidnapping to ensure their genetic legacies. Maybe you've heard of them, they were called "the Romans".
So no Rollo, a hot piece of azz isn't nearly enough to convince the Dads tribe, or the Romans, that this was all they needed to "give their intimacy".