Scarcity mindset is not a negative thinking pattern when it is based in reality most of the time

[parabellum]

Takes women to be good with women. Everyone’s path will be different, but you have to get there or be labeled a failure by society. It does get exhausting, and anyone that tells you otherwise is just trolling.

 

[mikedee]

I remember a family friend of mine noting how I was the happiest when I was in a relationship this was years ago. IMO i prefer to be in a relationship with an attractive woman than single romaing dating apps or trying to chase tail at a fashion event. Yes relationships aren't always perfect but I vowed to never be the 40 year old guy, trying to chase 21 year old chicks and buying them drinks like some loser

Nothing wrong with chasing 21yo when you're 40, buy buying them drinks.. no.

 

[EndlessNameless]

Here's a simple experiment, chisel your body to an Adonis state and tell me if attractive women still ignore you in public. Their relationship status means absolutely nothing when your physical presence and charisma are a testament to relentless calculated self work. The irony is I'm not doing it for them, and neither should you.

I can confirm. I have an adonis like body and it does make heads turn.
But it won't make you happier if you do it for the wrong reasons. All this female attention (which means shyt btw) just feeds you ego. And your ego will never be satisfied and will constantly looking for more attention.

As you said, you gotta do it for yourself and not care about external validation.

 

[zekko]

All of this talk about abundance, abundance, abundance is not based in reality and we are lying to ourselves!

I think in order to have a true abundance mentality, you have to build abundance for yourself. A man has to build his social life and his experience so that he knows he can attract women. And if he is able to build a true rotation of plates and maintain it consistently, then he has abundance. I tend to favor LTRs, but I have always been able to find another girl some way or other so I feel some level of confidence there.

If a man doesn't have the experience of having women attracted to him, then he needs to build his experiences to get the confidence and abundance. In the meantime, he needs to be sure his interactions with women are not desperate or needy - just consider it being socially savvy. Some call this fake it until you make it. Obviously some guys are going to struggle more than others.

 

[corrector]

If a man doesn't have the experience of having women attracted to him, then he needs to build his experiences to get the confidence and abundance.

By visiting Thailand?

 

[zekko]

By visiting Thailand?

Whatever works.

 

[SW15]

Scarcity is likely to be reality for somewhere around 80-90% of men.

With that said, I don't think it's a good idea for the majority of that 80-90% to be resigned to scarcity. Scarcity mindset does create a lot of problems in interactions.

I think the better mentality is a mentality of self value. While scarcity might have a basis in reality, the 80-90% of men likely experiencing scarcity are not well served acknowledging the scarcity. They are well served acknowledging their own value and seeking interactions with women who appreciate them for the value that they offer.

Some men will need to increase value but there are plenty of mid tier men who have some value but need to find the right partner setup.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I can confirm. I have an adonis like body and it does make heads turn.
But it won't make you happier if you do it for the wrong reasons. All this female attention (which means shyt btw) just feeds you ego. And your ego will never be satisfied and will constantly looking for more attention.

As you said, you gotta do it for yourself and not care about external validation.

It’s a dopamine rush that is addictive.

 

[nismo-4]

I'd worry about improving. Take a guy who's not genetically gifted or sexy. He has no standout aesthetics. If I gave that guy 5 million dollars, a Lamborghini, a RR Cullinan, a lit IG with a blue check and 100k followers, and a penthouse suite downtown, he's really attractive then isn't he? He can buy aesthetics, a business, surgery, height, heavy stocks/ crypto, etc.

Preaching abundance is easy. Actually having it is a whole different ball game.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Abundance or scarcity aren’t mindsets. They are conditions. You are, in reality, in one of those two states. Regardless of your ‘mindset’.

I beg to differ. Abundance is mostly a mindset. Scarcity isn't a mindset, but can be.

re: Abundance is a mindset, because if someone has low/normal standards, they may live an average 'good life' and feel grateful for the abundance they receive. However, if someone is entitled and spoiled (think Elliot Rodger), their real abundance doesn't get acknowledged and they don't have the abundance mindset because they are never satisfied with what they have. Someone with a little affluence can feel more abundance than a billionaire who is dissatisfied with the happiness they thought they'd feel from accumulating their wealth. They never have enough, so they never feel they have abundance, even if they live in that abundant condition.

re: Scarcity isn't a mindset, but can be. In general, scarcity is a 'market condition'. However, like I stated above, some people are never satisfied and they experience a scarcity mindset while actually living in abundance.

This is why you can see happy people living in scarcity conditions and unhappy people in abundance condition.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Takes women to be good with women. Everyone’s path will be different, but you have to get there or be labeled a failure by society. It does get exhausting, and anyone that tells you otherwise is just trolling.

I think it only becomes exhausting if being with women feels like a burden and getting to be with women feels like a sacrifice.

Personally, I love female company and enjoyed becoming 'good with women'. On the other hand, IDGAF about whatever label 'society' would put on me, so I didn't feel the pressure to perform in public.

With most men approaching the fear of failure and/or rejection weighs far too much on their minds to relax and be easygoing and confident with women. That's the thing men should address: overcoming the fear of failure and rejection.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Nah, you just need to start believing you are worth it...

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Believing in yourself is an important factor.