RedPill
Master Don Juan
Scarcity Mentality
Without going into some huge feature-length essay on the Law of Scarcity, I want to explain why I believe having a Scarcity Mentality is the root cause of so many common problems that people experience. This is including, but certainly not limited to interactions with women.
Anyone who has been on these boards for any substantial length of time is aware of the Spinning Plates concept. This concept is a winner, and it works because its user has harnessed the Power of the Least Interested (the party who is less interested, or needs the other party less in a relationship, has the power). I would venture to say that over 50% of the problems presented on this board could be solved if one would recognize that they have fallen victim to a mindset of scarcity, whereby a perceived lack of options has created a fear of loss.
EXAMPLE: John likes Jane. Jane is hot, and she’s fun. They’ve been dating for 6 months. Jane is starting to flake, for seemingly no reason. John comes on to sosuave.net and asks what the flaking means, and asks how he can raise her interest level in him back to where it used to be. Would John be asking this if he had other options of similar or better quality? What if he knew that all he has to do to acquire those options is go out and be sociable for a few weekends? Is it possible that his Scarcity Mentality is manifesting itself in his behavior around Jane, slowly lowering her interest in him?
In my business, when I’m having a slow sales week, I always stop to ask myself, is it because the market for my services has dried up or because I haven’t put enough effort into getting prospective clients in front of me? Ten times out of ten, it’s the latter.
Having a Scarcity Mentality causes people to have all sorts of irrational thoughts. Those thoughts guide irrational decisions, which in turn set off a whole chain of derivative fears and problems. People won’t leave careers they don’t like because they fear there is no other type of work they can do. They hang onto friends who have negative attitudes toward self-improvement because they think that there are too few candidates for friendship out there. Most notably around here, they won’t detach themselves from a woman because they fear it will take them years to find another one as good as or better than her.
The only way to gain the Power of the Least Interested is to actually be the least interested. In other words, one must lose their fear of loss. How does one achieve this? Eliminate the Scarcity Mentality.
Let’s say for a moment you are hungry, and you pour yourself a bowl of cereal. You go to the fridge to get some milk to pour on your cereal, and there’s just enough milk left. If you use it, you’ll be out of milk. Do you panic and put the cereal away, so that you don’t lose those precious last drops of milk? Of course not! It’s internalized in you that if you need more milk, all you have to do is go buy it. It’s everywhere. A ridiculous example perhaps, but it illustrates how one’s mind works when it’s not corrupted by the irrational fears caused by a Scarcity Mentality.
If you work to eliminate this mindset from your paradigm, you’ll find there is an unlimited abundance of opportunity out there for you. That, and when your chick causes a problem, you won’t lose any sleep over nexting her ass!
Without going into some huge feature-length essay on the Law of Scarcity, I want to explain why I believe having a Scarcity Mentality is the root cause of so many common problems that people experience. This is including, but certainly not limited to interactions with women.
Anyone who has been on these boards for any substantial length of time is aware of the Spinning Plates concept. This concept is a winner, and it works because its user has harnessed the Power of the Least Interested (the party who is less interested, or needs the other party less in a relationship, has the power). I would venture to say that over 50% of the problems presented on this board could be solved if one would recognize that they have fallen victim to a mindset of scarcity, whereby a perceived lack of options has created a fear of loss.
EXAMPLE: John likes Jane. Jane is hot, and she’s fun. They’ve been dating for 6 months. Jane is starting to flake, for seemingly no reason. John comes on to sosuave.net and asks what the flaking means, and asks how he can raise her interest level in him back to where it used to be. Would John be asking this if he had other options of similar or better quality? What if he knew that all he has to do to acquire those options is go out and be sociable for a few weekends? Is it possible that his Scarcity Mentality is manifesting itself in his behavior around Jane, slowly lowering her interest in him?
In my business, when I’m having a slow sales week, I always stop to ask myself, is it because the market for my services has dried up or because I haven’t put enough effort into getting prospective clients in front of me? Ten times out of ten, it’s the latter.
Having a Scarcity Mentality causes people to have all sorts of irrational thoughts. Those thoughts guide irrational decisions, which in turn set off a whole chain of derivative fears and problems. People won’t leave careers they don’t like because they fear there is no other type of work they can do. They hang onto friends who have negative attitudes toward self-improvement because they think that there are too few candidates for friendship out there. Most notably around here, they won’t detach themselves from a woman because they fear it will take them years to find another one as good as or better than her.
The only way to gain the Power of the Least Interested is to actually be the least interested. In other words, one must lose their fear of loss. How does one achieve this? Eliminate the Scarcity Mentality.
Let’s say for a moment you are hungry, and you pour yourself a bowl of cereal. You go to the fridge to get some milk to pour on your cereal, and there’s just enough milk left. If you use it, you’ll be out of milk. Do you panic and put the cereal away, so that you don’t lose those precious last drops of milk? Of course not! It’s internalized in you that if you need more milk, all you have to do is go buy it. It’s everywhere. A ridiculous example perhaps, but it illustrates how one’s mind works when it’s not corrupted by the irrational fears caused by a Scarcity Mentality.
If you work to eliminate this mindset from your paradigm, you’ll find there is an unlimited abundance of opportunity out there for you. That, and when your chick causes a problem, you won’t lose any sleep over nexting her ass!