Saw Ex Tonight

[bigneil]

I saw my ex fiance out on the golf course yesterday

We saw them on the same day! Another coincidence?

I was thinking how cool it was that she had to go back to dancing for a 75 year old man wearing shorts after I left. She was literally seeing best and worst case scenario for guys she'll run into at the club.

 

[bigneil]

Bigneil, curious, why do you love going to strip clubs and meeting your girlfriends there? At your age and position it seems off.

I didn't meet my last girlfriend at a strip club. I met her when she was a waitress (age 20).

I was dating another girl (age 21) who invited me to the strip club where she worked and my now ex was next to her on stage. I managed to seduce her in record time (she stole me away from the other one, who adored me), and then we realized (on our fourth text, after a kiss) that we had already met.

The previous girl (age 19) was a waitress at a Hooters type place.

The previous girl (age 29) was a customer at the same Hooters type bar and said "You're a stripper, aren't you?" and she admitted it (she's now a pilot).

It's been 3 years since I had sex with a girl who I met at a strip club. I just pursue the most beautiful women I see, and it's hard to find them. Once you date a few strippers, they are easy pickings.

 

[playa99]

Good on you Neil, onwards & upwards!!

 

[zekko]

I didn't meet my last girlfriend at a strip club. I met her when she was a waitress (age 20).

It's funny how most of these girls end up being strippers though. More coincidences?

 

[bigneil]

It's funny how most of these girls end up being strippers though. More coincidences?

Yes, the coincidence is I pick up hot, raunchy women everywhere.

I think most women HB8+ since 2010 become strippers.

 

[Murk]

I've never picked up or banged a stripper, only been to a strip club in Prague.

They all have crackhead/***** vibes and that's not my thing. I bet it's easy gaming dumb sluts.

 

[Dash Riprock]

I had a broke Latina living with me for 2 DAYS and I had to kick her out.

Curious what the Latina did that made you kick her out after only 2 days?

 

[8===0---]

I saw your Ex last night too o.p and paid her fitty bucks to have sEx.

 

[@Jonanthony]

I saw your Ex last night too o.p and paid her fitty bucks to have sEx.

Has 8 at front of name displaying the size he loves to gag

 

[8===0---]

Has 8 at front of name displaying the size he loves to gag

Go jot an entry in your teary eyed she male journal you knob polishing peter puffer

 

[@Jonanthony]

Wow

With the literary skills of a 12 year old girl...inspired by ur sister I see...wat a life u live....sigmond himself would give up....

 

[8===0---]

Wow

With the literary skills of a 12 year old girl...inspired by ur sister I see...wat a life u live....sigmond himself would give up....

your sister must be a land whale. or your g@y

 

[@Jonanthony]

Awwwww

Really your words are so touching

Na sorry that's you on your sister you degenerate

 

[zekko]

Yes, the coincidence is I pick up hot, raunchy women everywhere.

I am attracted to, and I tend to attract, more wholesome type women.
I don't mean unicorns, but sleaziness exists on a scale, and some women are more sleazy than others. I tend to like the less sleazy ones, and they seem to be attracted to me as well.
Just like some guys here who don't believe in commitment, only run into women who are cheaters.
I suppose it has something to do with what you project.

 

[bigneil]

I am attracted to, and I tend to attract, more wholesome type women.
I don't mean unicorns, but sleaziness exists on a scale, and some women are more sleazy than others. I tend to like the less sleazy ones, and they seem to be attracted to me as well.
Just like some guys here who don't believe in commitment, only run into women who are cheaters.
I suppose it has something to do with what you project.

I was joking. The strippers I dated were all girls my mom liked. They were sweet girls who loved their fathers. I only like about 1 in 100 strippers.

I don't think the concept of cheating exists anymore, because the concept of commitments don't exist. We're mixing and matching 1950's women with 2017 women and taking personal responsibility. We can't undo Facebook and Instagram and Smart phones. Women are now in touch with 1000 people at all times, versus 10 people at all times. So they are 100 times more likely to find someone else. I'm not blaming myself for that. So I won't give them a chance to cheat - I won't commit.

In the last year my life improved more than in any other year, yet a lot of people want to say my relationship failed because it didn't last forever. I appreciate the journey, and each date, and the fact I was inspired to improve.

 

[zekko]

I don't think the concept of cheating exists anymore, because the concept of commitments don't exist.

You can't say commitment doesn't exist. I'm in a committed relationship that's lasted 12 years now. I don't believe there are any guarantees though, which is why I haven't married her. I also think that when you put the ring on her finger, there's a power shift that isn't in your favor.

Some people DO get married and stay together. And I don't believe they are all miserable, as PUAs would like you to believe. But you can't just universally say it doesn't exist, when it clearly does. You may not consider it worth the risk, but it does happen. I just don't think that there is any amount of "alpha" behavior or screening that you can do that will guarantee you a relationship that will last forever. People change over time, and people are living longer than ever.

 

[bigneil]

The problem with your relationship with simply that it never had a chance to succeed, however small the success rate is these days

It lasted nine months so it already succeeded. I took the youngest, most beautiful girl I ever had a crush on and managed to navigate through the pickup stage, the dating stage, the relationship stage and even the get them back stage.

During my time with her, my life was drastically improved physically (I hired a physical trainer and worked out for 8 months), sexually (best sex I ever had), emotionally (she cured me of stage fright which was based on a mental block), romantically (I could write a novel about our story) and financially (I earned and saved more than ever, and got a better apartment, better furniture, a better movie and music collection and better car).

Some people have this mentality that if a relationship doesn't last forever that all of the good times you shared become bad times.

 

[bigneil]

I finally checked my phone to see that she texted me the moment I left her on Sunday, saying "You left very quickly".

Although she reached out again originally last week, and I ended the conversation by not replying to her last question, and even though I saw her and she has now double texted, I still don't feel as though she has put in enough of an effort to warrant my pursuing her again. In the past she would write long letters confessing how the moment I walked out, all her energy left the room and she became invisible. Now it's more like "you gone?".

I feel as though she is simply revealing that most men are pathetic enough to keep pursuing women even their putting in a minimal effort. That might be the end if she doesn't triple text something with meaning.

She must be wondering if I'm still attracted to her. It had been 3 months, and she knows I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world, and she stood there naked before me.

 

[Fruitbat]

I get the feeling that the USA is very different to other parts of the world. I know SOME women who cheat often and act like this, but I know tons who aren't.

I will repeat my oft-said mantra that what we define as "hot women" is something self-constructed by the lady herself.

A woman who spends all her time in the gym, trying to look good, is the type of woman who will be looking for c0ck at every turn.

A man who spends his life bodybuilding and building overtly masculine traits, is the same. Will women find fidelity from such a man. Unlikely. They may be thinking he's a "hot guy" but we all know, that shyt doesn't fall from the sky. At some point, that guy decided to dedicate hours of his life to building muscle, building a frame and a life which attracts women as a priority. Over say, studying something, learning an instrument, or another interest. So this man is much more likely to screw around - that is what was the driver for choosing this lifestyle. No different for "hot girls".

Adjust to different women and you'll find the loyal ones there. Strippers, instagram girls, regardless of how secure they seem, are still living life very much for male attention. The very thing which draws you in is the poison which destroys you.

Just my 2 pennies worth.

 

[bigneil]

In an ironic twist, looking at the time stamps, she was texting to ask where I went the moment I was typing this OP (about 20 minutes after I saw her).