ne0phyte said:
hey, i get it, guys. I know it was casual from the get go. the only thing that makes me want to make her dinner is because she's already done so much for me. for the last month, it was basically she would cook me food, and we would eat it, get drunk and hook up. I've done nothing but essentially crack jokes and be alpha. I'm not trying to win her over, just trying to show a little appreciation. that's all. (BUT, if you guys think even that much, is too much, then i won't do it).
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This is sosuave, you aren't fooling anyone. Even if you don't fully understand your motives they are clear as day to everyone.
You are not "being alpha" if you are considering cooking dinner for a chick you saw all in your friends grill the night before. That's pretty unalpha actually
Best thing you could do at this point is cut off all contact for a few weeks. Even if she calls don't answer. Tell her you have been busy, make some **** up but disappear. Because right now even if you wanted to "get something" I don't' thin you could honestly, I don't think the interest is there at this point. I think you have played your hand and she saw it for what it was, and called your bluff. Make her think she was wrong by disappearing, make her think, hell make her know you have other female interests.
cooking dinner is something you do for a woman that is showing out. that's a big boy reward in my book if you aren't dating.
f anything happened, and he said no. Today, when i saw her, i just asked her if she had fun. she said it was, and I laughed and said, "glad you had a good time, and i appreciate that you didn't drunk call me last night. i needed the sleep" (in a ****y+funny way).
http://whyte-knight.net/mood/Angel-SmileTime/disappointed.gif (damn i wish this site would let you hot link pictures)
that's not ****y and funny bro. she was all up on your best friend you don't thinks he knows that you already know this? you bringing it up in a passive aggressive manner just reeks of insecurity. what you should have done is not bring it up at all. you have better more important **** to worry about than who she lets in her vag.
I'm not trying to bust your balls or anything, just tough love. we've all been there. in 200.. **** if forgot, i was 21 so i think it was 2004.. there was this chick, who eventually i would end up dating.. .i fact she once hacked this account and posted as me lol.. anyway i was kinda feeling her. we had met a month earlier. i had a few interests, she had a few interests, but went on date, we had sex a few times, and we both made it known we were kinda feeling each other.
so one Saturday i decide to bounce to this club, out of the blue, was just bored, wanted to have fun, put on my clothes and went at 1:30am, and i see non other than this chick that i was kinda feeling with her tounge half way down some dudes throat. I"d be lying if i said it didn't kinda get to me. i was kinda feeling her. She saw me, i smiled at her, kept going and i made it my mission to have the best damdest time i could. About 2 hours later, she comes looking for me, obviously flustered that i am not chasing her around, I'm dancing with another chick, i've gotten a phone number (with a girl i would actually end up going on a few dates with) i as making the best of a pretty bad situation. she comes with me and i tell her i will talk to her late because i'm dancing with someone else. i didn't intrupt her so i ask that she does the same for me, not like we are dating or anything, let a nigga breathe got damn. completely flipped the script on her.
so, the club closesat 4:30, and she is literarly waiting at my car for me. Basically makes me take her home and the whole time is explaining to me how that was an old firend she used to talk to. And i look and say why do yoyu assume i give a damn? I don't care. We aren't dating. you can fvck every guy in there for all i care, just like i can fvck every woman in there.
BUT
and this is the catch, i told her that's why we aren't dating. (even though i was going on just as many dates as she was), "until you show me that you are serious about me, i'm not going to take you seriously". She said what does that mean and i said well hell, i man i just saw you lip fvcking a guy in the club you can't expect me to date you. doesn't mean i don't like you and doesn't mean i don't like hanging out with you, but i'm going to hang out with other girls too.
Never had the problem out of her again. she spent the next.. 4 and a half months showing me that she was serious. Even better, i got caught, basically 3 times with other women (We weren't dating but by now, i knew for sure she had cut the BS out), and each time i used that same excuse, i wore it out. She tired harder and harder and eventually she convinced me she was GF material.
