Satisfying the woman in a LTR

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The Blitz State Theorem by Latinoman

LovelyLady...In one of my replies to another thread several months ago, I called it "physical" (but with huge emphasis to sex). Here was my reply with a more detail explanations on each element (I am willing to put my reputation on the line and stand 100% by the post below):


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MY EXPERIENCE

This is my very personal opinion based on my experience. This experience is being married for a very long time and managed to keep my then wife in that blitz state for all those years (still is) and I am currently in a LTR and I have been successful too.

There lot of methods that can keep the woman that is in your life (in a committed relationship) in a blitz state for you. Let’s assume that you are relatively compatible in the morals, desire (or lack of) to have sex, morals, religion, goals, economics, etc. (note: you do NOT have to be compatible in your hobbies!)

The Blitz State Theorem by Latinoman

The blitz state comes if you have the ability to satisfy her:

a)physically
b)emotionally
c)psychologically
d)intellectually
e)spiritually (if applicable)

Let me clarify something in here. This is not to be confused as a “man servicing” or “slaving” himself for a woman. This is not to be confused as “Mr. Romantic”. This is not to be confused as a man revolving his life and goals around a woman. Slaving, servicing, and Mr. Romantic are AFC qualities. This is about keeping women satisfy. And keeping a woman satisfied is not an AFC quality. It is in fact a DJ quality. The same way that is a DJ quality to keep your boss or a client satisfied. And satisfaction wear different masks…even the dark one from time to time.

EXAMPLES

I will provide some brief examples as they related to women based on my theory:

a)Physically could be sex. And with sex, I mean love making, phucking, or a combination of both. The “love making” part is “romantic”. Also, physically also includes other elements such as touch, caress, kiss, KINO, etc.

b) Emotionally could be the making her laugh element. Or the putting her in an emotional roller coaster (not to be overdo). Or surprising her with something unexpected to the point that you bring tears of emotion (this part could be the “romantic” part).

c) Psychologically as defined by me in this theorem is more of making her feels safe.

d) Intellectually has to do with her ability to grow intellectually. Maybe introducing her to stuff (that’s why having the same hobbies at the beginning is not a real necessity) or learning new stuff together (e.g. creating new hobbies together). This is the art/music/games/books/etc. stuff.

e) Spiritually is something that is very personal. Some women are very spiritual. Here, you satisfy her by encouraging her to continue developing her spirituality or by not putting hurdles in her spiritual development.

WARNING...overly Romantic = Relationship Suicide

Let me touch on the Romantic issue again. Women SAY they like romanticism. However a man that is utterly romantic is one that eventually gets dumped. You have to bring some elements of romanticism whenever she does not expect it. Nothing wrong with buying flowers to the woman that is your wife or your LTR girlfriend (don’t do that for dates). As long as you don’t over do it! Nothing wrong with massaging your woman. Nothing wrong with you caressing your woman. As long as you also drives her crazy by showing your ability to be desired (perhaps by others?) and your ability to be an arse from time to time.

I apply all those things…but at the same time I have the Bad Boy persona (one that is NOT fake at all).

Once again, this is my theorem as I apply with the women that are committed to me (doesn’t work with FWB, doesn’t work with lovers, in essence is doesn’t work with women that are spinning plates).

In CONCLUSION

And finally...even if you are applying those techniques (some more than others), you will STILL get the "you don't romantisize as much", etc. The only different is that this time YOU KNOW what you are doing...and YOU KNOW that you have NOTHING to worry about. Because this time is simply part of your "emotional roller coaster" plan for her.
 

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Using the above...I would say that "physical" is the element that when everything else fails...might keep the relationship running in fumes. And do you know what? Sometimes all we need is a little time to jumpstart things in a relationship.

Great sex (physical element) can buy you that time. It is the animalistic element. It can give you the time necessary to jump start things at the "emotional" or "psychological" or "emotional" level.

My experience has always being that.
 

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I agree Latinoman.

I recently told Purple Haze in another thread to not marry a man who she shares no deep passion with, as when all other attempts to connect may fail in a marriage/relationship - the bedroom is where you can find yourself back to eachother.

Rollo, I just re-read your post and note you wrote : but with one caveat; he/she would NEVER have sex with you under any circumstances, would you marry this person? I do not know that you would get as far as a LTR, much less an actual marriage - unless you both agreed on this first. (meaning that sexless state is representative of what both parties want)

But no, I would not agree to no sexual relations of any kind as part of a man's "frame" - that is a frame that lacks physical action. (double entendre intended)
 

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Well...Purple Haze can married anyone. After all...a divorce won't kill her. My point? Women lose VERY little in a divorce. So...it truly does not matter who she marries.
 

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Depends on the woman, Latinoman.

There are some women who walk away from everything. They are not interested in the spoils. That was never what they were there for to begin with.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Trying to do certain behaviors to make sure you keep a woman "satisfied", in the hopes she does not stray, is not the right approach imo. Her own happiness as a person is her responsibility. If she is looking for you to "make her" happy, satisfied, and content, you have a big problem---and so does she. Not a recipe for relationship success.

Focus on YOU. Become a great man, a great person, and if it will improve your life, allow another (who is dong the same thing) to come into your life. Trying to do things for another person's happiness is a sure road to failure.
 

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persistent exaction said:
Trying to do certain behaviors to make sure you keep a woman "happy", in the hopes she does not stray, is not the right approach imo. Focus on YOU. Become a great man, a great person, and if it will improve your life, allow another (who is dong the same thing) to come into your life. Trying to do things for another person's happiness is a sure road to failure.
I agree with the begining of your statement...but disagree with your last statement.

You pay attention to yourself and allow another to come into your life. True. But ONCE that person is in your life...there are some things you must do. It is part of being a man.

If you are married or you have a woman in your life (committed relationship)...there are some things that you MUST do. A REAL DJ does not neglect his woman...does not neglect his children. And by doing those things I provided in post #21...that will allow you to concentrate on your career (instead of worrying about her cheating on you) and concentrate on your life.

Once you bring a woman into your life and form a relationship...it becomes a PARTNERSHIP.

And those things I described above...you are not doing for her. You are doing it for the relationship.
 
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