Sarging online: Review - Qualifying a Woman Though an Instant Messenger

[Centaurion]

I'm not talking about IRC or some chat site. I was refering to myspace, facebook or hi5.com, where you put up a profile.

Check out the Mature Man section, there was a couple of good threads about the whole internet dating thing.

 

[Sirducer]

Originally posted by Centaurion
I'm not talking about IRC or some chat site. I was refering to myspace, facebook or hi5.com, where you put up a profile.

Check out the Mature Man section, there was a couple of good threads about the whole internet dating thing.

Thats all fine and dandy but when you spend so much time learning seduction to become a PUA etc wouldnt you want to go out and pick up the hottest girl that you wish to meet rather than joining the online guys who have no skill at all? I didnt spend over 3 years reading, learning and practicing ASF so I could log onto matchmaker.com.au and msg a chick for a date after paying 30 bucks for a membership fee!

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

I noticed that when you asked to describe her she went on to add that she has a BA, which has nothing to do with personals, dating, or well anything.

She was probably fat and insecure and I think fransisco that you find wit in women to be an attractive quality which she obviously did not have.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell
I noticed that when you asked to describe her she went on to add that she has a BA, which has nothing to do with personals, dating, or well anything.

She was probably fat and insecure and I think fransisco that you find wit in women to be an attractive quality which she obviously did not have.

Good call. That describes the 'typical' Minnesota woman. They're not all that way, but it is the norm. They will deflect from their obvious shortcomings by redirecting to other areas.

Notice that this one didn't even start off with the crappy clichés about her great personality, she started off with a partial description of herself and then ended with what she has (a BA and a business). This is the line of self qualifying that an AFC would do.

Typically a DJ wouldn't put what a woman owns or does for a living at the top of his qualifying list. Face it, anybody can get an education and own a business. That doesn't mean that the person has the internal personal qualities that a DJ may look for.

The key to me nexting this woman was the fact that she knew what I meant by a 'typical Minnesotan' and when I called her on it, she turned and ran. Now, think about it; what if I had spent days or even weeks exchanging IMs, emails and telephone calls just to eventually meet her and be disappointed? This is what AFCs do and this is a HUGE reason why they denounce Online dating; they have no idea what they are doing.

Understand that a confident, secure, sexy woman will not hide any of those things from you if she is interested. If you gain rapport with one of these women, you may even be able to get them to tell you their dress size or even weight. Trust me, if they aren't the stereotypical norm, they will be proud enough to tell you how exactly how good they look, in no uncertain terms.

Guys, be confident and secure in yourself and emote value beyond the typical guy. Once you achieve that, you won't have any problem disqualifying women who don't fit your criteria. Yeah, you will probably drastically cut down the number of women that you choose to sarge but ask yourself, do you want average women or do you want women that merit what you have to offer? You can either sell yourself to the highest bidder or sell yourself short. It's a question of quality or quantity; it's your choice.

 

[fender85]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Good analysis on all points except beautiful women.

I agree with what you're saying. Sorry, I was having a bit of difficulty trying to articulate what I was thinking. I didn't mean that beautiful women don't exist online, because obviously they do, but what I meant was that they aren't very likely to actively pursue men online. I find online dating to be very similar to real life scenarios, where the men still makes first contact and then she can pick and choose from there.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Good call. That describes the 'typical' Minnesota woman. They're not all that way, but it is the norm. They will deflect from their obvious shortcomings by redirecting to other areas.

Notice that this one didn't even start off with the crappy clichés about her great personality, she started off with a partial description of herself and then ended with what she has (a BA and a business). This is the line of self qualifying that an AFC would do.

Typically a DJ wouldn't put what a woman owns or does for a living at the top of his qualifying list. Face it, anybody can get an education and own a business. That doesn't mean that the person has the internal personal qualities that a DJ may look for.

The key to me nexting this woman was the fact that she knew what I meant by a 'typical Minnesotan' and when I called her on it, she turned and ran. Now, think about it; what if I had spent days or even weeks exchanging IMs, emails and telephone calls just to eventually meet her and be disappointed? This is what AFCs do and this is a HUGE reason why they denounce Online dating; they have no idea what they are doing.

Understand that a confident, secure, sexy woman will not hide any of those things from you if she is interested. If you gain rapport with one of these women, you may even be able to get them to tell you their dress size or even weight. Trust me, if they aren't the stereotypical norm, they will be proud enough to tell you how exactly how good they look, in no uncertain terms.

Guys, be confident and secure in yourself and emote value beyond the typical guy. Once you achieve that, you won't have any problem disqualifying women who don't fit your criteria. Yeah, you will probably drastically cut down the number of women that you choose to sarge but ask yourself, do you want average women or do you want women that merit what you have to offer? You can either sell yourself to the highest bidder or sell yourself short. It's a question of quality or quantity; it's your choice.

Yeah, the quality of women over quantity of suitors is something that I have always fell back on because seriously who has time now a days to gain headaches over someone else's insecurities, and weak assumptions about life. I certainly don't have the time nor patience to deal with a woman's need for me to call in every f*cking day at the same time and give a report on what i've been doing. I've only done that for my mom & my probation officer and that just doesn't cut it.

Online dating isn't for me though, I gotta be straight face to face and in the flesh with the fox.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell
Yeah, the quality of women over quantity of suitors is something that I have always fell back on because seriously who has time now a days to gain headaches over someone else's insecurities, and weak assumptions about life. I certainly don't have the time nor patience to deal with a woman's need for me to call in every f*cking day at the same time and give a report on what i've been doing. I've only done that for my mom & my probation officer and that just doesn't cut it.

Online dating isn't for me though, I gotta be straight face to face and in the flesh with the fox.

No doubt, but qualifying is qualifying no matter the venue. Like you said, people don't have time to deal with insecurities and weak assumptions about life. HB10s can have this problem and if a guy falls for her looks without knowing, he's in for a long time of pain and suffering trying to help her get by in life.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Thats exactly what I'm trying to say.

Look, whether when I was an AFC or now, I've always been fortunate to have the opportunity to date very gorgeous girls but, the difference between then and now is the fact that I'm looking for the internal qualities of the girl as a human rather than the quality of her curves. And I'm still learning how to milk this process of qualification because I've had sex with good looking girls and afterwards I really can't see anything deep underneath the surface so they never hear from or see me again. I've obviously havent learned to consistenly set apart the exceptional from the generic.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Question to all: Does anyone feel that I was too confident, too ****y or too particular? How does this interaction compare to yours with women online or off? Does anyone have a problem with the fact that if you stand by your standards that you may have less opportunities with women because you are NEXTing more of them?