Same Day Date?

[tigerstyle]

There is obviously plenty of opinions and literature on how many days to wait to call a girl for the first time, ranging from a few days to many. I'm erring on the side of what seems comfortable (two full days). Any less feels too quick, any more than three seems like it's pushing it (in my current situation, anyway).

I got her digits on Saturday night, which means I'll be calling her tomorrow sometime. When I got her number we agreed on coffee (unspecified, sometime this week), so it will obviously be fairly brief and simple, unless of course things escalate nicely.

My main question is this: when you call to set up a date, is it alright/wise to make the date later on that same day, or should you purposely set it up for a day later or more? Main reason I'm asking is I know from our Saturday night conversation that she has some friends coming from out of state to visit her all weekend so she won't be around (killing Friday, Saturday, and probably Sunday), my Thursday is booked. That leaves either Tuesday or Wednesday (Tuesday being the same day that I'll be calling).

Any and all advice is quite welcome.

I'm obviously new to this if you can't already tell. I'm a sophomore in college and I'm finally getting tired of no action, same old same old with the same old people. Trying to elevate myself in the world. Right now this particular girl is my only pursuit (but it looks to be a good one), until I can get some more numbers.

 

[window]

I wouldn't ask for the same day...just say your only free day this week is Wed (one day is still too short I reckon). So perhaps better would be to call her on the Wednesday and ask her out for coffee on the coming Monday or Tues...no rush, no big deal. As it's your first meeting with her suggest to meet her somewhere after work...keep the coffee short say 45min...be relaxed with no endgame in mind...enjoy !

 

[tigerstyle]

...perhaps better would be to call her on the Wednesday and ask her out for coffee on the coming Monday or Tues...no rush, no big deal.

True. My only thought is that there is a decent chance I'll see her again this weekend (randomly, not planned), because we've both been invited (by separate people) to the same party. This is certainly not a bad thing, per se, but it would kind of defeat the purpose of a first coffee date, being as I could attempt to hook up with her at this second party... the problem there is her friends that are coming from out of state will be there, and I doubt she'd leave 'em high and dry being as they are only here for the weekend and she apparently rarely sees them.

I've actually just had a window of time open up on my Thursday afternoon, so based off of your advice it sounds like I should aim for that (when I call her later), so at least there is one day in between the date and the call.

I can see this working a couple of ways -- either we go to coffee tomorrow afternoon or Thursday afternoon, or, I see her Saturday at the party, or, I just postpone the coffee until early next week, say Monday.

The first and last option seem relatively easy and harmless, with a good chance of establishing the beginnings of something... but I'm curious about that party. Would it be a good idea to go? I'm thinking it would be a bad idea NOT to, in case some other guy starts gaming her... but that also leaves the potential for her out of state friends to CB, as they will be in a heightened state of "friendship" due to the time restraints.

Hmmm, what are your thoughts?

 

[window]

Forget about what's going to happen at the party and if she's going to be there or not (you'll be talking to and getting other girls numbers) just call her up. Don't think too much about it. Your job is to gauge her interest level by how she reponds to you. I'd ask for next mon or tues though...never be in a hurry or worry that other guys might game or get to her.

 

[tigerstyle]

Forget about what's going to happen at the party and if she's going to be there or not (you'll be talking to and getting other girls numbers)

Ahh, excellent point... I will definitely be keeping this in mind. Thanks!

never be in a hurry or worry that other guys might game or get to her.

Too true, now that I think about it. I just need to get used to being chill about things instead of business minded trying to get everything done ASAP.

 

[COD]

DUDE LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT..........u got a girl who was obviously into you and you extracted her digits...........THEN U WALKED AWAY. U were already out, she gave u the vibe she liked you.........so escalate right there.

HERES FOOD FOR THOUGHT.........go on a date RIGHT THEN AND THERE.......then if you like her......then hit her up for her digits. If you are both busy........then u can call like 2 days later but never on the weekend.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I don't really think it matters WHEN you call, but rather if the person remembers you. If it's someone you just met, wait like one or two days, three or four at the most, depending upon how much time you spent with this person. Call and set up a time to hang out or go on a date with them.