I go to college and I am in a fraternity. I had a blind date to a date party function.
the girl was actually pretty cute hb8. i play it cool and reserved at the beginning. the theme is to be hand cuffed to your date and finish a bottle of wine or champagne with a key at the bottom. I didn't bring handcuffs (just dont like ever trapping a girl shouldnt have to). I didn't push her to drink because i didn't want give the vibe that i was "trying to get her drunk to compensate for poor game" the buses arrive and everyone starts chugging their bottles before they get on. We only finish half and i leave the bottle at the house while everyone brings theirs on the bus.
On the bus she starts to let her guard down a little. we start observing how everyone else is pretty much piss drunk falling over. SHE then reccomends that we start drinking, which i was waiting for. She and i get bottles from other people and share. I'm 21 so at the venue she insists i get more drinks for us. We start bonding on some topics rapport wise and she asks me to dance. We start dancing and i think she was trying to put her hand on my cheek so i just went for the makeout. It went succesfully.
my bro's date wanted to leave so my date wondered if she should leave. I'm like well if you feel you have to leave go ahead (iod). We go outside and the bus is gone. I tell her well im sure another bus will arrive soon if you are trying to meet up with her (another iod) She says no she thinks she wants to stay. my bros date leaves without him.
We then dance makeout sit down several times throughout the rest of the night. My problem being most of the kino is taking place on the dancefloor and very little is taking place sitting down.
Anyway she noticesi have high social value because she says "im the life of the party" when everyone starts coming up to me and talking.
AT this point i'm pretty drunk people have been giving me alot of drinks and its the end of the night. buses arrive and on the bus shes not really positively responding to kino. I give her my phone with contacts pulled up for her to put in. Shes like" oh you have it all set up and everything" i dont remember what i said.
my friend convinces us to go to his after party so our dates can play beer pong with each other. I figured why not I could use a little more comfort time with this girl. Well turns out his date bails and my bro who had his date leave shows. Its 3 dudes 1 girl and they all start hitting on her which is kinda messed up.
im really messed up at this point and kind of high so i can't really do anything positive at this point. I just decide to stay calm and unreactive. Well at the end of all of this when everyone starts getting tired. my bro flirtaciously grabs her phone and goes outside when we are about to leave.
I'm under the impression im walking with both of them back to their dorms which are close to each other. My bro puts his coat around her and starts walking her fast ahead of me. I call out his name twice in confusion but then it hits me whats going on. I just leave without saying anything more and go back to my friends place.
they didn't hook up and she just went back to her dorm because she talked to my friend saying she got back alright. also my "bro" was too drunk/high as well.
1. is this salvagable? great date with potential of hookup but akward ending. She didn't say goodbye though which was kind of wrong though although she was being pretty much dragged away drunkenly. she also stalled to leave when my bro tried to get her to "escort him" to his dorm.
2. what should have i done differently?
3. what should i have done in that akward situation with my friends trying to swoop in?
the girl was actually pretty cute hb8. i play it cool and reserved at the beginning. the theme is to be hand cuffed to your date and finish a bottle of wine or champagne with a key at the bottom. I didn't bring handcuffs (just dont like ever trapping a girl shouldnt have to). I didn't push her to drink because i didn't want give the vibe that i was "trying to get her drunk to compensate for poor game" the buses arrive and everyone starts chugging their bottles before they get on. We only finish half and i leave the bottle at the house while everyone brings theirs on the bus.
On the bus she starts to let her guard down a little. we start observing how everyone else is pretty much piss drunk falling over. SHE then reccomends that we start drinking, which i was waiting for. She and i get bottles from other people and share. I'm 21 so at the venue she insists i get more drinks for us. We start bonding on some topics rapport wise and she asks me to dance. We start dancing and i think she was trying to put her hand on my cheek so i just went for the makeout. It went succesfully.
my bro's date wanted to leave so my date wondered if she should leave. I'm like well if you feel you have to leave go ahead (iod). We go outside and the bus is gone. I tell her well im sure another bus will arrive soon if you are trying to meet up with her (another iod) She says no she thinks she wants to stay. my bros date leaves without him.
We then dance makeout sit down several times throughout the rest of the night. My problem being most of the kino is taking place on the dancefloor and very little is taking place sitting down.
Anyway she noticesi have high social value because she says "im the life of the party" when everyone starts coming up to me and talking.
AT this point i'm pretty drunk people have been giving me alot of drinks and its the end of the night. buses arrive and on the bus shes not really positively responding to kino. I give her my phone with contacts pulled up for her to put in. Shes like" oh you have it all set up and everything" i dont remember what i said.
my friend convinces us to go to his after party so our dates can play beer pong with each other. I figured why not I could use a little more comfort time with this girl. Well turns out his date bails and my bro who had his date leave shows. Its 3 dudes 1 girl and they all start hitting on her which is kinda messed up.
im really messed up at this point and kind of high so i can't really do anything positive at this point. I just decide to stay calm and unreactive. Well at the end of all of this when everyone starts getting tired. my bro flirtaciously grabs her phone and goes outside when we are about to leave.
I'm under the impression im walking with both of them back to their dorms which are close to each other. My bro puts his coat around her and starts walking her fast ahead of me. I call out his name twice in confusion but then it hits me whats going on. I just leave without saying anything more and go back to my friends place.
they didn't hook up and she just went back to her dorm because she talked to my friend saying she got back alright. also my "bro" was too drunk/high as well.
1. is this salvagable? great date with potential of hookup but akward ending. She didn't say goodbye though which was kind of wrong though although she was being pretty much dragged away drunkenly. she also stalled to leave when my bro tried to get her to "escort him" to his dorm.
2. what should have i done differently?
3. what should i have done in that akward situation with my friends trying to swoop in?
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