Said she had feelings for me then rejected later...

[Mantis Toboggan]

So true, donjuanabe, and freaking ironic since she pull "I don't remember what i said" card as well. She actually claim she had short memory loss problems, I **** u not!

Sounds like a keeper. Just the kind of woman you want to parade around town as your girlfriend.

 

[DonJuanabe]

She doesn't have short term memory problems. She is at best a disingenuous person; at worst a liar.

 

[floydb25]

OP: I wouldn't recommend telling her you won't allow yourself to be manipulated anymore, and to have a nice life / drop dead. All she will most likely do is play the victim card, act like she never had bad intentions and was being sincere, try to make you feel guilty and look like a jerk, and lure you right back in with more false promises. All while acting dumb and oblivious to everything she's doing. Much like how she "forgot", as it suited her. Selfish women like this will stop at nothing to get what they want, will turn things around on you, and they usually love the drama that comes with it. Most of them are quite crazy. They love the whole distance, game-playing, walking on eggshells, fighting, and other crap that comes with it. Drama queens, really. Doesn't matter if its friends or otherwise - they're still retarded, and set this crap up.

Manipulators and liars know what they have to do to get their way. She manipulated you into this, and will continue to do so when she senses you're moving on. Don't fall for it. Just stop talking to her. She might ask what your problem is, say you're being selfish and want all or nothing; you can't just be friends; blah blah. Also typical lines in these cases (when their interests are being threatened, and they can't USE you anymore). Don't even explain, or fight over this crap. She's not worth it; you don't need her, or to prove anything. She already showed how much of a "friend" she is.

This is why you don't become, or stay friends with women who do this. If you ever sense you're being used - get out. No, you're not a selfish jerk for not waiting around and being her doormat or back-up plan. This girl is using you, and you don't need people like that. Don't make it all about her - because that's what selfish people do best, as they play the victim all day long.

Don't explain ****, or get into a deep conversation about what's going on, and why you're doing this, and blah blah. She will never be honest with you. Just cut all ties, and forget about her. Don't fall for any flirting and attention seeking on her end, because its likely gonna happen when you fall away.

 

[magui86770]

OP: I wouldn't recommend telling her you won't allow yourself to be manipulated anymore, and to have a nice life / drop dead. All she will most likely do is play the victim card, act like she never had bad intentions and was being sincere, try to make you feel guilty and look like a jerk, and lure you right back in with more false promises. All while acting dumb and oblivious to everything she's doing. Much like how she "forgot", as it suited her. Selfish women like this will stop at nothing to get what they want, will turn things around on you, and they usually love the drama that comes with it. Most of them are quite crazy. They love the whole distance, game-playing, walking on eggshells, fighting, and other crap that comes with it. Drama queens, really. Doesn't matter if its friends or otherwise - they're still retarded, and set this crap up.

Manipulators and liars know what they have to do to get their way. She manipulated you into this, and will continue to do so when she senses you're moving on. Don't fall for it. Just stop talking to her. She might ask what your problem is, say you're being selfish and want all or nothing; you can't just be friends; blah blah. Also typical lines in these cases (when their interests are being threatened, and they can't USE you anymore). Don't even explain, or fight over this crap. She's not worth it; you don't need her, or to prove anything. She already showed how much of a "friend" she is.

This is why you don't become, or stay friends with women who do this. If you ever sense you're being used - get out. No, you're not a selfish jerk for not waiting around and being her doormat or back-up plan. This girl is using you, and you don't need people like that. Don't make it all about her - because that's what selfish people do best, as they play the victim all day long.

Don't explain ****, or get into a deep conversation about what's going on, and why you're doing this, and blah blah. She will never be honest with you. Just cut all ties, and forget about her. Don't fall for any flirting and attention seeking on her end, because its likely gonna happen when you fall away.

Don't worry, floydb25. Wasn't going to do that. That would only give her more unneeded attention from me. Just the thought had across my mind.

Funny you mention women being crazy. You know the phrase "men are stupid and women are crazy." Every female friend I spoke to agreed with the crazy part....except for one. Guess who that was!

 

[JohnChops]

read her actions not her words. and forget being friends with a girl that only leads to no pu$$y, no money , and all drama. Ive been here too, we all have, nismo has this spot on you fell for her traps. She was just keeping you around for attention. Time to start the self improvement process. GO!

 

[PDubb75]

read her actions not her words. and forget being friends with a girl that only leads to no pu$$y, no money , and all drama. Ive been here too, we all have, nismo has this spot on you fell for her traps. She was just keeping you around for attention. Time to start the self improvement process. GO!

Just a quick PSA... In this case, actions over words ABSOLUTELY!!

But that isn't always the case. I used to simply assume this to always be the case, and my last g/f burned me for it. Actions showed me that she didn't want to spend a second without me, that she's never been happier than when she's with me, that she would give up so much just to be with me. So I ignored the fact that when I made specific comments, she didn't respond much to them. Or she seemed slightly distant randomly. I figured "eh, but her actions show she's never been happier, I'm probably just over-thinking her lack of comment". Then she broke up with me. Maybe the fact it was long-distance changed the game up a bit, but just a warning to those taking that as a cut-and-dry rule.

Anyway.... continue with the original thread haha

 

[JohnChops]

Just a quick PSA... In this case, actions over words ABSOLUTELY!!

But that isn't always the case. I used to simply assume this to always be the case, and my last g/f burned me for it. Actions showed me that she didn't want to spend a second without me, that she's never been happier than when she's with me, that she would give up so much just to be with me. So I ignored the fact that when I made specific comments, she didn't respond much to them. Or she seemed slightly distant randomly. I figured "eh, but her actions show she's never been happier, I'm probably just over-thinking her lack of comment". Then she broke up with me. Maybe the fact it was long-distance changed the game up a bit, but just a warning to those taking that as a cut-and-dry rule.

Anyway.... continue with the original thread haha

Theres always room for variation

 

[Pandora]

... She's keeping you as a back-up plan incase things don't work out with all these other guys she's dating. If it does, you'll be history. Guaranteed.

He is correct. This is where alot of people misunderstand the "friend zone". Many times it is possible to work out of the friendzone. There is a small chance she does end up with you. But you are on the VERY Bottom of the list. Its not that she doesn't find something attractive about you. But you are a last resort type of thing.

I have seen guys that have been pathetically waiting for months and months on end, being a doormat for the girl. They were stuck in the friendzone, until all the other guys that she really wanted pumped and dumped her and she had ABSOLUTELY no more options. This was because of geographic location. It was a very small town with a very limited amount of men. Then and only then these girls reluctantly/ half a** date you. Sometimes they wont even admit it to their friends. I know a couple really AFC guys who are just happy to get their turn but this is not what you want bro.

Even if all the other guys dont work out and she has no options left, do u really want to be the guy she settled with becuz no one else worked out?? Move on bro.