S**t test, not interested or is she really messed up?

[carlos79]

So I met this chic a few months back. We hit it off instantly and there was loads of chemistry. She actually asked me out for a drink the first time. Turns out she has a boyfriend but she tells me that the relationship is pretty much over. I asked her out a few weeks later after she told me it was over with the BF. She said she would love to! She ends up standing me up, no call nothing. I text her saying it was crap for her to stand me up like she did and she replies almost immediately saying she was sorry but she was going through a really hard time and could not see me at the moment. I kept it light and said for her to contact me when she felt better about things.

That was around 3 weeks ago. Since then I have contacted her twice. First time I just asked how she was. She replied a day later saying she was emotionally drained but was doing ok. She did mention if I had booked a day trip we had planned to go on together, and said she would be up for doing it in a few weeks time as she was broke atm!

The next text I sent was a week later to see if she wanted to come to a gig that we had planned on going to together. This is where it gets WEIRD. She replies to my first text on the friday morning asking how I am etc. I replied and asked her how she was. She never replied to that message so I left it an hour and just sent the message saying I still had the spare ticket to the gig if she wanted to come. She totally ignored that message too. Three days later I get a message from her not apologizing for not replying to my message regarding the gig but telling me she had heard a song on the radio that reminded her of me?!?!?!

I never replied to that message, its now three days since she sent it and I've not heard any more from her. In her defense since she said she was going through a hard time she has totally stopped posting things on facebook (normally she is pretty active poster)...so there is definitely something up with her.

Is this a massive s**t test? Is she not interested? Should I just ignore her for a while longer?

 

[LMFAO]

By "hitting it off" did you even kiss her?

It's not a sh1t test, if it was a sh1t test she would be interested in you, truth of the matter is that she couldn't give a flying fvck even if you happened to drop dead.

Why the hell do you keep chasing her when she keeps on rejecting you? This is pure AFC behaviour. You are at most a beta orbiter.

All in the while she's banging her on/off boyfriend and whomever else whilst you're deluding yourself in the fantasy of being with a girl that has none to very low interest.

You have no chance with her. Drop it. Delete her number. There are many other girls out there.

 

[Fugitive]

She's broken up/going through a very rough patch with her BF and potentially has other issues going on in her life.

Sorry dude but you are not a serious deal for her. You are something she goes to when things are sh*t for her with her BF/life in general but then life takes over or her conscience kicks in and she blows you off.

I don't think you've played it too badly in the sense that you didn't reply to her last message and kept your dignity.. You should leave it at that and move on. The minute another girl comes along you'll forget about this one.

 

[stevo]

The girl hasn't done anything wrong, you're the one willingly giving yourself a headache because you haven't set standards to qualify chicks. Not sure how long you've been on here but read other ppl's scenarios and learn.

You are the prize, it should take more than a girl's willingness to qualify for your attention and NEVER double text except if she gave you a STD.

Any girl, (I dont care if she's Mother Theresa) that doesn't respond to your message in a timely manner is disqualified! only exception being if she had a terrible accident but if she's breathing and functional but not bright enough to reciprocate common etiquette of communication is an insult to be seen with you.

Right now, forget this chic. See her, don't even bother communicating. Stop initiating first contact with her going forward. Only way you reconsider this chic is if she shows up at your door with nothing on but a jacket or if she repeatedly ask you out, nothing less.

 

[pyros]

no, its not a sh-it test, wtf?

she is clearly having a hard time breaking up with her boyfriend and is emotionally unstable. You should have never texted her after you said: "... to contact me when she felt better about things. "

She is probably getting mad at her ex, meeting with him again, having sex, then getting upset and not talking for a week, and repeating the cycle.

Move on and let her contact you just in case she figures things out and is mentally and emotionally stable again and wants to see you. DO NOT CONTACT HER AGAIN MAN. Por dios bendito, no seas pesado y busca otra.

 

[nismo-4]

Post # 3,333! And very lackluster.

Like you chasing this girl. She has her bf as the one to bang and you as the beta orbiter. At most, you're just a friend. Get rid of her. She doesn't see you sexually.

Case closed. Lose this attention wh0re!

 

[pumpkin-head]

Stop worrying about tests from women when being immune to their behavior is how you should react. Test women to see whether they are worthy of your time. She wasn't testing you with her low interest.