Rushing Dude's 100 Approach diary

[rushing dude 123]

thanks m fiend i suppose ur right, girls r usually less reluctant to give email than number, but it comes at a price, which is the fact that it would come across more friends than girl+guy getting together. I will experiment with the email for this one though. Has for the detail, i tried to keep it shorter so u don't spend ages reeading it, but i will try to put more points on how i did approach rather than just the targert, opener and results.



Hm the grammer is way worser than usual in my last post guys. I had trouble understanding it myself, but well i can't edit now, so i guess it would have to stay like that and i would have to double check next time.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Hm i did a approach waiting for shop to open, i just started chatting to a woman next to me, by justt asking time it opens. i got talking to her and i said so r u here to pick up for someone last minute, she said yes, i said i am guessing daughters birthday, she said yes. Idk i usually wud go for moms, but i just got turned off.

ps. won't go in detail, nothing else really important to mention.



18/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

Got an approach at work, the girls had lane service on, so i asked whats up and they were saying there was suppose to be 10 pins, but they can only count 8, so i argued there was 10 and sat next to them and she pointed she could only see 8 and then said she could see 10 on the other lane (due to angles...) so i said sit over on the other lane and see how many u can see, i held her hand and brought her over (this kino was awesome, she started giggling) and then she smiled and said "o 10". I then ask what her accent is before i left and when they left..... i said is there a number i can reach u girls at. Her friend got her phone out and only wrote the accent girls number!!!!, so i think i may get flaked due to lack of pantie points from the friend (due to kind of neglecting her).

19/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

12/12/07

i managed to actually admit to myself i was being a coward and did 3 aproaches that were 2 min +, i feel i did not get any attraction so i didn't close, due to no tease and kino.

First approach:
Mom in que with her two children, which i just started talking about que to her seeing the people at front didn't know how to operate machine. Then i just started chatting about what she had andd she showed me some santa things for kids, i showed her what i got my lil cousin, but i feel i talked about myself to much (lil cousin, she is so kool lol) , so put convo back on woman in the future.

second approach:
I approached a hair dresser i saw in the salon and used my friend who is a hair dresser has a ice breaker lol. i said if there r benifits in working here like free gym use, because my friend is hair dresser and the one he goes now he travels far 2. So got talking to her and then i aimed convo at her and found out she did piercings that she studied 3 years for it, should of busted her on that. I did not close because it didn't seem natural so i just asked if it would b ok if he cud come in and check it out if i can persuade him lol. She was friendly and smiley, so it was not that bad of an approach. I might c her again where i cud get more attraction and maybe close another time.

third approach:
used my friend again has another ice breaker lol, started chatting to sales assitant in jewelry shop by first comparing her using checking list on items to me bottling up in bar lol, then i started talking about the swarvoskis and said which one she thought was koolest, teased her a bit and then i said how my friend collects them for his lil brother and she said i think i know one... anyway talked bit more and then said i gtg, another potential close, but i felt not enough attraction to do it.

so lessons learnt today is to stop talking about myself so much, aim convo at her. Also get more attraction teasing, kino whatever and i also need to close , but i feel i will c these again, so in these circumstances it is understandable that i will build it up for next time.

22/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

14/12/07

I got another two approaches in today, at first i was aiming to get another close in the mall, but i froze and social anxiety kicked in. I was still feeling pretty bad has i was going to my yoga class, which i noticed didn't start in another 30 mins. I saw a girl reading a book and watching the swimming pool, so i just sat on the seats behind her. I then just went for it and said "hey is it really hot in here or is it because i have been in the cold for so long" she said it is hot in here, so i then said "r u here waiting for yoga or r one of those kids in swimming pool yours" then she said how she is in taking lessons for competitions. Then i teased saying if she was planning on going to the olympics (she laughed) , the convo then went from swimming channel to climbing mount everest. She was getting ready to go for her lesson so i said i got to warm up before class so c ya later. I then asked her name and went. i know i should of closed, i felt she didn't have enough interest and that i will probablly have it next time if i c her again. For now i am more interested in holding a convo, i will worry about closes/rejections later.

On the next approach i saw this girl with a very nice butt in yoga (my testerone really kicking in lol), but she wasn't doing to great. Then social anxiety started kicking in again (dam u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!), but anyway after class i saw her next to me getting ready and fear is like don't do it....., i then for some reason didn't even think about consequnces of my approach and did it

RD: was this ur first class
HB: no i am french and my teacher does it different, so i wasn't sure
RD: o ur french, bonjour je'm apelle jordan, comme apelle tu
HB: (Smiles) Je'm apelle selena
RD: thats all i know and au revoir lol
she smiles and bit of fluff talk

she says she is still trying on her english and i punch her arm playfully and i say "u r not that bad" and she smiles a lot (i know i got interest). We r about to go her seperate ways

RD: its selena right
HB: yes
RD: is there a number i can reach u at
HB: hm i am not sure about numbers
RD: its ok write uno deuz tres onze whatever lol
HB: (smiles) No what my mobile number is( i don't know if that is genuine, but whatever)
hands paper and she writes it down .
i give her kiss on cheek and say c ya.

ps: Social anxiety problem cleared up because i noticed i talked to a few new people while making my way home.

24/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

Hm today could of been better i suppose, but at least i am getting somewhere. Alright first approach of day was at the reception in my gym. I was just looking at schedules, then a HB 6 came over and started looking at them has well

RD: Are you looking for the time the pool closes has well.
HB: Yes i think it closes at 5:30pm (points at it on the time table)

then a bit of fluff talk i can't remember word for word, but it was about her being a pretty good swimmer.

RD: so r u going for the olympics or something? (with a smile and a punch on the arm)
HB: No, jus looking for some classes that are kinda advanced (smiles)

i tell her about the classes i am taking and membership deals to see if she was interested. We then find the pool is going to close at 4:30pm, so i say my bye and say i might catch her around sometime at 4:30pm (everythink went good, but i started stuttering at end DAMMIT!!!!). i think she lost interest here (just instinict by looking at her) and i go for hand shake and i ask her name and she says it, but dosn't ask mine, so i assume she isn't that interested. I didn't go swimming anyway, i played some pool with my friend, which was kinda interesting. hm i feel i should of teased more by saying some thing like i would race her and kick her butt.


Next approach was with a girl that i have known to work at tescos for like 2years, but i never had the gutts to talk to her. Well today was an exception....

RD: Hey i need your opinion on the last christmas present i got to get, its for my little 6 year old cousin, she likes rocks and sea shells, but i can't exactly get her that for christmas, do you have and ideas?
Tesco Girl: I know I am not sure what to get my little niece she has everythink. (stands nect me)
RD: Hey i am the one suppose to be getting the advice !
TG: (Smiles) Well there might b some things on the other side.
We go to the other side and look at some things, she gives me a few suggestions, in the end i pick some dog in a bag that looked kinda kool.
TG: I was thinking of getting that has well, she can look like paris hilton.
RD: Hm i wouldn't want that.
TG: My friend has a chiwawa that they keep in a bag like that.
RD: o u lot use dogs has accesories
TG: no just my friends.
Anyways we start walking and she goes down other aisle so i tap her on shoulder and say thanks.

I think i know what i did wrong on both approaches, which was not changing subject into something external from where we were. I was talking about gym membership to swimmer girl and she mentioned she went uni, should of asked her what she was studying and lead it away from just swimming convo. For tesco girl something relating to her job like business of day or if she enjoyed it.

Hm i failed two approaches today has well, The first one was due to me not thinking what to say so i left before it got awkward (i should plan better or maybe not and just hopefully let experience kick in). The other i done was some random approach, which i expected the girl not to b comfortable with, but she was. She wanted to talk to me and one of her employees started talking to her has well..... . Then he was waiting for us to end her convo (seeing she was still talking to me), I felt awkward and pressured due to him just standing there and just said i have to go c ya later. hmmmm i think i should of just called him out on it and said it looks like this guy has got something very important to say to u. Hopefully it would b quick and minor allowing him to get out of the way and for me to continue my game.

OK long report, but i thought it was necessairy.

26/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

Alright i will tell u two approaches i did, but i will only include last one, seeing i wasn't too attracted to first.

First approach: This was when i was going out to talk to some random girls at bus stop and i passed some youth hostel, which i always wondered what they did in there, but never asked. Anyway got talking to guy at gate and he was friendly and he took me in the bar explaining everything i had to do to become a member. Well i got the application and he said i can stay and watch the football. The guy starts talking to the girl working at bar saying that she is going to b working at bar at christmas, so i jus commented on that and we had a good convosation for a good 20 minutes, i felt a bit more attraction has i talked to her, but she mentioned she had a baby, which was the turn off. Anyways felt hungry so i said i gtg get something to eat, we exchanged names and i exited. ps. that hostel has dorms i can pay for a night, which could come in handy lol.

Second approach: I was still hungry and i saw some girl with a dog, so i went up across road and asked if she knew anywhere to eat i am starving (i already knew, but used it has an opener lol). She was like 30's wifey, mother type and i didn't feel like being a homewrecker so i didn't try anythink, but she was so friendly, telling me indian and chinese resturants and was asking me if i was from round here......, i lied lol. anyways we get to her house and i comment on her christmas lights and say bye and she calls me back and gives me crisps, chocolates and tangarines saying i should eat them while i walk.....FOOD close awesome lol.

27/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

i got one approach and another thing i wanted to a result of my afc behaviour.

Alright first approach i did in the hostel i went to the other day. I came in to pay my membership and i saw a group of four guys and girls sitting on table and one person watching tv by herself, so i sat on sofa got a look at her and saw she was round about HB 5.5- 6 (due to piercings). anyways i sat next to her and said, i just became a member like two minutes ago, i was just wondering what u do in this place, apart from watch tv lol. She starts explaining and telling me everythink about the place, so i reply wow u must b here for months, but she tells me shes only here for two weeks.

Right on this approach i changed subject quite a lot and i kept my kool at difficult moments, which helped, but i feel i should of given more eye contact and gone for the number close at a high point in convo. She said she didn't have a number here due to living in another country or something like that, so i kissed on the cheek and said maybe i will c u another time. I will take this has a rejection.

Alright after this i went to bus stop to see if i cud pick up some girls lol, no one was there....i waited and waited....

A family then came just when i was about to give up and i saw 2 girls i think was russian coming over. I was going to approach them, but i got intimidated by family watching.

So guess what i did?

I approached the family lmao, i looked on the schedule and saw no buses were scheduled for the next 20 minutes for the 47 seeing it didn't appear on board (didn't want to get on this bus, jus way to break ice and have my bus not arrive for awkwardness), so i said do u know if the 47 comes on x mas eve. They were helping me out and all and said well we didn't see any 47 coming the other way.

Just then i see a unscheduled 47 in the distance (**** lmao) and yes i did get on lol. I am like dam i really do not know where this bus is going to, but i pulled up at a familiar area and attempted to approach a girl, but failed and helped some guy to get to a place who was heading my way.

I am not mad at wat happened although i spent £2 on the bus. This is because i learnt my lesson from my mistake.

28/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

27/12/07

Alright i got two approaches and i am going to try and get some more at 10pm on the streets lmao. Well anyways these approaches were good and all but reeked of desperation, body language and pauses (due to me not know what to say). The first girl was trying to try some clothes on, but fitting room was closed. So i just commented on a big clothes shop with out a fitting room. Got talking to her a bit (this was good) looked at a few jeans and then saw her taking off her jacket and holding up the stuff, so i said u arn't planning on getting changed in the middle of shop and she smiled and laughed. Still good now i screwed up after talking to for a little bit more. Because i didn't know what to say, so i paused and thought of something and went again. Apart from that it was good and i just asked her name and said c ya. This is the sort of approach i would usually eject due to awkwardness, but i didn't this time and thats where the desperation came from.

How to improve on this approach is to practice more and keep ur body language kool and relaxed.

Next one was in burtons store, saw some woman and picked up shirt and said "what do u think", she smiled and said nah lol. I then teased her for being in the mans section and she said she was looking for her 19 year old son, seeing he was older than me i didn't think i stood much chance. I talked to her anyways because i was saying that he will probablly not like it and say aw mum why do u keep buying me clothes. This went good but i got bit desperate to keep convo above 2 mins. She was still smiley, but instinct on little thing told me i was to desperate.

I also kind of didn't feel comfortable approaching in the clothes i was wearing, nike trousers and some karajima sports shirt. I felt it made me look to young, which was not good with approaching older girls.

30/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

hm i finally did it, i got 10 approaches in one week, meaning i can advance in bootcamp to week 4 (which is get 10 rejections with in a week). These were most definetlly not my best approaches, but i was doing it under pressure. Considering this i am going to give myself one week rest where i just do my own thing and reflect on what i have done. If i see a girl next to me on counter i would just approach for the hell of it just for the hell of it. I feel i have finally gotten to a stage where i can talk to a girl for a good period of time, i have little things i still need to learn like taboo words and how i comes across in the approach and now i also can focus on number closes instead of the approaching for the convo. I am rusty, but i got actual results to improve on, So i will list the 4 approaches i did today.

approach 1:

I saw a girl swimming next to me, she seemed pretty serious she had a water bottle, all different floats and a sheet of paper she looked at each 2 lengths. I felt she was busy and would rather jus get on with what she is doing. I said i am making excuses, so i said to her in a c + f way "r u training for olympics" from there i found out she was doing a triathlon, so talked about that, then teased her on her water bottle seeing there was a pool of water there lol (i know u r not suppose to drink that, but i was just playing lol). Anyways she talked to me enough and she went to continue swimming, i didn't really pursue convo after seeing she had other things on mind, but later said i would race her in last 5 minutes.


approach 2:

Alright i am at the bus stop (stupid bus stop approaches lol) and i saw a girl with loads of bags falling on floor and she had her bus pass in her teeth. So i struck a convo up with her about that and was amazed to hear she walked 30 mins like that lol. I talked about sales/shopping and how girls go crazy with it and then switched it to occupation to find out she is in college. Her bus arrived so she said bye and waved to me at window.

approach 3:

I was at fried chicken place, i see a girl whos just finished ordering, so said o well, got my chicken and saw she was heading for bus stop. I went there, sat next to her and started eating my chicken, I was making excuses not to talk to her and i finished my chicken and jus said f it and said "how can u stay so patient when ur hungry or r u just trying to b more lady like" she smiled and i talked about food for while, switched it to christmas and then new year free buses to work. I found out she worked in a office and said wow that is so unkool and punched her on the arm lol. She said she would answer phone and talk to customers, which i said wasn't bad, but girls r usually on phones for ages, like my mum would b on phone to a random stranger for like 4 hours (seeing this was a older woman, talking about my mum was taboo and i feel screwed it up, even though she laughed). Anyways bus came and i asked her name and said c ya.

approach 4:

Hm i went to youth hostel again tonight, which i got intimitated by a few hours back, seeing everyone was in groups. I went there sat down with a piece of paper doing my own thing and started chatting to a brazillian guy who was kinda kool. I looked round once in a while for any openings and saw a girl at counter i got up and went to get another drink. She was laughing with the bar lady (who last time was unsociable and jus grunted and answered with one syllable words pretty much). Anyways she had like 3 cigarette packets and the smoking kills was in different language on each packet, so i comment on that saying is she picking up cigarettes from all round the world. The bar lady even joined in (probs due to the social proof) and we mostly talked about other countrys languages and her job. I found out she was working in kitchen here, so i asked her if she enjoyed her job. She said yes, if i didn't why wud i work here. I argued with her that some people don't enjoy there job. she said i was talking crap, but i argued more and proved my point. She was somewhat fiesty lol, i think i need to kool it and talk slower (deinfetly need to improve on my voice, maybe tape record myself), which would of improved my chances on the approach.

well thats it guys.....for now....


34/100

 

[rushing dude 123]

Hm i will b back on the 5th janurary 2008 BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alright guys i am basically chilling out doing loads of work shifts and i am going to sort my life and start booking things like i am going to join a wu shu school, a 3 day wrestling course among a few other things. I am doing work approaches at moment seeing i am at work a lot, but i don't count them in diary....

On the 5th i am going to forcefully get these approaches with 10 rejections for number from the 5th-12th, how fun lmao.


Anyways tommorow is new years eve, so i am going to go work to 8 and ask my friends if they want to go night club (I have never been) then we can go. I am going to guess they r going to make a lame excuse like "thats long.......", so i will probablly end up going solo lol, i shoudn't let other peoples lazy attitudes effect me.

Anyways guys any more approaches i get i will keep u updated, but other than that have a HAPPY NEW YEAR.

 

[rushing dude 123]

New Years eve

alright i been pretty much sleeping and working till now, which sucks, but it will change soon. Anyways i will tell u the three approaches i did in new years eve at my first time night club and the f up's. I want ur opinion on these approaches because well i need to work on my night approaches by a lot........

approach 1:
I see a guy and two girls sitting at bus stop, so i jus ask the guy "r the buses going to b free now?" the guys says "yeh", so i start chatting to the guy who's friendly and i ask where they r going and if they they know any good night cubs and the girls join in. i found out they r going to waterloo for the fireworks and i talk a bit longer and then we get on bus and the chick moves up one seat for me, so i sit next to her. I talked about her job and how long shes been in england for and it was pretty difficult because she was french and had trouble understanding. i should of number closed....but i afc'd (dammmm) and i jus say bye to all of them and kiss the chick on the cheek and exit.

approach 2:
I am on my on new years eve seeing my friends pussied out and i met 3 south african dudes on the train and we were stuck on new years eve. I get chatting to them and there kool guys and say they know a place and i go with them. So we r at the night club and putting our coats in, there is a phillapino girl behind me so i ask "u know what time this place closes" and she says "3am", i felt negative energy when she said it, so i jus start chatting to guys again and she then taps me and asks "why did u want to know" i said "because we bought the ticket from a girl and she said it closes at 5 am, but u know what i am just happy this places exists", she talks to us lot for a while and i pull her hair to the side on back to see her tatoo and see a dragon, i whisper "kool tatoo, u getting anymore" she says yeh i am going to get loads down my back , i then say "how attractive" she laughs and kisses all of us on cheeks and leaves (from this i am thinking from now on i should kiss a girl on cheek in night club and say if u b good i will leave lips for later). i later see her and she puts her arms round me and i kiss her on cheek....i know i know, i should b smacking her butt by now. She then introduces me to her sister who is also nice. i c her later the night and say "is there a number i can reach u at " she holds her finger up (like one second has she goes to get her coat from down stairs because shes leaving)....yeh i don't c her again...

should of number closed sooner or better yet **** load of kino..........hotel.

approach 3: alright on way back on train i see two girls next to me i say to them "i got to work soon do u know how long this train wud take to get 5 stops" they reply "like 10 minutes" i then ask if they went to a night club or whatever, then i changed it to jobs and found out one works on aeroplane and other is student. there were times i felt there wud b awkward pauses, but i kept convo running, but it should jus flow i shouldn't need to put to much effort in, jus means i need practice. Anyways talking for 8 minutes and then they get off on there stop, which was one before mine. I feel i should of asked what stop it was so i wud of known when to close and also more practice on approaches to make me more better at convosations.

ok other approaches were

1. talked to bar girl for 1 minute, but i felt she was busy so i shouldn't keep her. Should of jus said f it and talked longer and closed.

2. I see two chicks hugging eachother and seeing i am drunk i come up with the most stupidest line "are u two into eachother" they ignore it. Ok this showed me do not drink to much, its just not necessairy.............BTW ALL MY APPROACHES THAT WERE SUCCESSFUL WERE DONE WHEN I WAS SOBER.

3. Chick sitting on top of couch next to me, i tap her and say "r u tired 2?" she blanks me. i feel that was a stupid approach unless i added it with a better opener.

4. Chick is with some dude (HB 7 Slag) and shes talking to every guy out there and she says to me "how r u" i say " fine u" she says "very good thank you very much" then starts chatting to other dude. Here i should of said "u r quite the social bee r u like this when ur sober?".

i am going out tonight again with some other friends, so lets see if i can use this experience to improve.

 

[rushing dude 123]

I had a fantastic night out and sparked interest from a few girls, but the problem was the music was so loud i cudn't hear them.. at all. I either have to approach more away from the band or learn how to lip read or something or go some place more quieter. Also dam drinking is expensive.....i got to learn to take it easy, i am killing my weekly wages in one night. I am not feeling to confident at moment, because this week i got to get 10 rejections, i got to start some new things (wu shu, wrestling and swim school again) and i got exams, but f it i can't lay in bed all day. I will just read a few articles to hammer my afc thoughts out of the window AGAIN. I will try to sort out a few things by booking the courses and if i have time i will go libary to study.


btw forgot to add last 3 approaches so its 37/100