Rural areas/smaller cities and towns

[Glassguy]

Those of you that live in smaller areas will know what I am talking about. The dating scene can get very tough because of a lack of options. It seems like its the same people every time I go out with friends, same social webs that you are either in or not in and the amount of things to do entertainment wise can be downright dreadful at times.

In the area I live in (Ohio) it seems as though a majority of the single women want a fixer upper. Someone who has had a tarnished past, kids by multiple women, etc. They want the challenge of swooping in and playing 50's housewife. Most of the good ones in their mid 20's to 30 are wifed up or in LTR's and I am not one to trespass past boundaries like that.

As a successful, good looking guy, sometimes the options are limited because of demographics in general. Not to sound conceited, but I think sometimes women in my smaller area feel insecure/inferior around me because I am different than the typical losers they have dated. They dont know how to handle a successful guy with his sh!t together.

I can go to Columbus and within 1 hour have 5-10 matches on Bumble and Tinder and have them blowing up my phone in no time. I feel as though if I spent more time in lets say Columbus I would have a crazy amount of abundance in woman.

I have even thought about paying the small monthly fee to set my Tinder/Bumble account to look like I live in a bigger area just for the hits (because most women in larger areas are not setting their search parameters to 60-70 miles).

Its a small pond around me and only so many tasty minnows to eat lol.

Any tips on how you guys deal with meeting chicks in smaller towns?

 

[bigneil]

Yes, the cities attract the women so the suburbs always have fewer women. It's almost always a bunch of finky guys in their 40's with good jobs and no women hitting on everyone in sight.

You have to frequent coffee shops and breakfast places early, and restaurant bars during lunch time when it's quiet, and hope to meet some hot bartenders or regulars or waitresses. Be a regular at the places where there are more than one woman.

 

[bigneil]

It's important to remember, the original City Hall was the bar, and the Barber shop. By being a regular at the central locations and getting to know everyone you can eventually become Mayor.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Regardless of where you live, get off OLD and out in to the real world if you want higher quality women.

 

[Glassguy]

I think I will splurge on the $9.99 for the ability to change my location lol.

Culturally experienced, educated, good looking women are definitely abundant in the larger areas.

I'll report back in a few weeks after I see if this was a home run or foul ball move.

 

[Masculinity]

Yup, I experienced the same thing when I lived in the northeast. I used to drive 30 min to the big cities and have loads of fun there.

 

[BeExcellent]

Those of you that live in smaller areas will know what I am talking about. The dating scene can get very tough because of a lack of options. It seems like its the same people every time I go out with friends, same social webs that you are either in or not in and the amount of things to do entertainment wise can be downright dreadful at times.

In the area I live in (Ohio) it seems as though a majority of the single women want a fixer upper. Someone who has had a tarnished past, kids by multiple women, etc. They want the challenge of swooping in and playing 50's housewife. Most of the good ones in their mid 20's to 30 are wifed up or in LTR's and I am not one to trespass past boundaries like that.

As a successful, good looking guy, sometimes the options are limited because of demographics in general. Not to sound conceited, but I think sometimes women in my smaller area feel insecure/inferior around me because I am different than the typical losers they have dated. They dont know how to handle a successful guy with his sh!t together.

I can go to Columbus and within 1 hour have 5-10 matches on Bumble and Tinder and have them blowing up my phone in no time. I feel as though if I spent more time in lets say Columbus I would have a crazy amount of abundance in woman.

I have even thought about paying the small monthly fee to set my Tinder/Bumble account to look like I live in a bigger area just for the hits (because most women in larger areas are not setting their search parameters to 60-70 miles).

Its a small pond around me and only so many tasty minnows to eat lol.

Any tips on how you guys deal with meeting chicks in smaller towns?

It's not a ton of selection from a chick's perspective either. I split time between a small town & a major metro, with additional travel for business. The small town has NO men who I would date. The major metro has plenty.

In the small town I substantially out earn all but the top .5% to 1%, and I am also better educated & sophisticated than 85-90% of the men. There are some great men but they are happily married & raising families (most in very traditional marriages)...and I would never dream of getting involved with a married man.

So I meet people either on business trips or in the major metro. It's a well to do area with plenty of single successful sophisticated men who appeal to me (& who I appeal to.)

This is a situation where you have to either settle in a small town (which I won't do...sounds like you won't either)...or change location for the benefit of a social life.

I will tell you the small town is FAR superior for child rearing, and if your income is not location dependent (mine isn't) your dollar goes MUCH farther.

But for a single person? The big city. It's not even close.

 

[ThisNThat]

Those of you that live in smaller areas will know what I am talking about. The dating scene can get very tough because of a lack of options. It seems like its the same people every time I go out with friends, same social webs that you are either in or not in and the amount of things to do entertainment wise can be downright dreadful at times.

In the area I live in (Ohio) it seems as though a majority of the single women want a fixer upper. Someone who has had a tarnished past, kids by multiple women, etc. They want the challenge of swooping in and playing 50's housewife. Most of the good ones in their mid 20's to 30 are wifed up or in LTR's and I am not one to trespass past boundaries like that.




As a successful, good looking guy, sometimes the options are limited because of demographics in general. Not to sound conceited, but I think sometimes women in my smaller area feel insecure/inferior around me because I am different than the typical losers they have dated. They dont know how to handle a successful guy with his sh!t together.

Yeah...lol...and there's probably barely a handful of attractive single women in my area on the dating sites, most of which just moved to the area to be closer to family or new job only to realize it's an area full of "People of Wal-Mart" types and the 55+ crowd. They've pretty much realized they're F**ked and may have to travel long distances to find their ideal partners.

Speaking of which, I recognized this one cute 30-something, I recalled her from my Karate Class in my late 20s, she had 2 kids...and now that she's in her mid 30s, not too bad looking, but..she's hot looking, but total trailer trash. Had more kids by other men even moreso. lol

Sadly, some have demanded in their profile that you "must be local, but have all your teeth and educated"...I recall this one woman, she works on her families horse farm, breeds Arabians, and teaches people how to ride...very beautiful woman..not a redneck, but a stereotypical, clean cut southern country girl.

Thing is though, she demands that you be local. She actually lives in an hour from me and I have to travel an hour to find anyone worthy of dating anyhow, so the travel isn't a big deal to me...but apparently since she works horses, he HAS to be local. Where she lives, the options are slim, so she's kind of screwing herself over really as most in these parts..the towns are spread out further the further north from where I live. It's like she's choosing to shoot herself in the food by not willing to travel certain distances.

There's another woman, within minutes from where I live, has in her headline, "Be local to <name of county>"...yet if you're not a strapping 6'2"...you're out of the running.

It's no biggie to me because I'm used to traveling around these small, backwater areas to meet up with friends and such.

I can go to Columbus and within 1 hour have 5-10 matches on Bumble and Tinder and have them blowing up my phone in no time. I feel as though if I spent more time in lets say Columbus I would have a crazy amount of abundance in woman.

I have even thought about paying the small monthly fee to set my Tinder/Bumble account to look like I live in a bigger area just for the hits (because most women in larger areas are not setting their search parameters to 60-70 miles).

Its a small pond around me and only so many tasty minnows to eat lol.

I hear ya man...I have to travel distances, and I do get excited when I see a "new girl in town", esp. if she's my age, no kids...as most around here have popped out a couple by the age of 21.

I recall going off to the military and coming back home to attend the local community college. You can forget finding single chicks in comunity colleges in small towns, because most of them are married or engaged to their high school sweethearts. So there's no running your game on a class room of about to be married, married, or already taken women. Some have instead of going off to college, to explore their independence, they lock themselves further into an relationship with some dude they dated in high school...as if he is "the one". I mean...really?

I could never figure out why people got married before the legal drinking age....as if the person they dated in high school was someone that was meant for them for LIFE? I mean...take off, go to college, date around. Explore options man!

 

[ThisNThat]

This is funny, I recall this one woman that lived an hour south outside of a major city. The city she lived in was kind of big, but not THAT big...she actually worked in a hospital to the west of her, but desired to travel north to a Meetup group...completely into unfamiliar territory.

She informed me that "too many people in her area and at work know her, and thus won't date those people"

She never was a return person though, but it was interesting how she was considering traveling great distances to partake in a social life away from unfamiliar territory.
I was starting to think she was a mistress or something lol

 

[ubercat]

See this is where a little imagination comes into play. I was dating a nurse once and then discovered from her that regional health authorities have nurse training centres in the country. So u have a lot of young women who have an itch to scratch but don't want to do it with a local boy and have everyone know their business. My job at the time took me close to one of these regions. So I setup a gentleman farmer type profile in a different town far enough away. I never went on a single date it was always dinner at their place. This is where I get the sh1ts with this one dimensional thinking. Online dating is a tool just like any other. Smart players identify a demographic that they are interested in and where the odds are stacked in their favour and they mine the hell out of it. Personally I find nurses like good apple pie a classic.

 

[skinnyguy]

Just move.it sounds like you'd rather be poor in a big city than rich in a small city. If you're priority is poon, move to Las Vegas, become a club promoter and swim in the abundance of women you'll have. Even if you don't have immediate success you'll get there eventually. You'll be able to get a nice place for like $700 a month.

The place you live in has people who marry their cousins at the age of 21. You need to experience the real world. Being "successful" in a piece of crap town means nothing.