running out of things

[kk2004]

Guys when i talk with my gf now convo is a little strained, at first i wud talk about movies and the tv shows, and diffrent things. Now when i speak to her (only once a day), i just tell her how my day went and how her day was and its just usual stuff, but i know if i continue it for any longer tha it wont be good (anti dj, not exciting etc). I only tak for 10-20 min, somedays only 5 min soemdays 30-45 min. Plu i alwasy try to neg-hit then throw in a compliment so she never know whats comin next, a postive or a negative. But im running out fo subject matter and I cant keep being humours and ****y and neg hitting her, its too much work. I know i gotta remian confident thats the key. Somedays when im feeling realli good about myself, when all the negative vibes are gone, then talking to her doesnt seem like much a deal, but on other days im off. Mostly im off. There more silences now then there where before.

So basically, I need advice on how I shoudl be feeling and thinking and what I shud be talking about, like ideas for subject matter? thx guys

 

[squirrels]

Whatever...subject matter varies depending on what's on your mind.

I think some crazy ****, myself.

But relationships aren't all about conversation...that's only one piece. I think the problem with most people on here think that the subject matter of your conversations is EXCLUSIVELY what determines your success or failure with a girl.

Just not true.

 

[wind20mph]

Become the domeneering, funny and interesting. You can make all the topic and lead the conversation anywhere you want. but I suggest do some action, its boring to just talk on a GF.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by squirrels
Whatever...subject matter varies depending on what's on your mind.

I think some crazy ****, myself.

But relationships aren't all about conversation...that's only one piece. I think the problem with most people on here think that the subject matter of your conversations is EXCLUSIVELY what determines your success or failure with a girl.

Just not true.

Then what works for success in the conversation department....spontaneity?

 

[AIR-PILOT]

BECOME A CONVERSATIONALIST...........
ITS EASY, LISTEN..
oh and read the BIBLE.

 

[becker]

I'd be careful, buddy, your relationship sounds like it's taking a bit of a nosedive. I remember my last relationship, which ended about a month ago, was like this. We got so comfortable around each other and saw each other so much that we started running out of interesting things to talk about and eventually started to talk about mundane things. At this point, sometimes you think, well, we've been together long enough to maybe overlook stuff like this, but the truth of the matter is, girls don't overlook this stuff. It's big for them. They freak out, and bail. It's almost like in order to preserve things, you need to just make her feel less stressed out about the relationship. If her mind gets turning in the wrong direction, she may just run for the hills to protect herself from getting hurt. Sort of like a pre-emtive strike.

Boy, I almost have too much dating experience, because you can know too much and that can be bad because you get super-jaded, like me. Oh well.

 

[AIR-PILOT]

Im going to agree with Becker on talking to much and then not having anything to say. This happened in my last relationship which only lasted 3 weeks. She asked me for my Internet name and every night we would talk..this is the worst thing to do. I got sick of her after 3 weeks and told her that I didn't want to see her anymore. I learned my lesson and from now on I will never try to start convos over internet but in person. I guess its also my personality, I get of people to fast especially if they are not interesting.

 

[lightshadow]

ds

let her do most of the talkin and if u need to talk and u have nothin to say, Tell her a story tat instead of, "my day was ok."

no need to thank me playboy