running into a girl too many times?

yowhatsup

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So there's this girl i like, we have a bunch of classes together. I'm sitting with her one day, and her and her friend seem to be making plans to go somewhere, I've got somewhere to be, so I say good bye and go for a quick lunch. I end up running into her in the cafeteria and she jokingly comments "What are you stalking me?" I laugh, we move on with conversation. At that point, I decided (also some advice from here) that it wouldn't be a good idea to 'run into' her too many more times, just in case she's at all creeped out. Well, yesterday I was with a couple friends and I saw her in the hallway, and she saw me, and I wasn't even trying to run into her! I was going to go and talk to her, but she walked off somewhere else before i could get her attention. If she is actually worried about me being creepy (even though I'm not) what can I say to her that will relax her about it? But not sound too weird if she doesn't feel that way? Should i just pretend like it didn't happen?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Instead of just laughing and moving on, make fun out of the situation with her. Consistantly laughing it off or moving on could seem creepy if it's done often enough, it seems as if you're hiding something.
 

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You should make the situation be as if she's the one intentionally running into you. As soon as she said "Are you stalking me?" she set the frame that you were the one that's following her.
 

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Confidence is definitely an issue of yours. If we can see it so can she. Work on it, you obviously have some positive qualities if you have been communicating with her to this point. Each time you address her be confident. As others have said, each time you see her, approach her with the "your a horrible stalker," she should eat it up. Tell her that it would just be easier for her to ask you out on a date then follow you around all day. If that doesn’t stimulate something, keep trying, your on your way.

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Someone Much cooler

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I'd say "well since your gonna stalk me and you won't have it any other way besides bein my groupie, i might as well have some manners and invite you to sit your pretty self down and have a bite to eat.
 

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Is it even worth pointing it out at all? You're both in the same building for several hours per day going to different classes, it's just a fact of school that you're going to see each other several times per day every day. Do you want to point out this obvious dynamic and make it awkward every time you pass by?
 
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ligyron said:
Is it even worth pointing it out at all? You're both in the same building for several hours per day going to different classes, it's just a fact of school that you're going to see each other several times per day every day. Do you want to point out this obvious dynamic and make it awkward every time you pass by?

Right on, make no mention of it. There is nothing you can do unless you start going out of your way to not see her.


I'm in the same boat, waiting for her to say something like that to me. We both have a class that starts at the same time (different classes) in the same building. We both get to the parking lot near the same time and park near each other. We both go to class and leave the class at the same time and head to our next classes which are in the same building again. We see each other a lot, but that doesn't mean I'm stalking her/she's stalking me, it's just something that happens due to the setup.
 

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yeah i understand, what i'm sayin is if they are gonna be around each other alot wether they want to or onot, then he might as well make the best of it and try and get @ her.
 

yowhatsup

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Ya, my confidence probably isn't the best, but I'm working on it! I think I just won't say anything, but if she mentions it again, I'll make like she was stalking me or something.
 
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