rules of the don juan

[Chamber36]

I'm making my own set of rules.

Rule #1: There are no rules.
Rule #2: Don't give a ****.
Rule #3: Keep your IL lower than the girls'
Rule #4: Don't be afraid to escalate.
Rule #5: Don't be afraid to let women know how you feel.


Also was thinking of adding: "Remain a mystery," but I'm not sure if we should do that either. Sometimes you got to clear up the smoke.

So tell me what you guys would prioritize in a list of rules meant to keep your don juan behavior in check.

We don't want to lose any girls here. But we also don't want no skanks. (do we?)

 

[Chamber36]

Now that I have a bit more information I'd like to update this.

It's a definite MUST that you remain a mystery imho.

I am going to keep things nice and simple and write down what is important to me right nowat


So
#1. Rules are Guidelines. Every rule has an exception.
#2. Don't give women too much information about yourself. Gather more information about them than they have about you.
#3. Don't get involved with women you aren't interested in in the first place. You will be DLVing yourself by simply getting involved with these women, you won't have anything interesting to ask, and they will use the information you give them against you to DLV you even more.
#4. If you're not escalating or building comfort to allow escalation, you are wasting time. Make sure everything you do has a purpose and is aimed toward a certain goal.
#5. If you want to escalate to get sex, organise the logistics but make sure that Anti-Slut Defense has been defused. Both of these things can be done by coming up with an awesome reason to spend time with the girl. But I stress that you must ORGANISE your logistics. Things don't always go by themselves like they used to when we lived in huts. Again: ORGANISE your logistics. That means that you have to have plans and get the girl to AGREE to those plans that will inevitably end in sex. All the while the girl must be convinced that you are spending time together for something besides sex.

 

[zekko]

t's a definite MUST that you remain a mystery imho.

I liked it better when you were questioning whether or not to be a mystery. I think being a mystery can be overrated - it depends on the situation.
If you're the best thing going, why not make that clear?

 

[Chamber36]

#1. Don't give women too much information, validation or drinks.
#2. Stick to your frame. Women are supposed to be gaming you.
#3. Make sure you have a snappy comeback for everything.
#4. Argue, escalate, tease, touch.

Of course you don't have to argue, but it's super fun.

I realised it's thanks to the failures that I can come up with these rules and refine them.

 

[Chamber36]

#1. Don't give women too much information, validation or drinks.
#2. Stick to your frame. Women are supposed to be gaming you.
#3. Make sure you have a snappy comeback for everything.
#4. Argue, escalate, tease, touch.
#5. Don't waste time on non-receptive women.

Of course you don't have to argue, but it's super fun.

I realised it's thanks to the failures that I can come up with these rules and refine them.

 

[Chamber36]

#1. Be confident
#2. Be a challenge.
#3. Qualify women.

These are all basics to a certain level of Inner game that we should have.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I liked it better when you were questioning whether or not to be a mystery. I think being a mystery can be overrated - it depends on the situation.
If you're the best thing going, why not make that clear?

Good point, but it seems that even if you are a person of high value, demonstrating that to the girl by saying something like "Yeah you're not gonna find anyone better than me" could be looked at as a desperate attempt to keep the girl/hint at exclusiveness.

I guess it's all about how you demonstrate that you are the best thing going.

 

[Fela Kuti]

I'm making my own set of rules.

Rule #1: There are no rules.
Rule #2: Don't give a ****.
Rule #3: Keep your IL lower than the girls'
Rule #4: Don't be afraid to escalate.
Rule #5: Don't be afraid to let women know how you feel.

care to elaborate the fifth rule? I thought it's not very DJ to express your feelings to a girl.

 

[jafyk]

Fela you be Naija man? Anyway, I believe the original poster is saying that. If you feel a woman is out of line don't be scared to set her straight. If you feel you want to take her home and bla bla bla don't be scared to let her know that either. Get it?

 

[Fela Kuti]

Fela you be Naija man? Anyway, I believe the original poster is saying that. If you feel a woman is out of line don't be scared to set her straight. If you feel you want to take her home and bla bla bla don't be scared to let her know that either. Get it?

haha. no, man. I'm asian. well if that's the case then it makes sense. but I thought the OP meant something like saying you like her or something.

 

[Chamber36]

care to elaborate the fifth rule? I thought it's not very DJ to express your feelings to a girl.

It's not good to tell them. But sometimes, when there is little time, it's important to let them know.

 

[Fela Kuti]

It's not good to tell them. But sometimes, when there is little time, it's important to let them know.

maybe you can give me an example? because I'm in a situation where it's possibly a good idea to let her know my intention. see my thread on the first page of this subforum.

 

[Chamber36]

Say you've seen a girl every few weeks or months just by coincedence, but never had a chance to talk to them. Then when you finally get a chance to talk, and they are receptive because you've shown them that you are an attractive man already, there is no time for bullsh*tting. In those cases you got to grab them by the hips and press them against you, then put ur hand up her back and press her tits against you.

That's what I basically do. I got a one-night stand out of taking a girls hand and putting it on my **** once.

You could also just go for the make-out in the middle of a conversation, especially if she asks you a question you don't want to answer.

These are basically situations where you make or break a deal.

There's also a casual stroke across the ass-cheek.

 

[zekko]

Good point, but it seems that even if you are a person of high value, demonstrating that to the girl by saying something like "Yeah you're not gonna find anyone better than me" could be looked at as a desperate attempt to keep the girl/hint at exclusiveness.

I guess it's all about how you demonstrate that you are the best thing going.

You don't tell her, it should be self evident through who you are and how you carry yourself.