ruined my freakin night dealing with this chick

[backbreaker]

let me clarify:

Yes I see that she sees me as a friend.

HOwever, once this was made clear on her part, I have cut contact with her.

Before this, she was sending mixed signals. she was telling me how unhappy she was in her relationship. She told me how she knew she needed to get out of it. MOst of all, I told her 2 years ago to not call me unless she wanted to date me, and she contacted me out of the blue.

With all of this taken into consideration, I made a move. Either she is playing games or she really doesn't like me, regardless of the fact, I don't have the time nor the patience.


YOu are stating that just because she sees me as a friend, that I am an AFC, which makes no sense.

 

[backbreaker]

also note that the only reason this thread is this long is because I have had at least 5 people PM me asking me to post updates on what's going on. Otherwise I wouldnt' have even started this thread.

Also note, I never have asked for advice. I would gladly accecpt anything you have to say, but I am basically ranting. I know what has to be done, and that is to cut down contact with her.

However, a real DJ makes the best out of any possible situtation. How is telling a beatuiful woman that you don't wnat to talk to her, taking advantage of a situtation? She has good looking friends. I might could use a good word from her one day. She is good looking. she would make great social proof.

Telling any woman that you plain just don't want to talk to them anymore to me is not very smart, unless of course she slitted your tires or some crap like that.

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Porky
1) Most women are b1tches.
2) All women have the potential in them to be b1tches.
3) All women love drama.
4) All women love games.
5) All women will flake on you.
6) All women will disrespect you.
7) All women will get off on any of the above 5. The more, the better.

You handled this well. She isn't worth your time, and you learned a valuable lesson.

1. Most people are *****es.
2. All people have that potential
3. All people love drama, but some more than others
4. Only the ones who are good at them
5. All people will, to various extent, at some point. Humans are unreliable by nature.
6. All people will disrespect you if you allow yourself to be disrespected.
7. Not all women, otherwise we'd all be monks by now

 

[Krassus]

Backbreaker, to answer your question about this girl: she doesn't particularly come off as a drama queen, but she's flaky as hell to say the least. Why? To tell you the truth, i couldn't care less at the moment. Is she beautiful? Yeah, she's a model (i'll send you a pic). Beautiful enough to put up with her ****? No level of beauty can make up for a migrane like that! I told myself that if she flaked on me again, i'd walk, and that's what i did. And honestly, it feels great. If she contacts me, we'll start over BASED ON MY STRICT TERMS FOR HER BEHAVIOR. If not, i couldn't care less.

I'm fortunate enough to have another great girl who seems genuinely interested in me right now and there are about 4 others i could fall back on if i had to. Anyway, my advice to you is, as it always has been: walk away. Understand that i don't mean to offend you, but you're clearly infatuated with this girl, as i was with mine, and that's causing you to look the other way on the fact that a girl like that would be a constant migrane to you if you were actually dating her. Anyway, i've got some really great ideas that are helping me right now, and i think they would help you too. But let's continue this over MSN.

 

[The Dominated1]

Good Lord!

Backbreaker some day you will look back on this and see how pathetic you have been!

Next time she rings - dont answer

Is your life so mundane that you do not have anything more exciting to do than answer this girls calls?

And what do you talk about? Her life and her boyfriend who probably has her in doggy style right now?

You have turned into Dear Abby for a girl who clearly doesn't see you as a REAL MAN! aparently in her eyes a mental patient is more of a MAN than you!

She has clearly told you this and "YOU STILL WANT TO BE HER EMOTIONAL TAMPON"

How is having any more communication with this girl going to be beneficial to your self development?

Nuff Said!

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Krassus
Backbreaker, to answer your question about this girl: she doesn't particularly come off as a drama queen, but she's flaky as hell to say the least. Why? To tell you the truth, i couldn't care less at the moment. Is she beautiful? Yeah, she's a model (i'll send you a pic). Beautiful enough to put up with her ****? No level of beauty can make up for a migrane like that! I told myself that if she flaked on me again, i'd walk, and that's what i did. And honestly, it feels great. If she contacts me, we'll start over BASED ON MY STRICT TERMS FOR HER BEHAVIOR. If not, i couldn't care less.

I'm fortunate enough to have another great girl who seems genuinely interested in me right now and there are about 4 others i could fall back on if i had to. Anyway, my advice to you is, as it always has been: walk away. Understand that i don't mean to offend you, but you're clearly infatuated with this girl, as i was with mine, and that's causing you to look the other way on the fact that a girl like that would be a constant migrane to you if you were actually dating her. Anyway, i've got some really great ideas that are helping me right now, and i think they would help you too. But let's continue this over MSN.

I'm at work now, but PM me your MSN account and I will try to get ahold of you later today.

I want to say that I don't understand woman, but I do. It's just that they make things harder then they should.


dominated1, you are right in the sence that I treat this girl different then I would have if I had just met her down the street. However, it's not infactuation, it's the fact that we really were good if not great friends even before I started to have feelings for her. I wouldn't say it's a mistake, becuase although she was a knockout then, I was not interested.

It's alot harder to tell someone you really do care about that you don't want to have anything to do with them, but that's what has happened.

BTW, how do you know i DON'T hang up the phone when she calls. I get sick and tired of these people giving generic advice when they would probably be taking this situtation worse than I would. I respect people like krassus because he, like me, understands that different situtations are different to handle. I am not loosing a possible GF, I am also loosing a pretty good pal as well, and that's the hard part, because I don't have many people I can trust on that aspect.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by The Dominated1
Good Lord!

Backbreaker some day you will look back on this and see how pathetic you have been!

Next time she rings - dont answer

Is your life so mundane that you do not have anything more exciting to do than answer this girls calls?

And what do you talk about? Her life and her boyfriend who probably has her in doggy style right now?

You have turned into Dear Abby for a girl who clearly doesn't see you as a REAL MAN! aparently in her eyes a mental patient is more of a MAN than you!

She has clearly told you this and "YOU STILL WANT TO BE HER EMOTIONAL TAMPON"

How is having any more communication with this girl going to be beneficial to your self development?

Nuff Said!

I ment to tell you thanks for the response, you honeslty said some things that hit pretty close to home.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by backbreaker
...She was always calling wanting to see me. she practially spent the night over my h ouse (6am) and was virtually begging me to fvck her (talking about sex the entire night),...

you should have banged her, now she might view you as being too timid, cautious, and conservative for her.

 

[backbreaker]

I know, and at one point in time that night we gave each other a look and I had a gut feeling it was an inventation.

Anyway, I knew then that I would do more harm than good by fvcking her. You think she flaky now, what If I would have banged her.

Plus she does have a LTR and if they break up and I don't want to hear her mouth about it if we did.

I have a feeling we will get together again in the future,but it won't be for a while, at least a couple of months.