Ok, so i've been talking and going for occasional coffee with this girl from the office. Big office. Don't even see her most days. Looks like all is going well, she's always happy to see me and talk when we do run into each other.
So after a few coffee get togethers I ask would she like to do lunch sometime. She replies, without hesitation, yes, but can it be the week after next. No worries.
Week and half later, I send and email," how's things, blah blah blah. Do you still want to grab lunch." Get a reply back. "Can't this week, so much on. How are you blah blah blah, will catch up with you soon." So i'm a little disappointed, but she is actually really busy and wasn't just making excuses.
Ok so now I don't contact her and wait to see if she gets back to me.
Run into her about a week later, she's really happy to see me again and we start chatting for a while. She's been moving apartment I ask how thats going. She tells me having trouble at old place, won't give bond back until carpet is steam cleaned. I tell her I own a steam clean machine and offer to let her use it. She asks if I wouldn't mind doing if for her and offers to pay me. I kind of hesitate but accept the offer. She asks for my number so she can text me details. Great, exchanged numbers. I know, i know. I've been moving slow.
As I leave her I make a joke about hurrying up and get all your work done so we can go get lunch. Has a little laugh. All good.
Ok so we meet up after work and go to the old apartment and I fix the carpet up in about 20 mins. All happy. She asks how much would professionals charge. I make a joke about how little it would be and tell her not to worry about. Great.
We hang around there for about half an hour having a good talk then when we leave she thanks me and says you have my number now so call me and we can go get coffee and then asks if I would like to do something one night together as she doesn't like trying to schedule lunches. Always busy at work. I reply yea great, how about dinner next week. She agrees. Ok feels like i'm getting somewhere now.
Couple of days later, I send a text saying "Was really good getting to know you a bit the other night. Have a nice weekend." Get a good reply back saying " U too, got my bond back, thanks, blah blah, will cu next week."
Ok this is where I blow it.
So I haven't seen her this week and its wednesday morning. I want to get dinner but I've only got tonight or Thursday as she goes back to her hometown on weekends. I plan to ask her to coffee and try and make a date then. So I call her in the morning at about the time we would call each other to go get coffee. When she answers she sounds happy to hear from me. Says she is still at home, running late, feeling a little sick. I say ok I was just seeing if you wanted to get coffee but it looks like not now. She laughs and says I'll call you later and we'll do it then. Cool. This is where I should have ended the call. She keeps the conversation going asking hows things etc, so we chat for a bit and then I couldn't help it. I knew I shouldn't but it just came out. "I was just wondering if still want to get dinner this week. Maybe tomorrow night". "She says How about next week I'm feeling and bit sick and next week is not so busy." OK no worries but then I go one further. Again I know I should't say it but it just came out. "OK would Thursday be good." WTF. Remembering that she is late work and still getting ready. She then says ok I need to check my diary but wednesday is probably better, I'll let you know. I say Ok its cool let me know, I know you're busy. End of call.
Run into her about an hour and half later just as she's getting to work . She looks happy to see me and smiles and makes a joke about finally making it and we keep going different directions.
I didn't hear back from her but I don't think she worked all day and wasn't in today. Sick i'm guessing.
Anyway, I haven't made further contact and don't plan too.
Ok sorry for the long post and thanks if you read it all.
I think I've messed it up big time on the morning phone call. When I basically panicked and wanted a firm date. I've played it so cool up until then.
Thanks for any advice.
So after a few coffee get togethers I ask would she like to do lunch sometime. She replies, without hesitation, yes, but can it be the week after next. No worries.
Week and half later, I send and email," how's things, blah blah blah. Do you still want to grab lunch." Get a reply back. "Can't this week, so much on. How are you blah blah blah, will catch up with you soon." So i'm a little disappointed, but she is actually really busy and wasn't just making excuses.
Ok so now I don't contact her and wait to see if she gets back to me.
Run into her about a week later, she's really happy to see me again and we start chatting for a while. She's been moving apartment I ask how thats going. She tells me having trouble at old place, won't give bond back until carpet is steam cleaned. I tell her I own a steam clean machine and offer to let her use it. She asks if I wouldn't mind doing if for her and offers to pay me. I kind of hesitate but accept the offer. She asks for my number so she can text me details. Great, exchanged numbers. I know, i know. I've been moving slow.
As I leave her I make a joke about hurrying up and get all your work done so we can go get lunch. Has a little laugh. All good.
Ok so we meet up after work and go to the old apartment and I fix the carpet up in about 20 mins. All happy. She asks how much would professionals charge. I make a joke about how little it would be and tell her not to worry about. Great.
We hang around there for about half an hour having a good talk then when we leave she thanks me and says you have my number now so call me and we can go get coffee and then asks if I would like to do something one night together as she doesn't like trying to schedule lunches. Always busy at work. I reply yea great, how about dinner next week. She agrees. Ok feels like i'm getting somewhere now.
Couple of days later, I send a text saying "Was really good getting to know you a bit the other night. Have a nice weekend." Get a good reply back saying " U too, got my bond back, thanks, blah blah, will cu next week."
Ok this is where I blow it.
So I haven't seen her this week and its wednesday morning. I want to get dinner but I've only got tonight or Thursday as she goes back to her hometown on weekends. I plan to ask her to coffee and try and make a date then. So I call her in the morning at about the time we would call each other to go get coffee. When she answers she sounds happy to hear from me. Says she is still at home, running late, feeling a little sick. I say ok I was just seeing if you wanted to get coffee but it looks like not now. She laughs and says I'll call you later and we'll do it then. Cool. This is where I should have ended the call. She keeps the conversation going asking hows things etc, so we chat for a bit and then I couldn't help it. I knew I shouldn't but it just came out. "I was just wondering if still want to get dinner this week. Maybe tomorrow night". "She says How about next week I'm feeling and bit sick and next week is not so busy." OK no worries but then I go one further. Again I know I should't say it but it just came out. "OK would Thursday be good." WTF. Remembering that she is late work and still getting ready. She then says ok I need to check my diary but wednesday is probably better, I'll let you know. I say Ok its cool let me know, I know you're busy. End of call.
Run into her about an hour and half later just as she's getting to work . She looks happy to see me and smiles and makes a joke about finally making it and we keep going different directions.
I didn't hear back from her but I don't think she worked all day and wasn't in today. Sick i'm guessing.
Anyway, I haven't made further contact and don't plan too.
Ok sorry for the long post and thanks if you read it all.
I think I've messed it up big time on the morning phone call. When I basically panicked and wanted a firm date. I've played it so cool up until then.
Thanks for any advice.
