could somebody please help me with what to say to guys? honestly, i've been living in the dorms now for a couple of days and i have no idea how to approach guys to be friends. i have very few friends here from high school, and most ofthem i dont want to hang out with anyways..please help me,i am usually an upbeat positive person, but this lack of friends has me seriously depressed....
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Cappy da pimp
Don Juan
Bro all you gotta say is yo whats up man Im so and so. Ask them whats good for the night. Its not rocket science just be cool with them.
thefonz
Master Don Juan
Kill that desperation....present yourself as a controlled got it together kind of guy and others will ask you to come do stuff
Also, are you talking to girls? Use this oppurtunity to meet girls on your own terms without that heckling hyiennas judging and instructing you in the corner. Thats how i've always liked it cus when i finally do go out with guys and meet up with girls my game it always much tighter because of my 'pure' mind
Also, are you talking to girls? Use this oppurtunity to meet girls on your own terms without that heckling hyiennas judging and instructing you in the corner. Thats how i've always liked it cus when i finally do go out with guys and meet up with girls my game it always much tighter because of my 'pure' mind
i have a girlfriend at home...i've been here about a week now and i have about 4 friends...honestly, im considering dropping out. all of this lack is causing me stress to the point where i can't eat. i try to be proactive and call my friends, meet up with them, but most of the time i just feel like i'm getting the shaft...argh, anything....please?
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
alright here is a few different approaches
if it was me i would fill my room with alcohol and b*tches
and an xbox / ps2 or both
i guarantee you will make friends quickly
become " the man " who can get what people need
obviously stay out of the drug game
greet everyone you see
SMILE
do some crazy $hit with your DOOR
like a poster of some hot chicks bending over a car
probably some spray paint like a hip hop piece
make it look like the door to your room is really a portal to another dimension
get people WANTING TO MEET YOU
who is this wild party animal / pimp ?
why is he always so happy ?
what drugs is he on and can he score some for me ? ( joking )
BUY dvd VAN WILDER
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B000069CF0/002-0240561-8696823?v=glance
watch said DVD 24/7 until memorised
then you become VAN WILDER
problem solved
Lost In Translation
DONT LET YOUR D*CK RUN YOUR LIFE
if it was me i would fill my room with alcohol and b*tches
and an xbox / ps2 or both
i guarantee you will make friends quickly
become " the man " who can get what people need
obviously stay out of the drug game
greet everyone you see
SMILE
do some crazy $hit with your DOOR
like a poster of some hot chicks bending over a car
probably some spray paint like a hip hop piece
make it look like the door to your room is really a portal to another dimension
get people WANTING TO MEET YOU
who is this wild party animal / pimp ?
why is he always so happy ?
what drugs is he on and can he score some for me ? ( joking
)BUY dvd VAN WILDER
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B000069CF0/002-0240561-8696823?v=glance
watch said DVD 24/7 until memorised
then you become VAN WILDER
problem solved
Lost In Translation
DONT LET YOUR D*CK RUN YOUR LIFE
thefonz
Master Don Juan
Nice attitude, carry that over to your next college and see how far you get there........This is all in your head man, get out there and meet different people. Stop focusing on your failures cus thats like chewing gum in an attempt to solve algebra. There are THOUSANDS of cliches in every college you go to but if you don't put yourself out there your gonna spend too much time alone
the biggest, roughest, most muscled guy I ever met gave me this advice in the gym once and I'll never forget it as long as I live. Remember this when you worry about being rejected, "Real men take $hit." It's so true....learn how to take $hit, people with respect you.
the biggest, roughest, most muscled guy I ever met gave me this advice in the gym once and I'll never forget it as long as I live. Remember this when you worry about being rejected, "Real men take $hit." It's so true....learn how to take $hit, people with respect you.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
Go to the campus gym, join some club (like college republicans or something), play a sport, go running, get a job.
i appreciate all of your responses and attempts to help me wholeheartedly. i'm never usually this little whiney of a biatch when i got out with my friends, i know this will not make them want to hang out with me. it's just not comprehensible, perhaps i had too high of expectations coming into this year. i actually layed on my bed and cried like a little fuking girl about this. fuk it. the whole feeling bad for myself thing is gone, its out of my system now. i appreciate everyone's patience in this matter.
now i'm ready to tackle the situation, it only wins if i stop trying. i do still need more help,but not the whiney little $hitbrick help i needed before. i know i can get thru this, please be patient and share your experience
what are some things i could suggest for a new friend to do with me, w/o sounding gay?
-like i meet a guy and we talk for a little and he seems cool, but i dont know of any parties or anything like that goin on, but i wanna do somethin so i dont sit around like assclown. but i am skinny whitekid, so i dont want him to get the feelin i'm like hitting on him or something. i know like go eat, gym, etc..anything else? what do u and your college buds usually do for fun?
how do you guys feel about mixing friends?
-like i have 2 guys i usually work out with and hang out with frequently. they are pretty much my bread and butter friends ya know. i know this one kid and some of his friends that i hang out with occassionally,but i never mix the 2 groups together, and i'm unsure on how to approach the situation. also, say i meet some people who who of the party scene and whatnot..do i take my main friends or jst go myself and try to break into a new circle all togther? any help in this area?
any other broad suggestions or anything that i'm missing would be greatly appreciated. i apologize for my *****y rants and crazy ravings of earlier..i'm ready to be a man and conquer this ant hill, please help me out.
now i'm ready to tackle the situation, it only wins if i stop trying. i do still need more help,but not the whiney little $hitbrick help i needed before. i know i can get thru this, please be patient and share your experience
what are some things i could suggest for a new friend to do with me, w/o sounding gay?
-like i meet a guy and we talk for a little and he seems cool, but i dont know of any parties or anything like that goin on, but i wanna do somethin so i dont sit around like assclown. but i am skinny whitekid, so i dont want him to get the feelin i'm like hitting on him or something. i know like go eat, gym, etc..anything else? what do u and your college buds usually do for fun?
how do you guys feel about mixing friends?
-like i have 2 guys i usually work out with and hang out with frequently. they are pretty much my bread and butter friends ya know. i know this one kid and some of his friends that i hang out with occassionally,but i never mix the 2 groups together, and i'm unsure on how to approach the situation. also, say i meet some people who who of the party scene and whatnot..do i take my main friends or jst go myself and try to break into a new circle all togther? any help in this area?
any other broad suggestions or anything that i'm missing would be greatly appreciated. i apologize for my *****y rants and crazy ravings of earlier..i'm ready to be a man and conquer this ant hill, please help me out.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
man, just chill out, college is supposed to be fun, hang out, go to parties, chill with the guys, pick up chicks, whatever. JUST HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
all you gotta do, is cold appraoch dudes, maintain eye contact and have a firm handshake, when a dude passes you by, say excuse smile at him go closer and ask for his number or any parties avialable use kino and c and f and mavec too :crackup:
seriously though all you gotta do is say wats up dude espcially in a dorm just say look i gotta platstation you dudes wana play nba live, i mean it aint that hard, im an introvert and i still have atleast 5 friends . and many other dudes i hang out with, though they are not close friends.
seriously though all you gotta do is say wats up dude espcially in a dorm just say look i gotta platstation you dudes wana play nba live, i mean it aint that hard, im an introvert and i still have atleast 5 friends . and many other dudes i hang out with, though they are not close friends.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Dude, getting friends in College is simple as sh!t.
Like when you are talking to a dude, just say : "Hey man, what are you doing tonight? You wanna go out and grab a beer?" or "Hey dude, I was just gonna go out and get trashed tonight, you wanna come?".
It's simple as fvck.
Like when you are talking to a dude, just say : "Hey man, what are you doing tonight? You wanna go out and grab a beer?" or "Hey dude, I was just gonna go out and get trashed tonight, you wanna come?".
It's simple as fvck.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
I always thought the goal of college was to get an education, not primarly to make friends.
Dropping out because of that is just ****ed up.
Dropping out because of that is just ****ed up.
i think i got the situation under control..the biggest thing i have a problem with now is mixing friends. like, if my one friend is cool, but doesnt get along with my others..what do i do? how do i pick who to hang out with? i tried trying to get everyone to hang out as one, but it was ridiculously awkward and not fun, i've never really had this happen before so i dont know how to approach it..what do u guys suggest?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
i've been here about a week now and i have about 4 friends
And you are upset about this? Keep in mind there are still many kids with no friends. There are about 16-18 weeks in a semester. You are on pace to have 60-70 friends before Christmas if you work at it. Personally, like women, with friends I would rather have quality than quantity.
And you are upset about this? Keep in mind there are still many kids with no friends. There are about 16-18 weeks in a semester. You are on pace to have 60-70 friends before Christmas if you work at it. Personally, like women, with friends I would rather have quality than quantity.
FreeStyleZ
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I made friends my freshman year by just being extremely upbeat, seeming very social and it semed like people just always invited me to hang out. I constantly had people saying to me "yeah man we're having people over later on tonight to drink and ****, swing by room XXX if you want". Just start convesrations with people and be yourself.. ask people what they're getting into that night and if they know of any parties. When you meet people through people its alot easier... tell them your name and make sure to remember theirs. Do you have a pool room? Go shoot some pool... u'll meet people. Another way i made alot of my friends was through poker.... theres nothing ackward about inviting new people over to play poker since at college its like a universal game and people always want more players anyway. I remember how i met 4 guys who became main friends in our social clique to this day. I was walking down the hall after one of our friends refused to play and bring down his chips, i saw these 3 guys walking and they had chips in their hands and I said "holy ****, u guys play poker? do u guys wanna play with us, we got a game going on in a little bit but we dont have any nice chips". They played with us all the time and just by sitting aroudn playing poker with guys you get to know them better.... its a pretty social thing to do and its not ackward at all.
Jvesti
Master Don Juan
READ "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
After that you should be set.
Become interested in people and they will become interest in you.
Friends are made by similarities. That means those who share the passions and loves you do will be friends. Join groups, frats, become involved in the community
After that you should be set.
Become interested in people and they will become interest in you.
Friends are made by similarities. That means those who share the passions and loves you do will be friends. Join groups, frats, become involved in the community
