Roommate Problems

[dj72]

Hi guys, I've been lurking on these forums for some time and thought I should finally make an account and contribute. However I'm in a current dilemma.

I have a very attractive international student roommate, who I started roommating with 3 weeks ago. I met her through poker. She is on a student visa to study abroad here. We were both looking for a place to stay, so we agreed to stay with each other. So, I sleep on the same bed as her in a relatively cheap apartment complex. I've had sex with her twice very early on in these three weeks, and she has rejected all of my sexual advances after with different excuses. (I'm on my period, I'm too tired, I don't feel like it.) I have cuddled with her a few nights though after she rejected my advances. I sleep with her every night in the same bed if she comes home. I have been pretty nice and respectful to her, although I have not bought her anything or done anything for her unless I felt like doing it.

Problems:
- We have only one room key, which we share with each other. The person that comes home first for the day usually gets the key. That person is usually me. I'm usually at home sleeping when she comes back from her nightly adventures, so I have to wake up and let her up to the apartment.
- She LOVES attention. Regularly posts photos of herself on facebook, and spends hours every day doing makeup/making herself look pretty.
- She has little to no female friends. In fact, I have never seen her with a female. Only guy friends. She loves to drink, smoke, gamble and play poker.
- She stays out all night at the casino nearly every single night drinking, smoking, gambling and playing poker with her guy friends. She is always with 2 or more guy friends. She comes home at anytime between 1am to 11am, and she calls me (waking me up) to let her up into the apartment.
- She has disrespected me a few times.
a) Against my wishes, she has let a few of her guy friends up into the apartment.
b) She deliberately flirts with other guys, puts her arm around other guys knowing I'm watching. I don't really care about this since we're not dating, but I feel she is trying to make me jealous.
c) Calls me "Mum" because she thinks I'm too bossy. I think I'm just trying to help her be reasonable. Example, I tell her you shouldn't be out so late when you have uni the next day. She says you sound just like my Mum. In fact, her phone entry of me is "MUM".
d) Has not come home at all on two different occasions. Did not bother to tell me why. Right now as I'm typing this, it is 11AM and she has not come home yet.
e) Later found out she slept at the same hotel room as one of my guy friends hotel at the casino. This was one of the nights mentioned in d). There were 3 people sleeping in that room, 2 guys and her. One of those guys is a VERY good friend of mine, who I would trust with my life. He says she did not **** anyone. They are all poker players.

Question 1:
What is the most appropriate course of action I can take to best fix this situation? Any non-troll suggestion will be helpful.

Question 2:
What is the best way to keep having sex with her? To my knowledge she is not ****ing any other guy besides me.

TLDR; version:
Living with international student roommate. Started off very well, ****ed her twice in the first week. Have not ****ed her since, and MANY problems have arised.

 

[pdx1138]

give her the boot, or you need to move out.

 

[Tiguere]

buy another bed for you

make a copy of the.key for you.

start charging her 50% of rent.

stop being a pvssy and get other girls. you seem to be pvssywhipped .

 

[dj72]

@Tiguere
It is a shared place with 2 other students. There are 3 rooms, we are both in 1. There is only 1 bed, as it is a relatively small room.
She pays 50% of the rent.

 

[pdx1138]

Like I said leave or tell her to find another place.

She doesn't respect you.

 

[3countriesPlan]

you dont need a girl like this... as the years have gone on Ive learned to make the hard decision and just cut people that negatively influence my life out of my life

 

[Atom Smasher]

Stop degrading yourself. Find other living arrangements. Be a man with standards. Right now you're an unwanted puppy dog. Some tough love from Smasher.

 

[dj72]

thanks for the responses guys.

UPDATE:
She called me at 2:30pm today to tell me to meet her at apartment for keys. Met her at 3:00pm. Gave her keys. She said she will make a copy of them. I go out, and come home at 7:00pm. She has a copy made.

She has not slept for almost 2 days. I ask her to go to sleep, she agrees. Her male friend Y calls her up, asks her to hang out. She (X) spends a lot of time with Y and his friends. She immediately wakes up and agrees to go out, despite being sleep deprived. Ignores my request to sleep. At this point I am thinking **** this *****, I don't give a **** about her anymore.

What should I do next? Just ignore her? Refuse to cuddle with her when sleeping? Ignore her every request? Kick her out?
Thanks guys.

 

[hansol]

Dude, no wonder she calls you "Mum"... You're the roommate, you don't get to "request" anything other han (1) Don't eat my food and (2) Flush the toilet. Anything other than that nothing else is your business. Chill out and stop smothering the crap out of her. Who cares how much she does or doesn't sleep, it's not your problem. And yes, cut that cuddling crap out. It'll **** with your head, especially if you two aren't banging.

This of course doesn't even come close to addressing the real elephant in the room however: never sh*t where you eat. It's always trouble.

 

[TheWolfMan]

Yeah, agree with hansol you should really give a F@ck other than dont eat my food and flush the toilet. You guys are both adults and you can do what you want, that being said just ignore the B!tch and game other girls. See how she reacts to that. Although they might be turned off by the fact you are living with a female, same bed same room. Not really an ideal living situation is it?

 

[GotED?]

This was a FOOKED up set up from the beginning - why would you want a b!tch to sleep in your own bed every night?

You must had really wanted more than what she wanted in the beginning but now you have no grip to your initial claims and she lost attraction to you totally.

Turn a new page and NEXT her.

Hot women and low self-esteemd man are a HORRIBLE combination, you will get your arse raped emotionally if you don't get the fook out.

Exodus

 

[dj72]

Update:
She came home this morning at 9am. She woke me up with a hug and a kiss on the neck. She lies next to me asks me why I'm angry with her. I said I'm not, and that I am only angry if you disrespect me. She says she is sorry. (I have been ignoring her for these past few days, only talking to her when she initiates convos). Woke up, got dressed and said goodbye to her. Made out with her for a full minute.

I also found out the best friend I mentioned above likes her. He has been out with her most days, drinking, partying and the like. He is usually accompanied by another guy. So he is almost never alone with her. He initiates texts with her every morning (she shows me), and he comments and likes almost every one of her fb pictures/statuses. What do I do?

 

[GotED?]

She doesn't want to lose her cheap low-cost living boarding with your financial assistance.

Open your eyes - you been used, and keep on being used.

A few kisses and hugs is all that she needs to prove that she is another reformed self-entitled 21st century b!tch that manipulates through the use of men.

Exodus

 

[Atom Smasher]

She doesn't want to lose her cheap low-cost living boarding with your financial assistance.

Open your eyes - you been used, and keep on being used.

A few kisses and hugs is all that she needs to prove that she is another reformed self-entitled 21st century b!tch that manipulates through the use of men.

Exodus

I agree with Exodus. But you are in a position where you will need to learn the hard way. Thankfully, our advice here will serve to hasten the process and ease the pain once the hammer falls.

You seem to have difficulty seeing how blatantly you are being used right now and this is understandable. After all, how could a woman who is showing you occasional affection be using you? We have all been there in one way or another.

I hold in my hand two pills...

 

[GotED?]

I agree with Exodus. But you are in a position where you will need to learn the hard way. Thankfully, our advice here will serve to hasten the process and ease the pain once the hammer falls.

You seem to have difficulty seeing how blatantly you are being used right now and this is understandable. After all, how could a woman who is showing you occasional affection be using you? We have all been there in one way or another.

I hold in my hand two pills...

Trust me, OP - listen to us and don't get raped by Ass Smasher if you don't comply, or worse yet; come to hate women so much one day that you become one!!

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

Sorry, I had to recall and remind everyone of A-S's finest posting recently that turned me into a homophobic modern male.

Exodus

 

[GotED?]

Give us an update, OP - are you now sharing your bed with 2 girls now instead of 1?? Come-on, don't be shy.....

 

[Mike32ct]

Chick with highlighted hair - 4 on AW Meter

Front desk girl at gym - 10 on AW Meter (max reading)

Your female roommate - Broke the needle/pointer at 2000 on AW Meter.

 

[Kbomb]

God I want to bi^ch slap the OP. You do not f^cking listen. Stop acting like you aren't reading any of the suggestions and grow a pair. It's one thing to be ignorant from lack of knowledge and another completely, from willing stupidity. You are a poor excuse for a human being. Understand this point first then move and improve.

 

[GotED?]

Chick with highlighted hair - 4 on AW Meter

Front desk girl at gym - 10 on AW Meter (max reading)

Your female roommate - Broke the needle/pointer at 2000 on AW Meter.

Wal-mart check-out cashier girl: -99999999999999999 on AW meter :cheer:

 

[Alvafe]

its oneitis,he will have to take a harder blow than that, maybe when she open her legs to his friend he will wake up or to both, sicne the guy is never alone with her