I don't understand how to take this post. Im young (16) and have this sense of "romantic love" that you attribute to AFC and young men. Are you saying Pook that this feeling of love doesn't exist? I'm not sure i can cope with that. Sometimes I convince myself that im in love with my girlfriend, just because I feel the need for this feeling.
I agree with what you say about escaping from reality through this fatuation, and the inevitable disaster that occurs once this bubble has been popped. My good friend got dumped by his girlfiend after a year together last week. I've read some their messages to each other when they were together and the general trend was him saying: I can't believe how deeply ive fallen in love with you!, and her agreeing with what he says. He tried to hang himself with a computer cord a few days ago. It seems to me he would have been better off never falling in love in the first place.
But how do we let go of this desire or "romantic love"? Is this something I will grow out of? Or must I learn now to forget these crazy notions? I don't want to end up like my friend
What Pook said is that there are LAWS OF NATURE that govern all around us. So it is better for you to hear the VOICE OF NATURE, instead of the fairy tales from our childhood. Girls will seek for strong MAN. So, if you keep being like a boy, a kid, a NICE GUY, you'll probably face the same destiny as your friend.
Say the truth: is it love you are feeling? Or it is just your animal instinct for having sex with that one girl?
We were taught to be a NICE GUY. But we also know what happens to a Nice Guy when he faces a Hot Girl, a Woman. We all know about the crashes and buns. This means that is something really WRONG with the things that was taught to us since childhood. The only way to go, it's to understand that woman only respect a MAN, and you should develop the qualities of a man to have sucess.
Being a man is a process. You will build yourself day by day. Learn here. Learn there. Put some good new thing in practice. Take off bad habits, put new ones in its places. Focus on build yourself the best man you can. Woman will come as a side effect. Believe me, cos its not my advise to you. Its nature`s rules and no man can change or deny it.