A rethink of something I posted a few days back:
Think how you are with your buds. Then think how you are at a family dinner. Big difference, right? Almost not recognisable as the same person?
A clue: people have behavior modes that define how they're going to act in a situation, what they feel they can and can't do, and what they feel comfortable with. They switch modes according to what other people are doing and saying around them.
Let's apply this to macking. Chicks have two modes here. One is romance mode. The other is seduction mode.
In terms of chick behavior and chick mindset, romance mode and seduction mode are completely different. And they are *not related*.
Normally guys are taught all about romance mode. We know how that works. Key points:
It gives the chick the power. The guy is a suitor which means she is the focus of attention, and it's his job to impress her with gifts, wit, humor, and all of that. Everything that happens in romance mode is there to tell the chick that he wants her, and that she is important to him, and then *finally* when he's supplicated enough and proved his worthiness, he finally asks or hints or something if maybe she'd mind bending over and letting him have some now that he's done all that hard work.
It's not hard to see why this works so badly. A guy going down the romance mode route is a few points down before he even starts. More than that *the chick will be in a different frame of mind towards him.* She'll be assessing him critically, and if he fails in any way, he's out. She will be doing everything she can to 'next' him.
This is very bad.
But what about seduction mode...? Ah - now there's a sweet secret that many guys never discover. In seduction mode the focus isn't on the woman at all. It's not about impressing her. It's about sex - straight and simple.
AFCs always use romance mode to approach a chick, and they get the results they get.
DJs always use seduction mode. The difference? It's much quicker. The DJ does what he does, and the chick either gets wet and interested or she doesn't. No wasting time and money on dinner and flowers and dates and long convo about her shopping trips.
How is seduction mode done? You can trigger a seduction mode response by:
Showing enough sexual confidence. Sometimes 'Hi, I thought I'd come over to see if you wanted to fvck' can be all it takes. Really and truly - this can work much better than AFCs ever suspect, if you say it in a low, purry voice, with a ****y grin and a righteously confident attitude. If you don't want to be *that* brash about it, just drop into the convo in the first five minutes, then pretend it's a joke.
Making it clear what you want right away with steady confident eye-contact. You are the hunter. She is the prey. You are high status. She is nothing... She is so nothing that you *do not care* what her response to this is.
Steering the conversation towards sexy topics, in that familiar old SS way.
Innuendo and flirting. Endless opportunities here, if you're smart enough to pick up on them.
*Keep it light.* Don't drool. That's a turn off. Make it clear you're playing a game and laughing, not acting like a psycho.
Not treating her like a 'lady'. Be crude, but not rude with her. Puncture that 'I'm so soft and delicate' defense by showing her you know she's not, so she can stop pretending now because you know what she's *really* like.
*Not caring about her response.* This is one of the fundamentals. It's not just a mindset. It works its magic by proving that you're a high status male - if you don't care what she says you must be getting enough puzzy elsewhere. And if you are, she wants you, because (the implication is) all those other chicks do too. (This is how women think. It makes no sense, but it's the way it is.)
Using seduction mode on another chick in front of her. (Man oh man - this one is a killer. She won't believe her eyes and ears. It's kind of high risk, as she may decide it's too much and she can't compete. But if she stays, you could have a threesome on your hands.)
Now, here's the kicker. Seduction mode crushes romance mode every time for two reasons.
One, it gets you where you want to be much quicker. If you get no interest, you can move on without wasting your time.
We all know that romance mode will get you a lot of rejections. But even if you get the same number of rejections percentagewise, you'll still be better off working on your seduction mode skills because it's less time and effort for you.
Think about that means for your game. Romance mode means days, sometimes weeks of 'dates' before you get a rejection. Seduction mode means minutes, or days if you're being slow and lazy. Result? Way less wasted time. Way more opportunities.
But the second reason is that seduction mode simply *works better in itself.* Your target will be in a different frame of mind during your approach. She will be getting interesting tingly sensations down below the panty line, and she'll be wanting to do something about them. She *won't* be thinking of reasons to next you like all those other losers. In fact she'll turn into someone she may not even know all that well. ('I can't believe I'm doing this!')
But you may be wondering - won't seduction mode get the skanky chicks, and not the 'nice' ones?
No! Once you grow the nads you need for it, you'll be amazed just how much some 'nice' chicks respond to it. Really - you will not be able to believe, from your AFC days, that women could ever be like this.
And there's more... If you feel that maybe your prey is potential LTR material, you can strike up a deeper convo once she's lying there with a sweaty happy look on her face.
So another advantage - you'll get less BS and lies from a chick in that state than when she has the bytch filter up. More honesty - something that guys really need from chicks, but which is so rare it's like gold dust.
Still reading? Shouldn't you be out practicing this round about now? (Like me - heading out...)
Think how you are with your buds. Then think how you are at a family dinner. Big difference, right? Almost not recognisable as the same person?
A clue: people have behavior modes that define how they're going to act in a situation, what they feel they can and can't do, and what they feel comfortable with. They switch modes according to what other people are doing and saying around them.
Let's apply this to macking. Chicks have two modes here. One is romance mode. The other is seduction mode.
In terms of chick behavior and chick mindset, romance mode and seduction mode are completely different. And they are *not related*.
Normally guys are taught all about romance mode. We know how that works. Key points:
It gives the chick the power. The guy is a suitor which means she is the focus of attention, and it's his job to impress her with gifts, wit, humor, and all of that. Everything that happens in romance mode is there to tell the chick that he wants her, and that she is important to him, and then *finally* when he's supplicated enough and proved his worthiness, he finally asks or hints or something if maybe she'd mind bending over and letting him have some now that he's done all that hard work.
It's not hard to see why this works so badly. A guy going down the romance mode route is a few points down before he even starts. More than that *the chick will be in a different frame of mind towards him.* She'll be assessing him critically, and if he fails in any way, he's out. She will be doing everything she can to 'next' him.
This is very bad.
But what about seduction mode...? Ah - now there's a sweet secret that many guys never discover. In seduction mode the focus isn't on the woman at all. It's not about impressing her. It's about sex - straight and simple.
AFCs always use romance mode to approach a chick, and they get the results they get.
DJs always use seduction mode. The difference? It's much quicker. The DJ does what he does, and the chick either gets wet and interested or she doesn't. No wasting time and money on dinner and flowers and dates and long convo about her shopping trips.
How is seduction mode done? You can trigger a seduction mode response by:
Showing enough sexual confidence. Sometimes 'Hi, I thought I'd come over to see if you wanted to fvck' can be all it takes. Really and truly - this can work much better than AFCs ever suspect, if you say it in a low, purry voice, with a ****y grin and a righteously confident attitude. If you don't want to be *that* brash about it, just drop into the convo in the first five minutes, then pretend it's a joke.
Making it clear what you want right away with steady confident eye-contact. You are the hunter. She is the prey. You are high status. She is nothing... She is so nothing that you *do not care* what her response to this is.
Steering the conversation towards sexy topics, in that familiar old SS way.
Innuendo and flirting. Endless opportunities here, if you're smart enough to pick up on them.
*Keep it light.* Don't drool. That's a turn off. Make it clear you're playing a game and laughing, not acting like a psycho.
Not treating her like a 'lady'. Be crude, but not rude with her. Puncture that 'I'm so soft and delicate' defense by showing her you know she's not, so she can stop pretending now because you know what she's *really* like.
*Not caring about her response.* This is one of the fundamentals. It's not just a mindset. It works its magic by proving that you're a high status male - if you don't care what she says you must be getting enough puzzy elsewhere. And if you are, she wants you, because (the implication is) all those other chicks do too. (This is how women think. It makes no sense, but it's the way it is.)
Using seduction mode on another chick in front of her. (Man oh man - this one is a killer. She won't believe her eyes and ears. It's kind of high risk, as she may decide it's too much and she can't compete. But if she stays, you could have a threesome on your hands.)
Now, here's the kicker. Seduction mode crushes romance mode every time for two reasons.
One, it gets you where you want to be much quicker. If you get no interest, you can move on without wasting your time.
We all know that romance mode will get you a lot of rejections. But even if you get the same number of rejections percentagewise, you'll still be better off working on your seduction mode skills because it's less time and effort for you.
Think about that means for your game. Romance mode means days, sometimes weeks of 'dates' before you get a rejection. Seduction mode means minutes, or days if you're being slow and lazy. Result? Way less wasted time. Way more opportunities.
But the second reason is that seduction mode simply *works better in itself.* Your target will be in a different frame of mind during your approach. She will be getting interesting tingly sensations down below the panty line, and she'll be wanting to do something about them. She *won't* be thinking of reasons to next you like all those other losers. In fact she'll turn into someone she may not even know all that well. ('I can't believe I'm doing this!')
But you may be wondering - won't seduction mode get the skanky chicks, and not the 'nice' ones?
No! Once you grow the nads you need for it, you'll be amazed just how much some 'nice' chicks respond to it. Really - you will not be able to believe, from your AFC days, that women could ever be like this.
And there's more... If you feel that maybe your prey is potential LTR material, you can strike up a deeper convo once she's lying there with a sweaty happy look on her face.
So another advantage - you'll get less BS and lies from a chick in that state than when she has the bytch filter up. More honesty - something that guys really need from chicks, but which is so rare it's like gold dust.
Still reading? Shouldn't you be out practicing this round about now? (Like me - heading out...)
