Below is what happened yesterday. I posted this on another forum and i'm hoping you guys can give me some better advice. I'm going over to my girls house in half an hour to talk about thing's. Any advice on how to handle it would be great.
I hope you guys can help. I have just had a long conversation with my girlfriend and right now I feel like total ****.
We have been together for 6 months. When I first met her I instantly wanted to be with her. She is beautiful, outgoing and lives a healthy lifestyle. She is everything I look for in a woman and I could see myself being with her for the rest of my life.
The last month has been a little rocky, mainly my fault. She is unlike anyone I have ever dated and she has a very strong personality. She is very upfront and crazy and I love that about her. She loves going out and having a good time and I do too but I think she probably likes it more than me.
Anyway, the last few times we have been out I have done some silly things and it's either ended in a bit of a fight or we have left early because I wasn't enjoying myself. I understand she was upset that I cut her night short and that's fine. I could certainly improve in that area and plan to do so. She went away for the weekend to basically party with friends. When she got back I rang her to see how it was. I asked if she had missed me and basically she said no because she was having too much fun. That's fair enough I guess but I suppose I was a bit shocked considering she messages me all the time saying she misses me.
The conversation quickly turned sour when she told me she wasn't happy and hadn't been for the last month. I asked what she wasn't happy about and she told me it was the fact she thinks we don't go out and have fun enough and that we don't interact well together. She is crazy and fun with her friends but with me she is more reserved. I think that's why she feels like we don't interact well.
I told her i'm willing to work on any issue she has but she said she doesn't want me to change because then I would be fake and it wouldn't be fair on me. She also said that she doesn't feel that we should have to work so hard on a relationship and if we were meant to be together things would just click. Basically she said she doesn't love me like she used to although she still cares about me. She also said the spark is gone.
The conversation went on like this for a while and she ended it by saying that I was safe for now but she wasn't sure if we would last much longer.
I was strong during the conversation but now that it's over i'm just numb. This is a total shock to me and I don't know what to think. I'm hoping you guys can give me some advice on what to do. I really love this girl and don't want to lose her. At the same time I don't want to have to change myself or her (she wouldn't change for me anyway) to make it work.
I hope you guys can help. I have just had a long conversation with my girlfriend and right now I feel like total ****.
We have been together for 6 months. When I first met her I instantly wanted to be with her. She is beautiful, outgoing and lives a healthy lifestyle. She is everything I look for in a woman and I could see myself being with her for the rest of my life.
The last month has been a little rocky, mainly my fault. She is unlike anyone I have ever dated and she has a very strong personality. She is very upfront and crazy and I love that about her. She loves going out and having a good time and I do too but I think she probably likes it more than me.
Anyway, the last few times we have been out I have done some silly things and it's either ended in a bit of a fight or we have left early because I wasn't enjoying myself. I understand she was upset that I cut her night short and that's fine. I could certainly improve in that area and plan to do so. She went away for the weekend to basically party with friends. When she got back I rang her to see how it was. I asked if she had missed me and basically she said no because she was having too much fun. That's fair enough I guess but I suppose I was a bit shocked considering she messages me all the time saying she misses me.
The conversation quickly turned sour when she told me she wasn't happy and hadn't been for the last month. I asked what she wasn't happy about and she told me it was the fact she thinks we don't go out and have fun enough and that we don't interact well together. She is crazy and fun with her friends but with me she is more reserved. I think that's why she feels like we don't interact well.
I told her i'm willing to work on any issue she has but she said she doesn't want me to change because then I would be fake and it wouldn't be fair on me. She also said that she doesn't feel that we should have to work so hard on a relationship and if we were meant to be together things would just click. Basically she said she doesn't love me like she used to although she still cares about me. She also said the spark is gone.
The conversation went on like this for a while and she ended it by saying that I was safe for now but she wasn't sure if we would last much longer.
I was strong during the conversation but now that it's over i'm just numb. This is a total shock to me and I don't know what to think. I'm hoping you guys can give me some advice on what to do. I really love this girl and don't want to lose her. At the same time I don't want to have to change myself or her (she wouldn't change for me anyway) to make it work.
